Abuse

[stephenjames]

What motivates people to abuse? Why is it that people practice acts of psychological, sexual, and physical abuse on a regular basis?

[Enmos]

Abuse is a sign of sociological weakness..

[cosmictraveler]

Many times people abuse others because they have been abused

themselves. Then there are those who just like to bully others because they

can get away with it for no one tries to stop them.

[greenberg]

Because they are bored.
Because they can.
Because they think what they do is right and is not abuse at all.
Because they are unhappy.

[Enmos]

No, usually it is because they are unable to resolve the matter in any other way.. as I said sociological weakness

[greenberg]

Subjective realities, Enmos.
Maybe they don't see it as "something to resolve".

[Enmos]

Subjective realities, Enmos.
Maybe they don't see it as "something to resolve".

Well, wouldn't that point to a sociological weakness ?

[greenberg]

No. It could also point to that it is you who has the problem and not them.

[Enmos]

No. It could also point to that it is you who has the problem and not them.

Huh? The abuser ? If so, I don't see how we disagree..

[S.A.M.]

Insecurity and low self esteem. Sometimes fear and sadism.

[greenberg]

Huh? The abuser ? If so, I don't see how we disagree..

No. I mean that it might be that the "victim" is the one who has a "sociological weakness" and not the one whom the "victim" calls the "abuser".

[Enmos]

No. I mean that it might be that the "victim" is the one who has a "sociological weakness" and not the one whom the "victim" calls the "abuser".

I really don't think so..

[Enmos]

Insecurity and low self esteem. Sometimes fear and sadism.

I agree, the latter two are of course brought on by the first two

[greenberg]

I really don't think so..

Abusive relationships tend to be very complex.

Check this out, for example - Shifting Roles in Abusive Relationships.

[Enmos]

Abusive relationships tend to be very complex.

Check this out, for example - Shifting Roles in Abusive Relationships.

Well, of course the victim might also have sociological shortcomings but the reason the abuser resorts to violence in stead of any other action still points to his own sociological shortcomings.

[shichimenshyo]

Also in many cases abuse in a relationship is indicative of a substance abuse problem by the abuser.

those classified as the heaviest drinkers (22 or more drinks per week) were 66 percent more likely to abuse their spouses than those classified as abstainers. In addition, self-reported moderate (8 to 14 drinks per week) and heavy drinkers (15 to 21 drinks per week) were three times as likely, and light drinkers (1 to 7 drinks per week) were twice as likely, as soldiers who report they typically consume less than one drink per week, to be drinking during the time of the abuse event.

http://alcoholism.about.com/od/abuse/a/blacer041214.htm

[greenberg]

Well, of course the victim might also have sociological shortcomings but the reason the abuser resorts to violence in stead of any other action still points to his own sociological shortcomings.

Perhaps the "abuser" aims for goals that cannot be reached any other way than by using violence.

[Enmos]

Perhaps the "abuser" aims for goals that cannot be reached any other way than by using violence.

Violence does rarely solves anything. It's quite irrational to use it, there most likely is some psychological problem at the root of it.
Especially if the abuser makes a habit of it.

[Orleander]

I've see abusers lash out and not realize they have snapped til its over. They have no self control. Its an immaturity.

[shichimenshyo]

I've see abusers lash out and not realize they have snapped til its over. They have no self control. Its an immaturity.

I would say that they have an extreme desire to control others, and the only way they know how is through violence.