Slowtalkers

[EmptyForceOfChi]

I have talked to him about it. It just annoying not destructive. And I'm with him cuz him being an ass about this one thing isn't the sum of the man.
And I have a real marriage with a real man, not a fairy tale one.

i didnt say it was the sum of the man, i said if he is a complete asshole and wont listen to reason. because i was suggesting that you talk it through and let him know it bothers you. and at the same time ask him what bothers him about you, then it doesent seem one sided, and shows you want to compromise and make him happy aswell. instead of it looking like your nagging. if its just that he forgets things tthen i dont see the big problem, maybe try to help him out with his memory or train of thought.


i dont get the real man and fairy tale remark though.



peace.

[Search & Destroy]

Instead of getting feelings of frustration when you husband makes a pause, meditate on those feelings, use the time your husband gives you of silence for meditation; instead of uselessly wasting your energy for no reason (think about it, there is really no reason for frustration, your mind is playing tricks on you, don´t let it).

wise post

while spending time learning spanish in Ecuador I couldn't understand a word at dinner time in the beginnings. So I meditated on the people's physical speech (ie. hands, face, etc. all muscles except tongue) and became quite adept at body language instead of becoming easily frustrated.

and for this I promote what you wrote in that quote

[sniffy]

It's called listening and not enough people do it effectively because they are too impatient to put their point of view forward.

[Orleander]

It's called listening and not enough people do it effectively because they are too impatient to put their point of view forward.

My husband is a notorious interrupter. He says its because he has to say it immediately or he will forget.