What does it mean to be"treated like a lady"?

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  1. sculptor Valued Senior Member

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    What does it mean to be"treated like a lady"?

    What does it mean to treat someone like a lady?

    What actions are involved?
     
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  3. Beer w/Straw Transcendental Ignorance! Valued Senior Member

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    Culture, or go fuck yourself.
     
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  5. cluelusshusbund + Public Dilemma + Valued Senior Member

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    On my recent visit wit kinfolk it was me an 7 females... we all treeted each other respectfully an had a grate time... is that an example of what you mean.???
     
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  7. sculptor Valued Senior Member

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    Respect....yeh for all creatures(humans included).
    More specifically:

    What does it mean to be"treated like a lady"?

    What does it mean to treat someone like a lady?

    What actions are involved?
     
  8. Beer w/Straw Transcendental Ignorance! Valued Senior Member

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    • Please avoid personal attacks on other members.
    Rape 12 year old girls. Sex slaves.

    Go fuck yourself.


    I don;t believe you are genuinely looking for an answer.
     
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  9. billvon Valued Senior Member

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    An archaic term; now means treating a woman with respect. Similar to "treat someone like a gentleman."
     
  10. Dr_Toad It's green! Valued Senior Member

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    Beer, be nice. I don't think he meant anything demeaning.

    Billvon nailed it, but it's not quite yet archaic. SJWs are trying to "correct" that, though...
     
  11. Beer w/Straw Transcendental Ignorance! Valued Senior Member

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    Let's wait for the underlying....
     
  12. sweetpea Registered Senior Member

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    Probably nothing to do with the OP, but it's the first thing I thought of when reading the OP.
     
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  13. sculptor Valued Senior Member

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    Jeez Bw/S
    Are you completely fucking insane? Or just feeling grumpy?(real grumpy, and HOSTILE?)

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    Cultural mores change
    There were my mother's teachings about how she expected to be treated from well over 1/2 a century ago, and then, there is now.
    For awhile during the late 70s, some women were offended by the actions inculcated in my behaviours from those teachings.
    Recently, I've met several women who actually like being called "babe" (a seeming no-no during the late 70s)
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    I ain't completely confused yet, but I am working on it.
     
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  14. sideshowbob Sorry, wrong number. Valued Senior Member

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    It used to mean, "treat a woman like a fragile ornament," - and that was meant in a good way.

    Now that women are perceived as equals, the meaning has changed to, "treat a woman with respect."

    If you're going to treat a person with respect, calling her a "lady" is redundant.
     
  15. Beer w/Straw Transcendental Ignorance! Valued Senior Member

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    Late 70's? Perhaps you should grow up.
     
  16. sweetpea Registered Senior Member

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    Is there a connection here with the Titanic (1912). What would they say now if a liner goes down?

    1912...''Women and children first''. Now...?'' Children first then men and ladies''?
     
  17. Fraggle Rocker Staff Member

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    In the old days (I was born in 1943), a "lady" was a woman who:
    • Did not go to bars or taverns (although if she drank at home it was okay)
    • Did not go out in public obviously drunk (a little tipsy might be okay so long as she could walk a straight line and speak coherently)
    • Did not allow strange men (that means men who were strangers, not men with green skin and three legs) to touch her, walk or stand too closely, or to speak rudely
    • Did not walk alone at night
    • Did not accept gifts from strangers
    • Was kind and attentive to her family (husband, children, parents, whoever were living together)
    • Deferred to her male superiors and colleagues if she had a job outside the home
    • Did not speak rudely, except at home to family members, so long as they deserved it
    • And of course did not have a child out of wedlock (a hasty marriage could fix that)
    So to "treat a woman like a lady" meant to assume that she was a lady, as defined by the above traits.

    Of course things have changed a lot in the past 73 years. Today, the essence of "treating a woman like a lady" simply means to treat her the way you would want another man to treat your wife, your mother, your sister or your daughter.

    If you're kind, generous and honest to everyone, and do your best to ignore their faults, you probably already treat all women like ladies.

    In other words, today there isn't really much of a difference between the proper way to treat a woman and the proper way to treat a man.
     
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  18. iceaura Valued Senior Member

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    A polite and temporary deference to the preconceptions of a worldview alien and damaging to oneself, for the sake of alignment with a larger and contingently more important social context.

    The specific actions depend upon the context.
     
  19. billvon Valued Senior Member

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    Personally I'd do children and parents first and everyone else next, but that's just me.
     
  20. Beer w/Straw Transcendental Ignorance! Valued Senior Member

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    Maybe he's an old man that jerkts off to the thought of female submissiveness.
     
  21. cluelusshusbund + Public Dilemma + Valued Senior Member

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    To the one::: Treated wit respect.!!!
    To the other::: Treat 'em wit respect.!!!
    To the other one::: Respect.!!!

    Whats you'r answr to you'r questons.???
     
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  22. James R Just this guy, you know? Staff Member

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    Short answer: it means being treated with respect and good manners.

    Note also that "Lady" is a title - as in "Lord Windermere and Lady Windermere". So, treating somebody like a lady could be taken to mean treating somebody like a female member of the aristocracy. Implied is good manners, and a certain degree of deference. The expectation is that most Ladies are in a position to advance or damage the average joe's social and/or financial prospects, so it's a good idea to keep oneself in a Lady's good books. That's quite apart from the moral imperative to try to be a decent human being to your fellow human beings.
     
  23. James R Just this guy, you know? Staff Member

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    P.S. Acting "like a lady" has its own set of social expectations. Here are a couple of examples of how not to do it:

    ...

    And before any feminists start complaining, I am not in any way suggesting that only women can or should "act like a lady". Nor am I attempting to impose my male patriarchal view on how women should behave. Women, just like men, are free to behave with appalling bad manners and disrespect of their fellow human beings. I advocate the same standards of decent behaviour for both men and women.
     
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