In passing, I saw a small portion of the recent John Adams series. There is a scene where John Adams talks to his son, who was in his early twenties at the time, preparing to become a lawyer and romantically involved with a young woman whom he sought to marry. His father, John Adams, instructed him to immediately break off the engagement, focus on his work, and told him "You are too young and too unestablished to be able to afford a romantic relationship." Such advice is unthinkable nowadays, seemingly irrationally restrictive, but I think it makes good sense. I think part of the phenomenon you describe has to do with how romantic relationships between the sexes are evaluated quite differently nowadays than in history. Romantic relationships have been downright deified, presented as the one and only true source of happiness. I think such ideas of romantic love are a part of what drives the lowly behavior of so many women today. Many women desperately want it (note the idea that a woman's wedding day is "the happiest day in her life" - then what about the rest of the marriage?) and will go to extremes to attract a man. (Anthony Storr in "Solitude: A return to the self" makes a quite convicing argument against this deification of romantic love.) You either skipped over or grew out of the usual romantic conditioning. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!