As usual some observations are the most simple and obvious yet this should be an indicator of just how important they are to our existence as social animals. I take and wish to explore as an example of the obvious, the process of exchange we almost instinctively go through every time we make what seems to be a superficial and usually well tolerated mistake. "John is walking down the street and for a moment he is distracted. The street is crowded with people and he should have been more observant of where he is going. Because of his distraction he gently bumps into an elderly lady walking in the opposite direction. No serious harm is done and the incident passes with not much more than a casual almost murmured apology by John and a reciprical smile of forgiveness and tolerance by the lady he bumped into." It is the exchange that has occured that I wanted to explore and ask just how essential this is to human society and harmony. I drew a simple schematic to show what I think is the exchange that goes on in such a fast process that it is hardly noticeable. As we all make mistakes invariably this exchange would be extremely important, I tend to feel. <img src=http://f7.yahoofs.com/users/454c9335z2d656019/7a78re2/__sr_/aa0bre2.jpg?phAjcWFB_al1SYuN> If the image fails to show it basically desribed 7 steps to the process. 1. Mistake occurs. 2. Admission or confession that a mistake has occured by the perpetrator. 3. Mutual realisation that a mistake has occured... 4. Apology is expressed by the perpetrator and shared responsibility is often assumed. 5. Acceptance that in fact it was a mistake and not deliberate and agreement is achieved. 6. Forgiveness is expressed by the victim towards the perpetrator 7. Gratitude is expressed by the perpetrator towards the victim with the view to learn from the mistake and not repeat it. <img src=http://f7.yahoofs.com/users/454c9335z2d656019/7a78re2/__sr_/13c4re2.jpg?phoycWFB6hCgO6SP> This image shows the same thing but in conversational terms. The cycle repeats itself at the next occasion that a mistake is realised. It seems to me that this is a rather complicated yet very quick exchange at most times when little mistakes occur. Is there any improvement you could suggest to the diagrams and idea in general? Considering that mistakes are aways occuring how important do you think this very quick exchange is? Care to discuss?
