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Originally Posted by The Devil Inside *note: the mother NEVER speaks dutch to the child. keep the two languages seperate.
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That's pertinent to what I was gonna mention.
Learning to
understand language X should be simple enough for a child — or as simple as the language-learning process goes, at least. But if you want your child to actively
use the language, you're gonna have to do some creative work.
The language-learning process is hard for all people — even toddlers, despite the common misconception. Because it's hard, they won't want to do it. And, as with most things, if they know they can get away with not learning to speak a language,
they won't.
Imagine you live in a place where the most common language is X, but your mother only speaks Y to you, and she's also the only person you commonly interact with who speaks Y. Because you need to interact with others in the community, you learn X, and because you need to interact with your mother, you learn Y. But because you only need Y for one person and thus don't use it as much as X, you're less fluent in it than you are in X. If you find out one day that your mother actually knows X quite well, will you really want to keep using Y? Unless you specifically wanted to retain it and were committed to doing so, you wouldn't speak it anymore. Even if your mother refused to speak X to you, you would refuse to speak Y because you know you could get away with not expending the effort.
So TruthSeeker, if you want your child to learn to speak a certain language — I'm guessing you mean Portuguese — they have to often be in situations where they can't reasonably get away with simply using English. Make friends with people who only speak Portuguese, or even ones who
can speak English as well but only poorly. Or let them live with their Portuguese grandmother back in Brazil every so often. The child should be immersed in the language often and consistently.
Another good tip I know of that's also related to TDI's note is this: Whichever language a parent chooses to use to talk to their child, they should stick to it! While they're young and still learning the bulk of the language, always always always use that one language you choose, always. While a child is learning their native language(s), they grow to trust that a given parent will only
ever speak one given language to them. They'll even grow to
rely on this. If you switch, they will experience undue stress. I think it might be alright to start switching by the time they're preteens, but don't quote me on that.