Girls of Sciforums, Please Enlighten Me

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TruthSeeker

TruthSeeker

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Hi Girls :)

I just have some questions that I have always wondered and could never find out the answers all by myself...

First of all, I would like to talk a little bit about my experience with girls. I have had many friends that were girls. Girls are usually more caring then guys, and I really like that. Care is pretty important to me - on both sides. You are also usually more intelligent then guys (probably because you have more neurons...:D), and I can easily have intelligent conversations with you. You also mature faster. I have had girls that were good friends. However, whenever I would ask a girl out, she would not only say "no" but sometimes they would also stop being my friend. And that was usually really hurtful.

I'm just wondering, cause I want to have four kids and I'm already almost 20 years old so... I wonder if there are any girls that like guys just like me. I'm not perfect, but I don't think I'm as bad as I have been treated... For example, I'm kinda shy. But I'm working on that...
  1. When a guy compliments you, like saying that you are pretty or young, what do you do?
    • You slap him
    • You smile
  2. When a guy say something nice to you...
    • You feel embarrassed or bad
    • You feel nice and loved
  3. Do you prefer a relationship that is based on...
    • Sex
    • Honesty, open-mindness, care, communication, sharing, love...
  4. When a guy is caring for you, do you...
    • Find him to be weak
    • Find him sweet and like him
  5. Which kind of guy do you prefer?
    • A strong and big guy, eventhough he is jerky and treat you like an object.
    • A caring guy, that treats you well and is interested in your character and personality more or as much as your body.
    • A dumb guy that acts in a kind of retarded way
  6. Do you prefer a guy whose dream is...
    • Getting rich, very rich
    • Have a little nice family
Huumm... I guess that's all. I was just wondering, because what I have mostly seen in my life was all case "a"s. I wonder if there are any girls on the case "b"s...cause I'm kinda lonely, you know... :D
No, seriously, I'm just kinda worried whether I will ever have a kid or not, because most girls seem to somehow fall on case "a"...

Thanks for your time girls
 
Aaaahhh to be almost 20 again.....

Advice from a somewhat wiser and yet still single 30-year old:
DON'Ts
Do not panic and marry the first girl (or even the second) that pays attention to you
Do not bemoan your fate as a young single male because when you have 4 kids you'll look back longingly on the halcyon days.
Do not assume that all girls like assholes
Do not become that asshole

DOs
Enjoy your youth
Meet and befriend lots of girls
Fall in lust
Have fun
Drink too much
Make an ass of yourself
Fall in love
Get your heart broken
Learn many lessons
Find the right girl at the right time and hold on
 
I have many mates who are girls. Im curious as to why you get burned when you ask them out?
 
Princess said:
Do not panic and marry the first girl (or even the second) that pays attention to you
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Definetely not.

Do not bemoan your fate as a young single male because when you have 4 kids you'll look back longingly on the halcyon days.
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I just want to keep going...

Do not assume that all girls like assholes
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Hard... Wouldn't be so hard if I haven't seen it so many times. But I think it is changing. I mean... the girls that I'm meeting now are older than the ones I was meeting at high school, and they sound wiser and more mature. I hope...

Do not become that asshole
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Definetely not!

Enjoy your youth
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That's what is my problem... I want to enjoy my youth... NOW! :D

Meet and befriend lots of girls
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God bless that! :D

Fall in lust
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Huuh... I prefer to control myself. Not that I won't sleep with a girl before marrying her, but... :D

Have fun
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I certainly will... if I don't stay alone forever...

Drink too much
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I don't drink nor smoke

Make an ass of yourself
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I don't know what that means. And I don't want to know!

Fall in love
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That's not happening anymore. I'm only feeling atraction right now. My plan is like this right now: 1. I feel atracted to a girl, 2. I get to know her better, 3. I go out with her and have fun, 4. Maybe I fall in love. That way I don't get broken hearted.
Get your heart broken
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No way!
Learn many lessons
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Yeah sure...
Find the right girl at the right time and hold on
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I will!
 
outlandish said:
I have many mates who are girls. Im curious as to why you get burned when you ask them out?
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Are you a girl? Are there boys here?

No boys allowed in this thread! :D
Go away, all boys! :D

Anyways...
I don't know why I get burned! That's why I began this thread in the first place! :D
 
Truthseeker,

I am a guy, but the best advice I can give is to not worry. Enjoy every moment, stick to your principles and keep a stiff upper lip. Its a good formula.

One question: Why '4' kids?
 
Truthseeker

You want kids? You want true love? You want to be loved for who you are? yes?

The stop acting so pathetic in the first place. You sound exactly like those flies that hang around pretty girls acting nice, acting (or actually are) benevolent and thoughtful, caring about their mindless banter about how they date assholes.

I'm just wondering, cause I want to have four kids and I'm already almost 20 years old so... I wonder if there are any girls that like guys just like me. I'm not perfect, but I don't think I'm as bad as I have been treated... For example, I'm kinda shy. But I'm working on that...
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See what I mean...stop acting pathetic. No there is no soulmate out there for you around the corner, you have to find her ass for yourself. Act like a man and stop coming off desperate. Stop being shy and first and foremost....stop caring about this like it is the most integral part of your existence. Do something worthwhile with your life instead of wasting time on love and heartbreak. You're 20...life lays a fortunate path ahead of you so stop shitting away time in worthless pursuits.

Love is a luxary, not a neccessaity. Go one with life and eventually you'll find a fuck buddy....

...if not there are always prostitues with a golden heart.
 
Xerxes,
One question: Why '4' kids?
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It is my lucky number :D
I was born on the fourth day of the fourth month of 1984, in the fourth day of the week... :D
And, of course, I liiiiike kids... and I will probably like the process of making them too... :D
 
sargentlard said:
The stop acting so pathetic in the first place. You sound exactly like those flies that hang around pretty girls acting nice, acting (or actually are) benevolent and thoughtful, caring about their mindless banter about how they date assholes.
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I'm not being pathetic, I'm just making fun of myself. That's how I have survived looooong 20 years... :rolleyes:

Do you want me to be serious? I can be serious. I do that all the time. I just think that it is boring to be serious all the time and I'm trying to change that.

Girls are really nice, as far as I know. There are some that are not, but they are usually good friends. They are less likely to forget about you when you need them.

Btw... I have never seen the situation you described (guys around girls, being nice to them), and ,in fact, that is not how I look like. But anyways... I don't pretend to be nice to people because I want omething from them, I'm really nice with people. If anyone doubts that, just do a search on me and you will find hundreds and hundreds of posts talking about how people should care and love more for one another. It could make a big difference in this world.
No there is no soulmate out there for you around the corner, you have to find her ass for yourself.
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I don't believe in soulmates.

Act like a man and stop coming off desperate.
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I don't go desperate. But I get annoyed about how some people treated me unecessarily.

Stop being shy and first and foremost....stop caring about this like it is the most integral part of your existence.
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I'm not shy... I just don't know what to say, or how to start a conversation or whatever.

Caring IS the most integral part of my existence. It is the very thing that defines it, in fact. If my existance don't make a positive difference in the world, than my existance is pointless and meaningless.
Do something worthwhile with your life instead of wasting time on love and heartbreak. You're 20...life lays a fortunate path ahead of you so stop shitting away time in worthless pursuits.
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Having a family is a worthless pursuit? It gives me experience, wisdom, peace... It gives me a lot. Why do you say it is worthless?

Love is a luxary, not a neccessaity. Go one with life and eventually you'll find a fuck buddy....
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I don't want a girl just to "fuck" her, I want a partner to share experiences. It is much more rewarding and pleasurable than just having sex (I'm pretty sure). Maybe it is you that should grow up and be mature.

...if not there are always prostitues with a golden heart.
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No comments... :rolleyes:
 
I don't want a girl just to "fuck" her, I want a partner to share experiences. It is much more rewarding and pleasurable than just having sex (I'm pretty sure). Maybe it is you that should grow up and be mature.
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I did, thats why I stopped wasting time on this and started doing something worthwhile for myself. I stopped making other people my sphere of influence and learned the age old wisdom that happiness comes from within, not defined through relationships with other people....sounds like you need to do that since at 20 you're worried about not being in love or having 4 kids.

Girls are really nice, as far as I know. There are some that are not, but they are usually good friends. They are less likely to forget about you when you need them.
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Dump em and move on.

If anyone doubts that, just do a search on me and you will find hundreds and hundreds of posts talking about how people should care and love more for one another. It could make a big difference in this world.
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Yeah...candies and butterflies and all that happy stuff. It could make a difference but eventually it ends up back to "Might makes right", love and caring is not deserving for many people, they simply need to be beaten into civility....and, no I am not cynical, infact I am much more along your line of thought but I also see reality.

It is the very thing that defines it, in fact. If my existance don't make a positive difference in the world, than my existance is pointless and meaningless.
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World?...ambitious aren't we? Good luck to you if you feel this way...no really, I mean it... god speed and best wishes but chances are you end up effecting a few before you die and are forgotten by the same world you set out to change.

Before going too much off tangent: Stop forcing love, stop asking what is right or wrong and what to do or not to do. If there is such a thing as love then supposedly it is suppose to happen to you at the most inoppertune time but I doubt it. If it does happen then you'll know what is right and what feels right.

Only thing you can do is do what you set out to do...."care" for the world...someone will find that attractive...there is always another sucker looking for love just like you ;)
 
Truth, before you go having yourself a bunch of ankle-bighters, you might just try being a some strapping Adonis's pillow bighter. You've already proven yourself to be a completely emasculated man. Why stop now? I'm sure there is a truckstop or rest area close by where you can find loads of gobblers.

Just kidding. You'll be ok. Just get some beer and porn. Chicks dig that stuff.
 
Sargentlard said "Only thing you can do is do what you set out to do...."care" for the world...someone will find that attractive"

In addition to that, greenpeace does have quite a few female members. Maybe you should "Save The Whales"
 
1. When a guy sits himself down and posts up a questionaire full of questions as stupid and lonely as he is, do you:

a. Let him know that at 20 he's already marked himself as the lonely old man that will sit out one day in front of a liquor store drooling at schoolgirls

b. tell him that the right girl would be the one twice the man he is

or

c. tell him that the online world is guaranteed sterility, specifically for those that, like him, are as clueless as to what makes humans Human as they are about why girls can't stand him.

Classic example of Naivette 101, and I quote:

If anyone doubts that, just do a search on me and you will find hundreds and hundreds of posts talking about how people should care and love more for one another. It could make a big difference in this world.
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"Love" is only positive reinforcement, kiddo.

Look it up anywhere- its nothing more than fancy behaviorial psychology. "Love" between two people is as forgettable as they are, as insignificant as the stain on my wall is to the universe........ but knowing what "love" really is and exploiting it is what would make all the difference in the world. Not what you said.
 
When a guy compliments you, like saying that you are pretty or young, what do you do?
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Grab him by the hair and smash his face repeatedly into a concrete pillar. Then have one of the many men who follow me as suppliants lick the blood off my hands as I smile.

You slap him
You smile
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Wince at the blatent attempt.

When a guy say something nice to you...
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It better not be spontaneous. Men should only compliment me when begging for their pathetic lives.

You feel embarrassed or bad
You feel nice and loved
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I cringe, wondering how to repay the insincerity with a suitable insincerity.

Do you prefer a relationship that is based on...
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Sex, love, adventure, the pursuit of the higher and above all, on his ability to follow along with and complement my ideas.

Sex
Honesty, open-mindness, care, communication, sharing, love...
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Honesty, open-mindedness, care, communication and sharing are what they do trying to attain the first. Any woman who tells you she's in a relationship because her boyfriend is 'caring' is covering for the fact that she's settling for him.

When a guy is caring for you, do you...
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Caring as in get me black russians and rub my feet or caring as in compensating for the fact that he's bad in bed?

Find him to be weak
Find him sweet and like him
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Poor bastard - "sweet and likable" is another way of saying "never going to be fucked this side of Ragnarok"

A strong and big guy, eventhough he is jerky and treat you like an object.
A caring guy, that treats you well and is interested in your character and personality more or as much as your body.
A dumb guy that acts in a kind of retarded way
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One is not interested sexually or romantically in men one "likes".

Do you prefer a guy whose dream is...

Getting rich, very rich
Have a little nice family
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Any man who could claim either as his "dream" should be shot.

sargentlard:
Only thing you can do is do what you set out to do...."care" for the world...someone will find that attractive...there is always another sucker looking for love just like you
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I repeat - a woman who claims to be attracted to a man because he is "caring" is either settling for him or the product of such intense abuse that she's afraid of anything more.

15ofthe19:
No, you had it right the first time. Truthseeker is the kind of man one cringes to see coming, because you know exactly what's going to happen. Softer, weaker women will keep him around as a pet but very few will ever want the "love" he spreads like a cheap whore.
 
Yeah, dude... pretty sure women like conviction and/or confidence in addition to oozing "caring" out of every pore.

And as for women being smarter than guys in general... have you ever actually listened to half of them instead of just spewing compassion? Most people are morons, no matter their gender, race, creed, whatever. It's in our basest instinct for women to be attracted to strength, among other things. If you don't at least show some then you'll just end up with some overly domineering bitch who takes your money and makes you take care of the kids while she goes to fuck around. Sheep get shorn, mano.

p.s. Don't get me wrong, I actually do have a great deal of empathy. Saving spiders and whatnot, love and trust to your brother, etc. It's just really annoying when some spout it because that's the only facet to their personality.

p.p.s. I also love women. They're almost all beautiful, and the really beautiful ones are REALLY beautiful. It's part of my mission to help them be happy, whoever or wherever they may be(As long as they're not bitches... such a waste).
What could you say? Who made 'em? God must've been a fucking genius!


(Damn I hate the "trying to pick up chicks" posts, and I can only hope that's not what I'm doing)
 
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