#rapeculture | #envy
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Being gay, isn’t abstaining from intimacy with women a cornerstone of your sexuality?
In this context, sure; for some of us, it's not even a matter of abstention. There are certain aspects of being gay that women are specifically unsuited to accommodate without artifice.
Conditioning men of all persuasions not to be obsessed with touching women for personal gratification is not going to reduce the incidence of women experiencing unwanted touching?
In the first place, conditioning adults at such a level is a bit difficult.
To the other, that's a different issue than mgtow.
So let us be clear about your change of terminology:
"Conditioning men to not be obsessed with touching women for personal gratification", is not the same as complete abstinence from sexual context with women.
I don't disagree with your point, and might find the impracticality of the prospect one of those obvious challenges you're somehow managing to overlook, but it is also something of a bizarre change to present so randomly.
In a thread partially dedicated to examining the consequences of the sexual behaviors of men in positions of power, why would you condemn a fellow man for expressing an analysis of his own sexual behaviors as they pertain to the subject of unwanted advances towards women?
What part of "you don't need to be inflicting your sex life on other people" is unclear?
Honestly, sir, would it be so difficult to at least include occasional cues in your post that you're actually responding to something real, and not simply making it up as you go?
What part of "you don't need to be inflicting your sex life on other people" confuses you? Is it the predictable part when some men simply need any excuse to discuss their sexual behavior with an audience?
Furthermore, it really is hard to take this particular poster seriously when posting unrealistic bullshit is part of is point.
You, too, are perfectly welcome to try to explain to heterosexual men that abstinence from women is their salvation. Because I also find it quite hilarious that after years of showing two fingers to the churches, politicians, and feminists, to the point that men have even gone and invented what seems to be a fake academic discipline arguing the evolutionary roots of men's sexual appetites and belligerence, the idea of going their own way and only needing women to see them not needing women is going to compel men,
en masse, to abstain from seeking contact and congress with women.
Seriously? Revenge abstinence? That's what will do it? Okay, then; this I gotta see. Will you be offended if women celebrate the idea and hope the heterosexual men can actually deliver on the promise?
The extinction of the humanity do to sexual preference is often used as an argument against homosexuality as well, but it always ignores the fact that human beings do not have to enjoy an essential activity in order to practice it. If the survival of humanity depended on it, gay men and MGTOW's would find a way to get their seed where it's needed.
No, gay men aren't going to rescue their heterosexual brothers on this one. And, sure, we can imagine mgtows would "find a way"; is "paleomasculinity" already taken?
There's an old joke about white Anglo-Saxon Protestants, playing on a stereotype of prudery that even the British attended at least to the end of the twentieth century, which is somehow significant since it is, fundamentally, the Anglican Church at the heart of the joke when Mark Steel or Monty Python gives it a go. The American version goes:
Q: What do WASPs say after sex?
A: Thank you; it will never happen again.
Really? It's the twenty-first century and we're back to, "you don't need to enjoy it"? And this time for
men who are pissed off at women? That would be funny except it is also predictable save for the fact that it really is rude to presume so poorly of people. That is to say, was a time when it would have been denounced as a misandrist joke, but here we are, considering the proposition that "human beings do not have to enjoy" sexual intercourse in order to have it.
Could this be any more predictable?
No, we're not taking this shit seriously in the context you want until heterosexual men absolutely force the issue.
And the sad thing is this: Imagine that heterosexual men really do manage to convince themselves to stop wanting to have sex with women.
Okay, really, yeah, we're apparently supposed to take that seriously.
At any rate, women might actually decide that's just fine with them. And then some men will break rank, and instead of returning to sanity they're going to blame women for making them crawl like dogs when nobody did but some echo of their own consciences.
What mgtow comes down to is that men can't rape women so, fine, they don't want anything to do with women. It's an ugly pathology.
Setting that part aside, though, perhaps according to your variation on the theme—
"Conditioning men of all persuasions not to be obsessed with touching women for personal gratification"—we're right back to explaining that to the heterosexual men. Have fun stormin' that castle.
And the bit about how "human beings do not have to enjoy" sexual intercourse in order to have it just reminds me of the Comic Book Guy trying to institute a Pon Farr law, and noting while that means most people will have less sex, he at least, will be getting more.
Any excuse, like the one guy looking to tell people about his wanking.
And maybe the problem is that it's time we discuss the question ... I mean, seriously, am I
really saying this?
There's a term nobody really understands because, quite frankly, nobody wants to touch it. But we're actually down to:
Poor men, it's okay, you don't have to enjoy it; be strong, be heroic.
So, a question for the boys:
Do we actually, really, truly need to sit down and have a talk about rape envy?
It is true I would not be surprised, but this is one of those things that sounds like an ugly stereotype to the point that one need not be a masculinist to find reason to object. But, hey, you know what else it reminds me of? It reminds me of the time that someone defended masculine sexual belligerence by comparing men to a hand grenade, because exploding is what the grenade does if you pull the pin. The thing is, when a male says these things in defense of masculine sexual belligerence, we don't hear a peep from masculinist quarters. And I recall that occasion because taking your argument seriously at present includes potential application of rape envy without clear pathology as a masculine characteristic, and the only people who can unpack that are the people who think there is some utility in arguing "the fact that human beings do not have to enjoy" sexual intercourse in order to have it as part of a discussion ostensibly considering sexual harassment, belligerence, and assault.