AGONY AUNTIE ToR- problem resolution :)

Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by Theoryofrelativity, Jun 9, 2006.

  1. Theoryofrelativity Banned Banned

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    see edited post, it answers your query.
     
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  3. baumgarten fuck the man Registered Senior Member

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    I'm not sure that's exactly it, but maybe it is and I don't realize it.
     
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  5. Theoryofrelativity Banned Banned

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    I should rename this thread 'Challenge ToR'

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    wot no
    ...........'my girlfriend left me for an older dude'...
    ...........'caught girlfriend in lesbian romp and they invited my best male mate to join them and left me out!'.............. eh eh??
     
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  7. Roman Banned Banned

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    Couple of questions.

    If we feel that you answered a question incompletely or inaccurately, could we throw down our two cents?

    Where is the clit?
     
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    Yes, but beware possible repercussions

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    look it up in wikipedia, I did have link but it has VERY graphic pics and so I deleted as I don't want a banning, but it's in the dictionary, and yes I do know where mine is.
     
  9. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    Googling is a challenge?
     
  10. S.A.M. uniquely dreadful Valued Senior Member

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    Well there goes the excuse of not knowing where it is!

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    All fellow women, do not despair, there's hope yet.
    Now if only there was a link showing how to use that information...Thor?
     
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    oops meant to type Tor not Thor
     
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    I can pm you a helpful link

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    a Feudian slip

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    "Thor is the Norse god of thunder. He is a son of Odin and Jord, and one of the most powerful gods."
    from web
     
  14. pasquala Living on a Prayer Registered Senior Member

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    Hi ToR,
    I have a serious problem...
    Without giving out TMI, I work for a non-prof gov funded org. I have suspicions that my boss is misapropriating funds. Boss (I use the term boss as not to anounce gender) Also bends the rules to fit boss's needs. Boss does not follow the guidelines as to who the org is supposed to benefit. Rather boss adjusts to rules to benefit only the "desirable people" who do not need the program, but boss likes to rub elbows with. Boss bad mouth's boss's supervisors behind their backs. Supervisors thinks boss is great. I am boss's biggest asset. Boss keeps me in the shadows and takes credit for all of my hard work. Just this week boss asked me to give boss some extemely important information in regards to the submition of the quartly report. Then I find out that boss copied my information word for word on the report and claimed it as boss's own work. Boss is constanly stealing my thunder. Also talks about me to boss's supervisors and other people in the system and makes me out to be a fool which has prevented me from other job opportunities in the past. And then there is this. Boss recently hired boss's best friend of 23 years and boss's friend is now the highest paid employee in the building. Boss's friend has cause me some problems in the work place also. That's a whole other story. If I turn boss in then I run a risk of our program being shut down and I lose my job. I can't afford to lose my job. So there it is. I don't think you can really offer any advice but to tell me to suck it up and deal with it, but maybe I just wanted to blow off some steam.
     
  15. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    How does one drain an empty container?
     
  16. Theoryofrelativity Banned Banned

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    Tough rap, not an altogether an uncommon story. Try to write yourself a really good CV and look for another job. Remaining in this one will not help you advance. Sometimes we need a 'push' to propell us to better things. Sometimes this 'push' will be in the form of a work conflict or disatisfaction etc. Take the opportunity to look for a new and better opportunity and don't be afraid to set your sights high. Inlcude on your Cv the credits that should have been awarded to you and try to have a referree who is someone from your company you can trust. Meanwhile without you , your boss will fall.

    Meanwhile if you were in the Uk, you could also leave and claim 'constructive dismissal'. This is where you feel 'forced' to leave due to the problems arising. you have plenty of grounds. You may need proof though, but depending how long you have been there you could then claim compensation.
     
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    pasquala

    http://www.acas.org.uk/

    This is the organisation to contact re your problems

    check this out

    http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/business/4481899.stm

    The advice in similar scenario in link above is

    "One solution would be to put things down in writing, and also to arrange meetings to talk about specific proposals and ideas.

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    If you are the brains behind your bosses work, take heart, it means you can do his job! Maybe somewhere else though. Good luck.
     
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  18. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    Are you out of your friggin' mind?

    Very bad advice. Your boss can quantify those credits as his own. Not only will you not find another job, you'll probably get fired from your current position and your boss will make sure you never get any recommendations if future prospective employers check up on you.
     
  19. Theoryofrelativity Banned Banned

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    Additionally Pasquala

    I myself was in similar situation twice as a matter of fact, in first istuation I explained the problems to the overall boss and said I was leaving because of them. I was offered a promotion and payrise and my manager was sacked. In the second situation my boss was the only boss so I applied for a new job with double the salary, got a colleague to act as referree and I explained the problems and reasons for leaving to new employer at interview stage so they understood re the dishonesty of my old boss etc. My skills were easily demonstrated and with the trial period you have every chance to prove yourself.
     
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    Boss is an industrial psychopath. Do poor work for boss, and let boss take the blame for it (if possible). Find work for boss on internet, then let boss take the blame for your plagiarism. If you're doing most of boss' work, you should be able to replace boss.
     
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    Or failing all the advice here, see 'banana' advice as offered to geoffP re cyclops neighbour

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  22. pasquala Living on a Prayer Registered Senior Member

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    Now let me tell you what it is I have been doing about this situation.
    First off I try to suttlely put little birdies in the ears of the people who it matters. This is a plus...it turns out that the my boss's supervisor is an acquaintance of my husband. This person in particular is quite fond of my husband. We all just recently found out this tidbit of information by acdient at a work related function where my husband escorting me. Now when the big boss comes to the work place, he makes friendly small talk with me. Then there is the paperwork. I started keeping a special file at home. I figure that things make more sense and are more powerful if they are in black and white. Everytime I knew for sure that my boss has done something wrong, I make a note of it and put it in my secret folder. Then when I see controversal paper work, I make a copy and put that in the folder also. I keep this folder at home. I know that my personal notes have no proof therefore most likely hold no legality but the copies of other documents and paperwork (cooked up numbers and budget report for example) speak mountains. I am just afraid that I could be the one getting in trouble for doing this. In addition, if the boss wants to blame someone for the misappropriating of funds, then he/she could easily plan it to look like it was me all along because he/she knows that I am the only other person in the office smart enough and capable enough to pull it off. I am sure that the boss has found a way to cover his/her ass. If not, then my boss is an ass. Oh too; by-the-way the boss's spouse is also a big wig on campus, however not directly involved with our org. Just a waywardly branch you may say. I did check out the sugested website. Thanks.
     
  23. pasquala Living on a Prayer Registered Senior Member

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    Yes boss is a psycopath. I can do the boss's work. The only problem is that I do not have the credentials so I do not qualify for the job.

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