so all your ideas come from just you? No books, articles, etc? I guess I've done all my ideas. Porn throws a new one in there every now and then.
I agree it's stupid to pay for internet porn. I remember when I was in married student housing in college a guy I knew racked up like $1200 in phone sex charges in one month. We were poor college students and there's no way he could afford that. They ended up getting divorced. Of course his wife was no saint, either. She once asked my wife to go with her to the truck stop to give truckers blow jobs for quick cash. My wife (not yet my wife then) declined. But as far as lying, I'd bet 99% of guys who make such a promise are lying. I knew a guy married to a very religious woman who probably extracted such a promise from him. I was helping clean his garage one day and we came across some the the raunchiest porn hidden away in there that I've ever seen. It was a whole cabinet full of it. The poor guy was, apparently, having to sneak out to the garage! They also ended up divorced. Anyway, you shouldn't have to sneak around. I've told my wife I wouldn't masturbate at all if she'd agree to never turn down sex. She didn't take the deal.
You think it is that high a % huh. So you pretty much think every man out there MUST look at porn? I guess my boyfriend made the decison that being with me, is more important then porn. I am not the most trusting person either. But I beleive 100% that he is respecting my views on the whole thing.
I don't know what kind of relationship you and your wife have. But if I was your wife I would be offended and hurt if I heard you make comments like this one. Quote: Madanthonywayne I think a long term monogamous relationship would be damn near impossible without porn. Let me ask you this. What would you honestly do if your wife said the whole thing really upset her. It was causing arguments in your relationship. Would you just keep doing it but sneak around? would you leave her?
Pretty much, yes. But anyway, I always wanted to ask: What if it is not porn, not even naked women just pretty women in sexy dresses that might reveal a little too much? Would that be OK for you, or your signifficant other can't even look at a glamour magazine? No, seriously, what if a guy masturbates not by looking at porn but by looking at Vanity fair or people magazine? Is that degrading to women???
Do all men want to have sex everyday or night? With work, family and other responsibilites and interests it seems you would be too tired. Is this not true?
Yeah it is true.....Some of these men sound like all they care about is their wife not putting out. I have never been with a man that needs sex everynight :shrug: If he doesn't get it he will explode, or have to jump on the internet to look at porn.
What if a woman is really not in the mood for sex, or it is that time of month. He really has to or he will.... you know DIEPlease Register or Log in to view the hidden image! What if his g/f wife helped him out so he wasn't doing it alone? Then there is no need for porn right?Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I agree. I have to wonder about the woman who would make them make such a promise. I never saw my first husband look at porn, but I never even thought about it. Well, I guess I can see a woman asking for that promise if he was like the college guy you knew MadAnthonyWayne.
My first husband went without sex for about 5 mths when I was pregnant. What kind of wife would i have been to tell him no porn because I didn't approve of it. Its better than him hitting the bars...or truck stops apparently. lol
I think it's absurd for one person to deny their partner the right to "take care" of themselves when they are refused by their partner. If there were no kids involved and my wife or girlfriend refused sex and demanded I not masturbate to make up the difference, you're damned right I'd dump her. To me, it seems selfish to demand that your partner simply suffer should you happen to not be in the mood. Masturbation serves as a harmless relief valve to correct the imbalance in sexual appetites that is often present. As the Baron and I have said, if women always said yes, there would be no need for masturbation.
Sure, but the issue there was him blowing wads of cash he didn't have, not the masturbation per se. Agreed. Why go it alone if she's willing to "help out".
My husband used to work with a guy who one day started to complain that his wife was simply never in the mood anymore. That she had had their first child 3 weeks before was not a consideration this guy was willing to take into account. When he was told that his wife could really not say "yes" due to medical reasons was not something he thought was valid. His complaint, it seems, stemmed from the fact that his wife had simply not been in the mood for 2 months. The guy became offended when his coworkers (mostly male and most with children) laughed at him and called him an insensitive pig.. seeing that the wife had been heavily pregnant and probably was tired and not in the mood and then immediately after the birth, well sex is not even something that would be considered. He was told to shut up and just buy some moisturiser. As far as he was concerned, that little band of gold on their respective fingers meant that she had to say yes whenever he wanted it. We last heard she left him a few years ago. I wonder why...Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! In short, there are times when the woman really cannot say "yes". Reminds me of when I had my second child and was in a twin room with a woman whose husband tried to initiate sex in her hospital bed the day after she had an emergency c-section. She had the obstetrician explain in detail to him why he would not be getting any for at least another 6 weeks. His reply?.. "That's just fucked". Thankfully I was leaving the hospital that day and was going home.Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I never said I didn't want him to masterbate or that it upset me. He can be my guest. I will even help him LOL But I am against the whole porn thing.
This is to Orleander and Bells. How would you feel if your partner said this? Quote: Madanthonywayne I think a long term monogamous relationship would be damn near impossible without porn. I don't think porn should have any bearing on if my relationship will work or not. There are alot more IMPORTANT issues. I really would feel offended and upset. I would feel like I wasn't enough for him and he based too much of our relationship solely on sex.
shorty, you're real. She's not. She really isn't any competition. But then, if my husband went to strip clubs and then came home all hot and bothered wanting to have sex with me, I don't think I'd like it much. I know he came home to me, but...it feels like sloppy seconds.
