Just think, you just saved her from having to go through this at 26. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
why do you feel like shit about it? kids can't have everything they want they should start getting used to it.....prepare them for when they are adult and can't get everything by saying .......Oh if you loved me you would...
any child of mine called me a whore, she would be losing her bedroom door. She breaks my stuff, there goes the TV Smoking....that's illegal at 13. Guess who pays a visit to my house to hand her a ticket. I can't judge cuz I haven't got mine raised yet. I know you're doing the best you can do with what ya got. Where do you find the strength?
i cry a lot!! :bawl: having children with adhd/add/touretts/ocd and bi polar disorder is bad, and i thought my daughter who hasnt got these illnesses her brothers have, well stupid me i thought she would be easy!! but i am not giving in to pressure from her, and to top it all of i have had her bf's mum on the phone saying that i am being to prtective and that they are young, also she has bough her son condoms just in case they get the urge. (like that makes me feal any bloody better) but i just said to her that i cant stop them seeing each other at school and in town but i can sure has hell stop them sleeping in the same room in MY house!!
WHORE? OMG.....Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! ......She would call me that 1 time, if she knew what was good for her.
I think I want to burn down her house. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Its easy to just throw your hands up in the air and say 'kids will be kids". Its always harder to do the right thing. She says she hates you now, but you know she doesn't. Its called a temper tantrum which just shows how mature she really is.
ive just taken her computer out of her room, and she cant have it back until i think she has some sense. looking through her chat logs (i know i shouldnt do that) i found that she has been talking to a spanish guy, arranging to meet him, i know she wouldnt go but, teenage girls are killing me right now. i honestlythought i would handle it all better than this but now that its here i am a mess.
why shouldn't you? Its not a diary where she's talking to herself. There are too many predators out there for you not to check. And good for you for taking the computer!:bravo:
Take it from someone who still a teen, Do not let this boy stay over!! What do you think your daughter and his boy are going to do in her room late at night???? I bet my student finance, that they won't be talking about school or whatever young teens talk about these days, there will be some heavy petting going on. Yes , she will probably make your life a living hell for the next few weeks, but when she is much older, she will thank you for protecting her. Instead of him sleeping over, why don't you invite him over to watch a dvd or have dinner??? (under your supervision). My brother is 30 and lives at home, and there's no way my mum would let his girlfriend stay over for the night.
I wonder about these kids these days....... When I was 13 I would NEVER even suggest for a boy to stay the night. Maybe because if I did I would have been beaten lol
it just seems to me that kdis are getting younger nd younger and they are all in a hurry to grow up, why cant they just enjoy being young, becasue when your older you have more responsibilty. you see kids pushing prams and honestly that is not what i want for my kids. i think i just night lock her in the house and walk her to adn fro school and go out when she goes out. (i know to much) she doesnt understand that my job is to keep her safe and if i fail at that then i am a crap mother
well my boys are 6 and 11 so i am not quite there yet....but I am already turning into the bad guy with the older one. I don't really care either I am fairly lenient and pretty cool as far as moms go. But I also expect chores to be done and to not talk back when I tell them to do something. So far I still get the goodnight LOVE YOU........lol Even though you are strict with them they need the structure, and they will thank you later on in life.
its funny because my oldest one is 15 and i still get a kiss and i love you mum when he goes to bed!!
Yeah you know you are doing something right when you still get that after you yelled at them or told them they couldnt do something they really wanted.
You did the right thing LA, don't beat yourself up. She's just pissed 'cause she didn't get her way. Hang in there baby!
You have been too soft with her and she knows your weaknesses, she knows your buttons, she obviously thinks she's on a par with you and is testing the boundaries. The boundaries have not been defined properly by you and if there are any at all, they are set far too wide. At her age she should not even be allowed to have a 'boyfriend', let alone someone she wants to sleep with! At her age, she should have friends, both boys and girls, but not, a boyfriend. That she demands to sleep with...at 13! It's really, almost beyond comprehension and even more so that you have to ask a bunch of looneys on the internet for their opinion. The mind boggles. Have you stopped to wonder, why your daughter should feel and behave in this manner? Have you stopped to think about the examples you have set for her? Does she think she has good reason to call you, whore? If not, if you have been an exemplary mother, if you have taught your daughter by good example, logic and good sense, then why is she acting in this way? My only advice, is to get some self-help books both for you and your daughter and you should research this subject/problem on a deeper level via some specialist websites because it seems to me that there are some very serious underlying problems in your home/lifestyle and child relationships, which if not resolved, could lead to the destruction of your daughter by one means or another.
seriously there is no need to shout at your children, or even raise your voice at them. dont even get annoyed or show them you care. they thrive off attention etc. watch the TSST southpark episode, that explains everything. all you need is 1hand. peace.
I say let them sleep in the same room together. He can be tied up on one side of the radiator, and she on the other. Let young love and close-range steam valves warm their hearts.
