Is it possible to be asexual?

Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by Coolies!, Sep 10, 2007.

  1. Coolies! Yes! Wait a minute... no Registered Senior Member

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    I don't mean breed with yourself and possibly asexual is not the word I'm looking for, but I mean totally non-sexual. What I mean is like you can't find any1 you find attractive, you don't even like to look at your own genetils, you hate the pressures of society and sexuality.
    I'm just wondering if its even possible.

    I wonder cos I knew this lad in school who had no interset in any1 and looked like he never would. Also I did see on the Telly a prog with a guy on it who had elective castration because he hated sexuality and thought it spoilt relationships. Mayb he had more prob than asexuality so is asexuality really real? if a person was asexual wouldn't they be technicially a biological failure because sex is the point of life i.e to breed
     
  2. draqon Banned Banned

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    ...point of life changes
     
  3. lucifers angel same shit, differant day!! Registered Senior Member

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    this was on the tele just today, and there are people who just have cuddle buddies, two of them are married and never had sex!! and never seen each other naked
     
  4. Avatar smoking revolver Valued Senior Member

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  5. Avatar smoking revolver Valued Senior Member

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    As for me I've not dated or wanted to date anyone since 17 or something.
    I started to date girls long before any of my peers (1st grade) and then outgrew of it, and outright reject any advances.

    Especially after meeting the ultimate woman in a dreamworld vision. She showed me existance outside the categories of life and death, time and body. After meeting and talking with the goddess I can't imagine myself together with a psyche of a mortal.

    Now I seek friendships.
     
  6. spidergoat alien lie form Valued Senior Member

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    Who cares about our inherited biological imperatives? We do all sorts of things counter to biological tradition, such as medical care, birth control, capital punishment...

    I am certain your premise is not only possible but common, especially with autistic people for whom close contact with another person is difficult to handle emotionally.
     
  7. Deathfromabove Hopeless and Useless Registered Senior Member

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    Despite asexuality being less common than hetro/homo/bi sexuality, I think there alot asexual people out there. Some may be in relationships as may feel that they have to conform to certain expection and cultural notions.
     
  8. Ripley Valued Senior Member

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    Asexuals I think have more or less abandoned the idea of doing it with the "right" person—a sort of disillusionment at realizing that no one out there will fit the bill, or that they themselves are lacking somehow as an attraction. So they acquiesce and enter into some sort of secret covenant that declares: I close my eyes on it all; I don't do sex.
     
  9. Xev Registered Senior Member

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    Think of libido on a curve - there are people falling on the graph with high libido, the average people cluster around the middle, and a group at the other end with low libido.
    Considering the hassle of sex, why shouldn't the ones with low libido abandon the pursuit altogether?

    That I understand. But the programs I've seen with asexuals usually say that they didn't just abandon a useless pursuit - they simply never had the urge to begin with. Perhaps they have extremely low libido, but there are so many factors beside libido that drive people to have sex, so asexuality seems a rather profound way to opt-out of society.
     
  10. Ripley Valued Senior Member

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    Oh, you're right about that—I forgot about libido (stupid of me). But is libido only physiological? I mean, we can get into the mood instantly by looking at porn.
     
  11. Xev Registered Senior Member

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    I'm a materialist, so it's all physiological to me. Beyond being a pedant, libido must have some psychological component. Sure, porn might be a generic source of arousal, but if porn motivated me to find other sexual partners, I'd hardly bother with it.

    To that end - is it just me, or is there an inverse relationship between how nice a person is and how often they want to have sex?
     
  12. whitewolf asleep under the juniper bush Registered Senior Member

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    No, it's a direct relationship.
     
  13. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    If you are born hetero and homo, why not asexual? Our sexuality is fluid. Its not set in stone.
    Are asexual people different than frigid people?
     
  14. Xev Registered Senior Member

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    So nice = horny?
    Not in my experience.
    But then there's this disconnect between acting nice and being nice. Either they're sweet (or pretend to be) but don't want a lot of sex or dickish and want a lot of sex. Only one man broke this rule. Ever.

    But I'm less inhibited with men that I don't care about, so maybe this has something to do with the quality of sex.
     
  15. EmptyForceOfChi Banned Banned

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    why didnt you try and tap that ultimate godess?, you should have slammed that shit in the other realm, or whatever place you were in, while taking LSD.

    peace.
     
  16. Avatar smoking revolver Valued Senior Member

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    I'm not that primitive and I don't do drugs.
     
  17. whitewolf asleep under the juniper bush Registered Senior Member

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    What's the difference between acting nice and being nice? Man is defined by his actions.

    In my experience, men who wanted (and got) a lot of sex were the sweetest to me, even if they didn't sleep with me. Their manner was what we call nice throughout: in tone, respect, action. Men who didn't want (didn't get) a lot of sex were the most uptight and inwardly frustrated. If you think about it, it's rather logical.
     
  18. Avatar smoking revolver Valued Senior Member

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    :D Was I uptight and frustrated? :roflmao:

    p.s. Not that I have a special intention of being nice.
     
  19. GeoffP Caput gerat lupinum Valued Senior Member

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    Roman probably has a perspective on this.
     
  20. Communist Hamster Cricetulus griseus leninus Valued Senior Member

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    There are asexuals. They form strong relationships like everyone else, they just aren't sexually attracted to anyone. That does not preclude a relationship, although it certainly doesn't help in a lot of cases.
     

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