humans do have an energy field. its created by the concscious mind. electrons flowing through neurological pathways create this electromagnetic field of low frequency. the frequencies are so low, though, that it doesn't really affect much. and every organism has energy, usually stored chemically. we need energy to operate at all times. we constantly take in energy and let energy out. its an idiomatic phrase, a metaphor. you can't expect language to exactly mirror reality. if you aren't naive, you can see exactly how it would be this way, and why it happens. you can see that this man has lived with the woman he loved for a very long time and has come to associate so much with her. the very act of living causes him to remember his lost wife and so he is overwhelmed by a feeling of grief and sadness because of this. the association of a real thing to something that can never be experienced again causes remorse in the human mind. don't you notice that when you are sad you don't really want to do anything? that is what the feeling is like. whether or not there is some kind of energy transfer doesn't matter because of how the process actually occurs and how we observe it. what your explanations don't do is that they don't explain how they affect people. they show what might be affected, or why it is affected, but you don't show the method of its effect. please describe how energy is taken and recieved by people. what is the carrier of this energy and how is it transferred? you cannot just say that energy is taken or drained from a person just because someone close to them is sick. you have to describe the process of energy transfer, and the force behind that process. otherwise you are just writing fiction. i can see how you are so enamoured by a more mystical explanation of everything, but the truth is that everyone is observing the same things, and any difference in their interpretations is because of how they define the words they are using, not because one person is wrong. so you are right in everything you are saying, but your definitions for a lot of the terms you use are not very similar to the ones that a lot of the other people here are using. i advise you to stop being so pompous and arrogant before you head too far down the road to insanity. too much confidence in oneself tends to cloud one's perception of reality.