Hoping to get some illuminating views on this. I for one think it is not possible.

Probably. I myself have a variety of close friends, to whom there isnt much sexual attraction, yet maybe a bit. Its like you make friends best with people who are half way close to being potential partners. So its kind of half and half.

Yes, it is possible but i found it to be quite hard. I have know some friends that i wish were more than friends.......

If you mean relationship as a Boyfriend/grilfriend thing then well i doubt that it is. I Guess long distance relationships count but then those aren't so successful. This question brings up another one.....Does sex come out to be the final savior of a relationship or is it just one of the many factors of a good one?

Do you mean girlfriend/ boyfriend relationship? If so, my response is no.

I hope you're talking about non-platonic relationships. Because, otherwise my answer is of course.

I don't think a relationship can last without sexual attraction. If there is none, what is the point. I'm not saying sex is the whole point of a relationship, but it is an important part for obvious reasons.

"Can you have a lasting, sustained relationship without sexual attraction?"

marriage

Thanks to all that replied

Yea I mean a "Boyfriend/grilfriend" or boyfriend/boyfriend or girlfriend/girlfriend.

Dark:
Can't there be sex--even good sex without sexual attraction? I am sure some go through the motionswhen there is no sexual attraction, but can't ability/prowess make up for lack of sexual attraction?

Redoubtable:
why?

Sarge:
"This question brings up another one.....Does sex come out to be the final savior of a relationship or is it just one of the many factors of a good one?"
I think sex is fundamnetally the basis of all relationships-- gf/gf, bf/gf, bf/bf.


Swedish:
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Marriage, I third that

thefountainhed

let me get this correct
2 people in a relationship
they are having a monogamist one I ASSUME
they have no sexual attraction toward each other
they are having sex with each other


questions of rellavance would be
do they have sexual attraction for other people?
or do they have no sexual attraction for anyone?
why are they having sex?

groove on

Looks like the joys of marriage have come early for me. What did I do, Lord?

Friendship, yes.
In the sack, no.

Ok. Okay. I'll put away the 'shallow' for this one. It depends on how low in the rung the unnactractive party is and how long they've worn on you.

But sex with a fugly.........what kind of fugly? face fugly or fat fugly? I'm trying in vain to be honest here, but I'm seriously imagining a fat fugly with scabs and what would I do ten years into our friendship if he wanted to sleep with me.

No. I couldn't do it. I'd lick his face and finger him though.

Ok. Never mind. No fingers. But I would kiss him........on the cheeck.

There's no point.

I'll take up the minority on this one and say yes, its possible.
However, the relationship then becomes something that we wouldn't normally see as a relationship.
It evolves into something..strange.

heyya all

maybe i could add a question to the nature of the thread

how many people HAVE HAD sex with someone they NOW FEEL they are not sexualy attracted to

sexual attraction = (?)
the desire to motivate the self to have sexual actions with another person

just because 2 people may feel that one if not both have no current sexual desire (marriage/longterm relationship) for the other does not mean they never had sexual attraction
such instances are more closely related to personal issues which
are not being addressed
so i suspect
soo
i think it is very interesting to contemplate the idea that a person could be mentally healthy and then have sex with someone they did not desire to sexualy interact with unles
such a thing is being done for other reasons
and that will skew the thread into a more realistic working scenario i suspect


groove on all

More like fusing then? Something like symbiotic parasitism.

I'll grant you're half right then. That would be strange.


Edit: Ripple:
"how many people HAVE HAD sex with someone they NOW FEEL they are not sexualy attracted to"

Gasp. I'm trying to count here, but only got ten fingers and my shoes are on. Kidding. I don't think I'm the only here that's been too drunk some times to realize the groveling idiot on top is not that attractive am I?

Girls? I want to hear from you.

no.

Yes on the relationship, but on the lasting, sustained part not a chance.

::raises both hands::

point taken

i was half joking about the marriage thing but just think about your parents. doesn't it make you happy to know they don't have sex anymore?

SwedishFish
thanks for the reply
i was not being sarcastic as allot of people think i am
but thats also a fashion of current thought process to communicate and try to define allot of communication as a basic frame of reverse psychology so to assume it
is often required but not always completely accurate

i was actualy interested in how many people no longer have sexual attraction for people they have had sex with
regarles of relationship status current or past

regarding the parents having sex thing
i would not want to be a fly on the wall or maybe on the other side of the wall but i think such things are more founded in other issues and it seems to me that diet and work practices and stress
drag the relationship into a hand to mouth level of only just coping so sex comes a long way down the ladder
at least good sex in regard to the circumstances

gendanken
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I don't think I'm the only here that's been too drunk some times to realize the groveling idiot on top is not that attractive am I
---
no your not the only one
my suspicion is that most people have had an experience like that
male or female

i find it interesting how many women talk of placing a large emphasis on other qualities before sexual atraction however i wonder how many women have already made that judgement call prior to assesing the other qualities but consider it socialy unacceptable to say such a thing.

guys are a little more basic in comparrison :/
most guys that is

SwedishFish
i like your joke about marriage

groove on

Well should it be??. Does pleasure of a orgasm surpass all that is important in a relationship or does behavior like that takes us down to our simplest nature; to spread seed and reproduce in this complex world where it would seem a good relationship requires many fundamental factors but in reality only one matters..