I didn't say my brother was a bad kid. I said that we should be responsible for the choices we make in life. I mean if you want to blame the blame game, you can't say it's the parents fault they were bad parents, it's their parents fault for making them that way, but it's their grandparents fault for making their children that way... and so on and so forth. If you don't believe in free will that's fine, but that stuff only flies in philosophy. If I choose to move my chair across the room or change my shirt, I don't see that choice being something my parents forced upon me, it's a decision I would've made. No one can make you do anything. We make our own choices in life and then we not our parents have to deal with the immediate consequences. And personally I think that's fair.