Getting a girls attention

To Cyberia who wrote: "Lucy : A) I'm a woman! ARGH!!!"

Do I sense some issues mon petite?

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Shut up! So what if my mom gave me a boys hair cut when I was little if it scarred me for life!

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Ellimist: I think its a fair question to ask... I think perhaps a discussion of what attracts us to others could have been a better way to approach it. But hey why not come to the REAL experts

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To Cyberia:

Perhaps it is a good idea to ask what attracts you to others, I mean lest you end up marrying your mother!

(Of course I mean someone like your mother)

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WHAT NOW?
That post didn't even make any sense!
What are you talking about?

 

To Cyberia:

What I mean is this: There has been some research into how people choose people to be in relationship with and they have discovered that many subconsciously choose a partner who has the traits of a major care giver...usually the most negative traits. So I was just saying that it is a good idea to start a post where you take a look at what you are looking for (clarify them so to speak) or you may just end up with someone like one of your parents i.e you mother!

 

Ah! See now isn't it nice to express yourself clearly?

That would be an interesting kinda discussion... what your looking for and why.
then think about what influenced that trait.

 

Yea it would. I mean it is nice to think about what someone else would want but far more interesting to consider what we want, invite or attract and why.


Cyberia:
" Ah! See now isn't it nice to express yourself clearly?"

Do you have to be a constant prick? Hardly the way to get a girls attention.

 

amm , am I stupid or(xor) is cyberia a 16 years old girl? why would she want to get a girl's attention(you know the kind of attention I'm thinking about)

oh and cyberia , I can't marry you until I see some pictures , we're no longer in the dark ages you know

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... oh yes and I'd have to travel all the way accros Europe and the Atlantic

 

Do you really have to be that defensive? It was a joke. It wasn't meant to offend you in anyway and I'm sorry it did. and I'm sorry If I'm coming off as a Prick in some way.

Usually unless what I'm saying directly on topic its a joke... I'm kind of sarcastic but I never mean it in a mean way.

Capi: I hate to break your heart but I was in fact joking... I feel I'm a little young to marry and well yeah ^-^;; Not really looking for wily females either.

 

Re: hahaha

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....there is nothing specific when it comes to women...i 'll say it first..guys are terribly predictable on most occasions but women..negative....there are no two women alike...i have yet to see two alike in personality..ofcourse i am talking about interesting women....not air head bimbos....As beautiful and as amazing as they are, they are sure are a chore to figure out because just when you think you have figured them out they go and pull a 180 on you...or am i really a dunce.

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Being confident is a vague advice but the best one you'll find. Unless you're filthy rich, have a tongue of a saint Bernard, and look like Brad pitt..then screw confidence you'll get anybody.

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! keep waiting for specific instructions. youll turn rotten first. on a lighter note, once youre rotten you wont need the advice.
from experience: one most common most beloved topic is music. never be shy ab kissing etc, if you ask, no matter how good you did up to there, shell say no. just do it. if you dont it will never happen. sarge is right again, confidence EVERY STEP OF THE WAY TO THE TOE.

 

You also got to smell somewhat decent. I've noticed that girls usually tend to back away from me after I play a long game of basketball.

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Well, of course - smelling of BO will not attract the women as it attracts flies.. but I've also noticed that too much fragrance (especially the shitty kinds) tends to drive them away, as well. Women seem to like a slightly conspicuous body spray. Drives them wild

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Although...there are so many carcinogens in the sprays these days that I usually steer clear from them. At most, I'll sprinkle/spray some on my clothing. And I can still attract the ladies

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Specifics

Evolution has programmed women to be attracted to men who have good genes to pass on to any future children and can provide for those children. For you that means signs of health and wealth.

Health

This means get in shape and keep clean. Whether they admit it or not women look for broad shoulders, narrow hips and a flat stomach along with shiny hair, clean skin and no BO. They also look for tall men, but that’s something you can’t really effect that much.

Wealth

Accessories are very important. Guys don’t pay much attention to these, but women sure do. They will look at your haircut, watch, belt and shoes to determine your financial status. Poor guys may spend money on nice clothes, ignore the accessories and have a bad haircut. A rich guy will rarely have a bad haircut, a cheap watch or shabby shoes no matter how he’s dressed.

 

specifics

dont be shy around her.
dont be too aggresive.
you said your already inshape. now just show her that.
learn to dance.
dont even think of that mutilation thing. only works for the sycho gals. and i dont think theyr the kinda chicks ur trying to get.
dont be too consernd about how u look. or atleast dont let her think ur consernd
but still put an efort to looking good.
dont dress all ghetoee. but dont dress too prepy iether.
where clean clothes.
dont give her dead animals.
dont give her knives or explosives.
dont give her cash.
dont try to look all kool. dont die ur head neon and spike it.
look sexy as u can. but dont look like your trying to look sexy.
if some1's picking on her defend her.
dont let people pic on you.
dont look like your aggresive twards other guys. but a few girls like it so it depends.
dont say your gay. especialy if people already think your gay.
dont take her shoping. its not manly.

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dont wear clothes that show off your meat. be modest. or rather, look like you want to be modest but like your still hot.
flaunt cash. this will get the superficial girls.
done be mysterius.
be cool. dont be spazzy and loud and annoying.
dont be quite and still and shy.
dont work out infront of her. make it apear that you that way naturaly.
if shes the dark moody tipe than act like you understand. act. i know u dont.
if shes the evil sycho goth type then shopw off your collection of skulls.
if shes the bimbo type show off your dick.
if shes the tomboy type play some games w/ her. dont let her win all the time. ul look weak. dont make he rloose all the time you look mean.
if shes the smart geeky gal show off your 5kill5 by hacking some1. get proof. this isnt that movie hackers. dont wory. no virii.
if shes the cool suave thing act like a cool suave thing.
and it depends on age.

if she still doesnt want you put a landmine under her car and nail a burning puppy to her door then do ding dong ditch.
btw its a six pac. not eght. and eight pac is when your diafram swells up and you cent breath then your stumach muscles clench giving you an eight pac, the stomach plus diafram.

why listen to me.. i have yet to geta decent gf. lol.

 

Wow -- Lucid Dreamer pretty much summed up this thread. I think there are a *couple* of things to add to the list, but that's about it. As specific as you can get without trampling on individual preferences.

For example, yesterday (in synogogue) I had this one girl comment on my shoes. Even though we were both not interested in having a relationship, you could tell that she paid a good deal of attention to the extravagant (by that I mean very showy) shoes I was wearing. Another girl couldn't help but smile whenever near me -- and in a good way. (FYI, whenever I go to synogogue, I take care of all the accessories, as well as the hair. So this increased lovin' is expected

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Oh - And Cthulus slave, I think you're wrong about the second one. Thing is, not long ago, I turned this girl super on (whats the word, damnit?) Just by being incredibly aggressive. It wasn't that I'm a mean guy, or anything. I was just in a really annoyed mood back then. Girls tend to look for a father figure, you see. So I guess being aggressive doesn't hurt as long as it's genuine. And not the manufactured kind. The 'go get 'em' attitude, if you will.

 

I’d say avoid trying to get “girls to notice you,” rather just approach the ones you want to meet. In the beginning you’ll get shot down a lot as you’ll be nervous but you’ll pretty soon realize that a girl saying “no” to a date or conversation isn’t a rejection against you, personally, she’s just looking for something that’s not you. No biggie, it happens all the time. The old saying “plenty of fish in the sea” applies. Don’t get hooked on a “dream girl” by just her looks. Approach the ones you find attractive and see if her personality is attractive to you, as well. If not, politely end exit.

***Disclaimer***
I don't go for long relationships and I meet a lot of women through friends (networking is very important). This means that in the last six or seven years, I've been officially "single" but have almost constantly been dating. I have many on again/off again relationships with women that have spanned years and some that have only lasted weeks (I don't go for one night stands, anymore). What all that means is that I've "landed" or "hooked up with" (or whatever the kids are calling it these days) a LOT of women. I started dating this way because when I was younger, I was staggered by how many long-term, loving relationships dissolved into nothing after a breakup. If I’m interested in a woman enough to date/hang-out with/have sex with, than it's guaranteed that I respect her enough to remain friends after the fun has stopped. I decided to stop getting into long-term relationships and set out to have as much fun and friendship with as many women as possible. I’ve remained friends with all of them (and dated many of their friends as a result).

I'm not a hottie. I’m not hugely muscled. I'm just average looking with a medium build but I exercise regularly so I look good naked and you can see I'm in shape by the clothes I wear (usually just a long sleeve T and jeans, though I do get dressy if the occasion calls for it). Basically, let's just say that I don't attract a lot of women with my looks: They don't approach me, so I approach them.
***Disclaimer***


I've found the most important things, when it comes to "getting a girl to like you,” to be these:

Make eye contact and give her a genuine smile (Honestly, it can be that simple – Try this for an experiment: The next time you’re in a convenience store and there’s a girl behind the counter, make eye contact and give her a real smile (y’know, the kind that also involves your eyes – One that’s almost to the point of meeting a long-lost friend). Before you’ve even said anything, watch her smile back. That’s half the battle to an initial meeting, right there.

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Be confidant. Not aggressive but just let her know that you mean what you say, you say what you mean, you know what you want and what you will and will not put up with (don’t be rude).

Make her laugh, but be subtle about it (self deprecating humour is really, really effective. Especially when you’re putting something down about yourself that you’re obviously good at). Women love to laugh. If you’re the one making her laugh, she’ll start to associate being around you with having a good time.

Empathize with her (but not too much, you don’t want to be her girlfriend, after all).

Flirt. Flirt all the time (this is a skill, I can’t tell you how to do it, so you’re just going to have to practice). You don’t want to be too overt or turn everything into a sexual innuendo… You just want to let her know that you’re into her. Initially, she’ll be wondering if you mean anything more than what your flirting suggests and it’ll drive her a little crazy (this is good at the beginning because she’ll think about you more – don’t go overboard by trying to be “mysterious,” just leave a little room for her to ask herself “I wonder if that was flirting or real?”). And hell, let’s just admit it… It’s fun!

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Be honest (This is very important).

Treat her friends with the same respect you treat her.

That’s pretty much it. I’m very honest about who I am, what I want and what I stand for so there are no surprises for her later on. Even if the relationship lasts for only a couple weeks, by the end of it, we’ve both had a great time and come out of it remaining real friends.

And don’t worry if you’re not “confidant.” Confidence comes with time and exposure to women. The more women you can hang around with, the less stressful new situations will be and your natural confidence (the kind you feel around your guy-friends) will start to show up, even around a woman you’ve just met.

 

Ohh mann.. I just read through this thread, very funny

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Way too detailed though for me...jeez...I just look for someone with a fair amount of intelligence and no arrogance, and someone who I connect with well, and can make a relationship work with (which includes honesty, communication, ability to trust). That's pretty much it, though. The higher expectations then are created later on depending on the person and what the relationship/connection needs.

This is partially just my preference, but power, wealth, showing things off; doing anything out of the ordinary for that matter to get my attention in any way is a turn off. I like as much as "down-to-earthness" as one can get.

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make a face like this

 

Grrrowr.... that's hot!

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