Why is it when some people do small talk it seems unbearable to the point it feels rude, fake and pretentious? I think everyone does small talk but what ive found to be the case is if you dont have chemistry with someone or a group, its very alienating and tedious. But then some people come across more genuine or trustworthy so you dont mind listening. Does it really come down to other aspects you pick up about the people you interact with that is really the issue? Ive talked to people who dont have the exact same interests or background and i felt fine listening to their small talk but some others i cannot stand it, it comes across as obnoxious about it like they dont have any regard or sensitivity they might be boring you to death. Have you ever met people or group who only do small talk to the point it seems they are phoney and shallow? I like to listen to people i can learn something from or they are genuine snd not just speaking obnoxiously to fit in. Oddly, even if someone isnt well educated but they are nice and humble, they are still good company but people who proudly do small talk about themselves like its interesting and that is all the kind of talk they do feels horrible. Its as if their agenda is to feel good to bore you and use you as a sounding board. Its not just individuals, it can be groups of people. Is it really just chemistry? Its like feeling chafed by incessant mindnumbing small talk and totally banal conversation that never has a wave like flow of practical or exceedingly trivial info/talk to 'idea' talk to some degree. There are people who only do small talk and never any ideas or thought/philosophy behind it in any degree whatsoever.