Maybe I just live in a society of snobs, but physical attraction is a major factor for almost every woman I've met when I've talked about it. No, it's not the only factor, but it plays a big part especially at the beginning when they need a reason to even be interested in you in the first place. There's a lot of fit, buff young men on the prowl around here and the ladies get spoiled; it doesn't matter that many of these guys are trash once you get past the surface, women will still date them until they find it out for themselves the hard way. Then every time a bunch of women simultaneously find out their boyfriends are psychotic a-holes, rather than trying something different they will simply permute boyfriends and hope for a better result. So I'm personally seeking a nice woman with fairly attractive features (I'd say I consider most of the women my age "fairly attractive"), and I'd love to hook them with philosophical discourse and academic charms, but these aren't the things society teaches them to value. Most of the women I get, they're not total outcasts but there's not much of a lineup for them either, so often I'm left with the impression that even these types of women just accept me for lack of better candidates. I've even been in several (brief) relationships where I was hardly attracted to the girl at all and I was actually doing it more out of pity. I don't have any illusions losing weight is going to magically make me a rock star sex symbol, but I can definitely attest that it makes a difference in the way people perceive you and treat you. It's already making a difference for me even now. It's a sh*tty, shallow world, but that's what we've been given.