I really don't mean to make this a discussion on male gender and sexuality. But I can't resist this one.....I don't really blame men for being so 'neanderthal' in their relationships with women. They are real straight men who were never supposed to be in a relationship with women in the first place. They have been forced/ trained/ brainwashed to be in relationship with women, and they can't do it well enough. They can't be considerate, supportive and emotiaonally intimate with women because they are naturally not made to be so. I don't blame their behaviour --- its the heterosexual society which must take the blame. You can identify the real heterosexual male (but it does not mean that he does not have a sexual need for men) by the fact that he will gel with a woman like a fish takes to water. They will live like equals, like they were both of the same sex/ gender, like they are both one, there remains no difference at all. In fact a truly heteroseuxal male will readily subdue (in a positive sense) himself before a woman, and would easily allow her to dominate him. He will enjoy that. Such males are indeed rare.