Reactionary degrees I think you've touched on something fairly important. This is what I don't get about it, though: I understand that some men consider the thought of having a penis in their butt a bit unsettling at least. But think about the visceral reaction. Maybe someone will scream and yelp and slap at the earthworm held in front of them. But no matter how visceral that reaction is, they're not going to go on a decade-long eradication campaign against earthworms and people who don't hate earthworms. Many homophobes try to point out that not everyone likes the idea of having sex that way. And that's fine. Where the whole homophobia argument comes up is when it goes beyond what someone would or would not enjoy. Not wanting to have gay sex does not make one homophobic. Are we all clear on this? Trying to deny that homosexuals are human, or trying to force the law to pretend they don't exist, or trying to force the law to persecute them ... now these things are homophobic. And the question arises: If one finds homosexuality so difficult to think about, why do they spend so much time thinking about it? And the answer had better be something better than, "Because I don't like a homosexual man looking at me the way I look at a woman." If it's creepy, it's creepy. If the fact of a man looking at a woman changes that creepiness, then there's also an issue of misogyny that has to be addressed before the homophobic issue can be resolved.