Isn't the definition of what we find attractive significantly influenced by our culture (familiarity) and the media?

Thus it is not racist to say you don't find a particular group with certain identifying physical characteristics unattractice any more than to find those same 'alien' traits attractive demonstrates a 'fetish'.

Consider the media representation of black women and then ask yourself why this representation may have a negative or positive impact on a viewing white male audience.

Consider the media representation of Asian women...(worded as above)

Consider the media representation of white women .....(worded as above)

There are blatantly different representations of each of these three groups in the media, when imagining one or the other group, an image will come to your mind. Consider what that image is telling you about that 'group'.

We know the media does NOT in fact portray a good representation of certain 'groups' BUT they do selectively choose HOW to represent them. What they choose is what we see.

Unless you grow up in a multi cultural society and can see the wrong being perpetuated in the media then you will use it as a reference tool to how other people you are unfamiliar with tend to behave.

Meanwhile, tastes are very much personal and can be influenced by many things, ultimately longevity and happiness in a relationship is only achievable if personalities are compatible, so whatever anyones preconceptions are re any colour, one day they could be knocked off their feet by a person they may otherwise not find physically attractive. BUT they become physically attractive to you when you come to love their personality.