How have your failures made you stronger?

Okay, as for me...there was a time in my life when I felt it was best to keep quiet to avoid confrontations with people who were outwardly agressive; however, it is never wrong to stand up for yourself when confronted by those types of people.

 

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Well since I fail at every step of the process in every endeavor I partake in I learn a lot...too much for my preference but most of the time I forget what I learned and start at step one only to fail again. The failures that I do remember only teach me negative things, or more rather, I only take away negative aspects from that experience...this is most true with failures relating to people and relationships.

While giving up in face imminent difficulity isn't my thing but once I do give up chances are that I will never take up again in what I intially failed at...again, this is especially true with people and relationships.

So have my failures made me stronger?....not at all, infact they have done the opposite mainly because I am not disciplined enough to look back at them and learn from them what I did wrong and what I did right. Will I be one day? who knows..I hope I am..Do I expect to be one day? The outcome looks bleak at best.

 

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The only people that fail are the ones who stop trying. As long as you are in the "game" then your never a failure.

 

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yes, in all things except relationships. lol. Then i just huddle up and die.

 

yup ...not trying is a good failure...especially when all your profs and friends hype you up by saying you have potential...but then 1) unknowingness 2) lazyiness 3) crap ass program structure 4) addiction to video games
5) depression all kicks in

and then in your final year
1) quit 2 lab jobs...
2) drop thesis,
3) realize your parents ideals and technique of raising you
should be tossed in teh crapper

...been doing some "soul" searching this past year but I now know where I want to go...its gonna cost me a bit but i'm heading back to school
to do a video game development program(wish digipen was cheap) that hopefully will lead me some decent cash and then back to grad school
to do some Cognitive Modelling and VR lab experiments and hopefully land
a job in AI/cognitive modelling with side work in astrophysics simulation.

LONG ROAD IT WILL BE.

 

The good thing about children(if you like playing with children) is that they can always cheer you up. If my niece and nephew weren't around I think i woulda cracked earlier. THey learn quick and you can teach them loads of things

 

It is my belief that you first must fail somehow to ultimately succeed. And if you dont, your not as high as you can be. Right now, im on cloud 9 1/2. Or absolutely, positively, undeniabley, undoubtley and unexpectedly elated. And I believe thats because I screwed up big time a few months ago.

Its not a law or anything, but I do believe you learn more from failing than succeeding.... a certain natural balance between the two suits us well. Im not suggesting going out and purposefully failing....by no means.

Later
T

 

I've never failed, I just find many ways to do things differently.

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I'm all about failing on purpose. When I succeed, I know only one thing: ok, I can do that.
I can only take the situation apart a little bit, because things worked. I can analyse the situation 50 times, but I can only see "this method worked, others may not". If I fail, then I can say "this didn't work, as I expected it to", and I have alot of choices between the begining of the attempt and the failure that I could change in order to find a successful path.

I guess that my drive to succeed helps sustain study longer if I don't succeed the first time.

Often, if the task at hand is too easy (like "walk from here to the kitchen"), I'll add smoething too it, just to test the boundries of my abilities - make it more fun, more challeging, more likely to fail. like "walk from here to the kitchen...on your hands."
People look at me weird more and more often, but I have to say, I tend to be happier in my life then they protest to be in thiers. I have no problem with them looking at me weird - I'm upside down! woooo-hoooo! oooof! ow, I landed on my keys...

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I failed to avoid the oncoming car: I can't walk anymore. Stronger ? NEIN!
Of course, this is just humor so don't mind me...

 

I rebuilt the motor in my car 3 times before I finally got it right. I wanted to quit the first time I screwed up but I continued to fix it. I put it all back together to only mess up once again. Finally, this last time I put everything together right and learned a lot about cars...but mostly myself. As for cars, I learned how an engine works mechanically and how I can make it perform better. I learned the samething about myself, but also learned that when somethings wrong, there's usually a reason. Now this one reason can be masked by many other problems, but in the end if you have the patience to learn, you will have the patience to fix them all.


Yeah, it's bedtime, that analogy wasn't working so well...


So sure, I'm stronger/wiser.

 

Blandnuts.........

So if you had to operate on yourself you would try it until you got it right?

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We look before and after,
And pine for what is not:
Our sincerest laughter
With some pain is fraught;
Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought.

Yet if we could scorn
Hate, and pride, and fear;
If we were things born
Not to shed a tear,
I know not how thy joy we ever should come near.
-Percy Shelley (Excerpt from "To a Skylark")

Later
T

 

I think relationship failures are the most universal learning failures. If you aren't a better person after you've been dumped then you're doing something wrong.

Personally, my favorite challenge was when my uncle gave me a box of computer parts, half of which worked, and told me there was a working computer in there. After quite a few failures and tests and blah blah, I had my very own 386. Hurray! (ok, so I'm really young. 386 was old and everything else was ancient)

 

Keyword mate, "analogy." I would operate on myself if I needed to fix something(if capable). Good way to take it out of context though. :bugeye:

 

I do that all the time - it's a called meditation/prayer/self-reflection. I don't like something about how I dealt with a situation? I regretted an action? I cut up the scene, and rework my actions; see how they effect the outcome. The next time a similar thing comes up, I better know how to deal with it.
No knives, but no significant different, either.

 

I do stuff everyday, and set goals for the day. Smoetimes, I get them all accomplished. Sometimes, I fail miserably. I just get back up the next day, and deal with problems as they come.
Certain people say that you cannot fail unless you give up.
That's BS. I faill all the time. But it's no big deal because each day, I can measure the progress I make. Despite the battles I lose, I accomplish enough to keep me going forward.

 

i think the thing with failing is that after we feel like we have 'failed' we generally get back up again and try to do something about it. i think this is innate. we want to be able to do things right... take a look at an infant for example, they practice and practice til they have the art of walking mastered. they just instinctively know that there is a process better to crawling, and they work it out.

have my failures made me stronger? yes i think they have. otherwise i wouldnt be able to get out of bed in the morning. is it such a big deal that people fail ? no. without failure, and trial and error, and mistakes.. we wouldnt grow. and learn. and walk.

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my two cents worth... and lol.. trust me to make my first post on the subject of failure!!!!

 

BLANDNUTS; I was curious about this thread, and was viewing all the comments. Yours made me laugh aloud. And then someone comes along with a hypothetical that really does not fit. You handled it well. Just wanted you to know that you made me laugh. PMT

 

Hi:
I belong to the "conspiracy theory" bloc. Whenever there is a problem, of any kind, first i think There is a "conspiracy". Then I look for the cause of it. This way I have learned a lot: That my reasoning needs to be fixed. quack- quack