That's my point: I don't really *need* anything. I often feel I'd like a girlfriend (a real relationship, not a temporary sex partner) - but I know from experience that there are things I'm much more likely to be successful at, so I focus on those instead. No you're not. So-called "players" and "sluts" (not meant derogatively - just for lack of better terms) have always been around. They may be louder/draw more attention to themselves, but that doesn't necessarily make them the norm. Not that I really care what the statistics look like.