I have a few questions for anyone whom may be married out there. 1. Were you a virgin when you became married? If NO: Did you regret not saving your virginity for your husband/wife? Do you feel that you could have had a stronger commitment to them if you had kept your virginity? If YES: Do you regret having kept it, or do you wish that you had had more sex with different people before getting married? The thing is, is there is this girl who wants me to be her man, but she also wants me to lose my virginity to her. Now I'm 23 and have held onto it because I want to strengthen me commitment to my future wife, but I'll be 24 in a month, and I don't want to get too old before experiencing true sex. Also, this girl, has been on my mind literally for years, and I have been trying to get her to feel the way she does now about me literally for years. Thanks for ya'lls help! -Trent
If a man will keep his virginity and will marry in his late 20th, 30th, sex is not gonna to be fun. Most likely, it will be a very hard work to consumate a marriage with a full penetration. Depending on the level of her stupidity/experience, a wife may get very disappointed is she'll not be able to get some in the first month of marriage or so. Secondly, late virgin man will get used to his right/left hand so much so he'll prefer it to any kind of sex most of the times. In two words, being a late virgin man is BAD for a man sexually. He'll have lots of troubles with normal sex (hormon levels will be on the decline, right hand will be his best, fast, always ready gf, etc.). It will require quite a loving woman to bring him up to the level of a sexual neophyte. Man should be in hurry, average woman's love will not last too long. You are almost 24. Well, your clock is ticking. Hurry. You may catch a train, or may not. Sure starting sleep around when one is 15 y.o. is not smart. But holding it until one is married knowing that average age of a groom is 28 y.o. is not sexually smart too. Certainly, if your goal is to stay "pure" whatever that means (I knew pure girls who would do anything except spreading legs wide for the sake of "purity") you should stay away from sex. If you want to be more or less sexually adequate male/husband, holding it until 30 y.o. is not going to cut it. Or, you may chose being a permanent batchelor. Select your priorities. Once you have selected them, do not pay attention to anybody suggesting you otherwise.
Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! A man's virginity doesn't mean anything. Don't be such a wimp, just stick it in and go for it. Oh wait a second! I just realised, you've got the perfect excuse to propose anal! You better not waste this opportunity, stick to your guns with this chick, be like "no I can't, certainly not vaginal intercourse" then wait a while, and when she asks again be like "it wouldn't be right, vaginal intercourse is reserved for the sanctity of marriage only". And so on and so forth, and then when she nags you again say "Fine!" and just casually start doing her in the butt, and if she says "what the hell are you doing?" be vague for a while so you can finish. Get ready to grab onto her hips and hold on tight in case she freaks out and starts struggling, you must not let your penis fall out of her anal cavity. So keep your pelvis pinned forward and just go with her movements like its a rodeo and she's a bull. She might stutter jump off the bed onto the ground, you need to be ready to absorb that impact with out serting(that's the opposite of inserting right?). Then when you're finished, depending on whether the "ho rodeo" was necessarry, you might need to explain yourself. Be shocked that she's shocked, saying "you wanted this, I did this for you". If she says "not in the ass" just give her a guilt trip saying "I always knew you had a problem with my faith". Good luck.
you have nothing to loose, frisbinator. quite the opposite as dr lou pointed out. Virginity is the opposite thing for a man in that you're not pure until you penetrates a woman. Especially up the ass
Sorry...I dislike it when people commit humor murder and now I am guilty of the crime. Will try harder sir..err..or madame. Simply saving your first sexual experience does not neccessairly promise a stronger commitment to your partner because after the sex is over it is your personality heading off against her personality which will decide the outcome of sucess. I think you have the idea that sharing one's self emotionally and physically for the first time with someone ensures a special bond with that person forever and that simply isn't the case most of the time. People get laid and for the greater part forget their first sexual partner over time. Compromise, Jewelry, lifting a finger around the house, general remarks of her beauty and other assorted compliments will strenghthen your bond with your wife...not your virginity. Your thoughts and intents are noble but as powerful sex is in keeping a relationship strong and happy, it ultimetly can't save a relationship that wasn't meant to be...and even the lack of it can still keep a relationship going when it just works between two people. Your first time is just that...your first time.
I can't even remember the name of my first. See? Sex doesn't matter, it matters who you do it with. If you end up sleeping with the girl you've been thinking about for years, you will certainly develop strong emotional attachment. It happened to me, at least, and I didn't think it could happen. Oops-a-daisy. Nothing like spending the next 15 months of your life on amphetamines and sluts! It's your call, though. Don't be frightened by my hyperbole, little one.
Actually Dr Lou had a good point there if you read between the lines. It is hardly unlikely that you will be experiencing true sex with the first person you have sex with. True sex is really something and I didn't realize you could have it like that until I had it. So just do it and don't expect too much. Just enjoy it.
Ok, first of all, the only reason that I posted this question is for MARRIED PEOPLE to tell me if there were glad that they had lost their virginity to someone else or if not and if they regretted it or not. The other half of the post, which everyone has fucking totally blew out of proportion, was an excuse as to why I was doing it. First of all, she isn't my girlfriend, second of all, I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her if she was my girlfriend. Thanks for giving me like no help or insight whatsoever and you all might as well stop posting here cause I sure as hell am not going to waste my time reading this garbage anymore.
No. No. No. In fact, perhaps the opposite is true - because I would have both always wondered what other people would be like in bed, and because I would have entered my marriage with less experience, patience and understanding.
I was still a virgin when i met my wife to be at 18, but not through choice, and it (virginity) didn't last long once I realised that she fancied me! I do sometimes feel that I lost out on the sexual experiences that I never had, but then again, I don't know that had I been more promiscuous, what sort of effect that would have had on me actually marrying my fantastic wife at such a young age, or on my 100% fidelity in my 32 years of marriage. It's true, I did have a very personal relationship with my right hand before I got married... now I'm pretty good buddies with my left, but I still prefer my wife!
Lordy, if you're meeting someone in your 20's or 30's and you're both still virgins... heh.. that first night would be interesting, what with neither of you knowing what goes where and how. I'd guess that neither of you would get much pleasure out of it until you both got the hang of it. Fris, I'm not married but am in a long-term relationship. Both of us had had previous experiences prior to our getting together. Do I regret that my other half is not my first? Hell no. Would I have had a stronger commitment to him if I had kept my virginity? No. Fris, it's best to experience life and know what you are looking for in a partner. If you've had previous experiences, you'd feel a lesser need to think hmmm what else is there out there. If you wish to keep your virginity until that one comes along, then more power to you. However, don't reject someone just because they may not be a virgin and don't think that just because that someone is not a virgin that she/he won't be as committed to you. Tab: Thanks for sharing. Let us know when you become flexible enough with your feet to become buddies with them as well. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Oh, in the modern world there is no way they won't know what to do - and surely they have masturbated. So probably the main problems will be ones of self-conciousness, clumsyness and perhaps . . . not a lot of finess and staying power! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I am not a virgin. I am not yet marreid, but came close a few times. I would not want to marry a virgin. The main reason is that I want her to have experienced life and sex to know what she does and does not want. I don't want HER to have any regrets. Besides that, I wouldn't marry anyone that I have not had sex with first. As cold as it may sound, what if we are not compatible? That can be a huge issue. I would never say someone is good in bed or not, because it's not only an issue of personal taste it is an issue of compatibility between two people. I could be completely unsatisfied with someone in bed, and someone else could think they are an ideal partner, or vice versa. However, I have been with a few women that I was not compatible with, and, althoutgh sex isn't everything in a relationship, it is something and the cold bed would have been an issue. Just as if I didn't satisfy the woman I was with it would be an issue because I would feel inadequate for her, and if it didn't mess with my self-esteem, at the very least it would cause a problem for my sense of security and stability in a relationship. It's all good and nice to love someone for who they are and say that sex isn't an issue, I prefer to be realistic. Like I said, sex isn't everything, hell, it's not even the most important thing, but sexual compatibility IS important in any sexual relationship. Besides, it is much easier to say how unimportant sex is, when you are a virgin. What if, when you, or her, discover you are a very sexual person, and the other simply isn't? Plus, there's the issue of not knowing what you like/dislike want/don't want without having experienced it first. I just think it is an irresponsible outlook to have (irresponsible for teh relationship, that is) but if that's a chance you are willing to take (and a risk you are willing to put her through) then we are just different people, and I wish you the best of luck.
