When sharing living space and financial responsibilities, it is important to divide these respectfully. Every situation is unique, and things like working hours, working schedule, income disparity, personal health and energy, absence or presence of children will all determine who does the domestic duties, some of which (cleaning the bathroom) are less pleasant than others. I just can't get my head around how sharing these things is somehow prostituting oneself or blackmail for BJ's, lol. Raised with chores and responsibilities, I have no problem in prioritizing these and my partner feels my allocation is very reasonable. I pull more than my share of the heavy work since his heart attack three years ago and he volunteers to do additional tasks when his energy levels are optimum. Do set time aside for personal recreation, whether that time is shared or spent in pursuit of one's own interests. Even in close relationships, people need a bit of 'me' time.