Yesterday morning, Hannah Baxter was driving her three children down a quiet street in a suburb of Brisbane, presumably taking her eldest, 6 year old daughter, to school. Her other two children were also in the back of her car. An ordinary hot day, people were washing their car, walking, getting ready to go to work.. It was probably a drive she had done since the start of the year. Nothing extraordinary about it. Until yesterday morning when Hannah Baxter's estranged husband got into her car while she was driving her daughter to school, armed with a knife and a can of petrol, and while we can only imagine the horror that may have occurred in that car in those horrific minutes, we only know the horrific end result. Hannah's estranged husband doused them in petrol and then set them alight as she was driving down the road of that quiet suburban street. People who rushed to their aid were threatened by her former rugby player ex husband, who armed with a knife, then proceeded to stab himself as he watched his children burn in the back seat. Hannah managed to make it out of the car while on fire, as nearby residents tried to put out the flames and tried to rescue her children, as she screamed for help to save her children, while suffering horrific burns herself. Hannah died in hospital last night. After having witnessed a horror no person, no mother, should ever have to witness. Hannah's death and that of her children is not the first, nor the last that Australia will see when it comes to domestic violence and murdered families by a father/husband/ex partner.. We are horrified, but no longer shocked. This is a scourge in this country. And what always follows is a particular media narrative. Often, the perpetrator and murderer will be portrayed as desperate, loving father. In this particular instance, the narrative has been equally disturbing: Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! My personal favourite, if one can call it that, truly shows the problem we face when it comes to domestic violence: Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Erasing domestic violence from the entire scenario. This is what we were subjected to for 24 hours.. What is missing from this narrative is the fact that there was a history of domestic violence and Hannah had moved out of their marital home, with the children, because of domestic violence. She was staying with her parents as a result. They were apparently fighting for custody of the children.. What is clearly missing from this narrative is that Hannah's murderous ex husband, did not simply die alongside his children in a "car fire" the way the media are portraying it. He doused them with petrol and then set them on fire as they were strapped in their car seats in the back. Then he actively tried to stop people from helping them and then he stabbed himself as Hannah and those babies burned. And as per usual, men's rights advocates have started to lay blame on Hannah and the court system for having taken his children from him.. Missing the bloody obvious that a man who loves his children would rather gnaw off his own legs with his teeth then set them on fire, regardless of custody or not and that this murderer did not love his children as much as he felt he owned them.. Less than 12 hours after Hannah and her children were murdered, men's rights advocate and general repulsive human being, Bettina Arndt, came out with this tweet: Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Not to be outdone, and in case anyone misinterpreted her intent, Ms Arndt just went out of her way to make sure we all stood corrected.. How the media portray these crimes matters. Romanticising them, making him out to be the loving and doting dad who died alongside them, making him out to be a desperate father who truly loved his family, only reinforces the ideal that wives and children are possessions.. Hannah Baxter and her children were not brutally murdered because they were loved. They were murdered because their murderer believed he owned them.