“Ever one is essentially alone” I read this rather profound statement in a trashy novel many years ago. In fact it was the only thing of any real value that the book had to offer. Over 30,000 words and yet only the above five had any significance for me at the time. Some have written that loneliness is our greatest motivator beyond survival and self determination. Possibly these two attributes, that being survival and self determination are tempered by this thing called loneliness? There is a song that has the lyrics that state that loneliness is an important aphrodisiac, that it drives people to seek out others by not just others per se but others that have the ability and inclination to empathise and share similar thoughts, philosophies and enthusiasms. Every one is essentially alone at it’s deepest meaning talks to me of the duality of our inner selves and our outer reality. How we can never really share what we know or what we are, that due to this inability we as a self centred being stand alone, and fundamentally isolated from others, and if we are lucky enough to find people who can come close to sharing in who we really are our loneliness is mitigated but never neutralised. In religious terms it could be argued that it is our separation from God [ the garden of Eden and the tree of knowledge] or our duality with the universe around us that generates a desire or sufferance which is often referred to as loneliness. Does this highlight for any one why the Buddha states that all is suffering or motivated by suffering, that sufferance having a primary root in our state of duality? The desire to achieve oneness from a position of separateness? Is this why people may crave religious enlightenment so that this sufferance can be diminished by an imaginary or real [ depending on perspective] companion that all is shared with? A way to feel the oneness even if a state of delusion [ depending on perspective ] An ability to assuage the intensity of the burden of our inner isolation? When a person experiences severe depression could it be said that a sense of extreme loneliness i sbeing felt due to amplification of what is pre-existing in all of us? This amplification caused by the persons inability to share their expereinces properly and freely? "No one understands me" type commentary comes to mind. After all is this posting not a good example of how I wish to share and find persons interested enough to respond, thus mitigating the loneliness factor. Care to discuss?