I've just recently joined a dating site for the first time. And i find it much harder to get any progress on the site than real life. I dunno what it is. I've messaged women who are looking for someone and i get nothing. No reply. I have had some messages from women but not really anything worth persuing further than a simple chat. The one's who replied messaged me first. I think either there's a lot of fake profiles or the women want an impossible carved out of stone he-man clone who simply doesn't exist without a boatload of steroids and supplements.
Women are a little leery of dating sites. It's an easy way for a predator to find potential victims. Of course women can be deceitful too, but most men don't worry about being stalked by a woman, if only because most of us are stronger than most women, not to mention having more experience in physical altercations. In fact, it's commonly asserted that the best way to find a date on the internet is a social networking site like Facebook. The advantage is that the conversation you engage in is not one-on-one. Your friends will be able to read your messages and correct any deliberate errors or exaggerations, and the same is true of the lady's friends. In any case, you'll have verification that she is real and more-or-less civilized. If you notice that none of her friends join in the conversation, then you might want to worry. Of course, again, this is probably a greater worry for women than for men. I have always advised people that the way to find someone who likes the same things you like is to simply go out and do those things, and you'll probably meet other people who also like those things. This can actually be extended to the internet: A couple I know met on a poetry website. And never forget this (possibly frightening Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!) statistic: Most Americans meet the people they marry at work. There are two good reasons for this: We spend more hours at work than on any other single activity, including (for many people) sleep. At work, people have to be more-or-less honest about who they are. You can't keep up a front for 40 hours every week unless you're a professional spy. So you get a chance to learn what another person is like: what she laughs at, how she handles disappointment, how bright she is, how responsible, etc... BEFORE you go out on your first date.
Most dating sites are not really very good. They tempt you with gorgeous pictures of beautiful women to join up. Once you joined you start to try and get a date with them and usually there's no response or they turn you down. After a few times the pictures of the women become less attractive and then they start to write you back. Those women, not to be demeaning, aren't what the site told you that you could have a date with and then you just stop trying to date there. It goes from beauty to ugly pretty fast, again not to be demeaning to women. I know, I've tried too and I can only attest to the site I was on so perhaps not all of them are the same. Ask yourself if you were a beautiful woman why would you be on a dating site not knowing who or what might ask you out.
long-----l o n g ago: I signed up for a computer dating service which pared me with women of like intellect. (I was living rural, and not meeting any single gifted women.) What I found was refreshing, intelligent, educated, professional women interesting conversations, pleasant experiences, and women who really wanted a man. Then: I went on to my 5th university, found a constant supply of intellectually stimulating material and lost track of the last one(first violin on the Kenosha symphony orchestra) I had dated(a tad kinky---she vocalized a lot during sex), and the list on which I had found her. Similar circumstances: I'd do it again. (beats the hell out of being lonely)
Going out to concerts, art fairs, museums and other places that you enjoy going also will find many women. Just find what you like to do and do it, you should find women at wherever you enjoy going just don't go to bars.
Several years ago a rather good-looking female friend did, indeed, sign up for a dating site. She dated about half of the guys she met there, but each of them got about three dates and then the brush-off. What she was actually doing was attempting to make her boyfriend jealous. He is a musician and she kept bringing these guys to his band gigs! It didn't work. He came over during the breaks and sat down with them, having a perfectly nice conversation. He continued to treat the lady rather badly, for the very good reason that SHE was stuck on HIM. She finally moved to the other end of the country, expecting to break it off and start a new life. But he flew out to California several times and showed up on her doorstep, so she couldn't get him out of her mind. What finally happened is that in a drunken stupor he slipped and fell in the bathroom at one of the bars his band played at. He injured himself really badly, couldn't even walk. Seven years later, he's still an invalid with no hope of recovery. Meanwhile, she finally broke his spell and married a guy on the West Coast.
It looks like i did the right thing by deleting my profile. I got some replies etc but it just wasn't for me really. I'll just meet someone through work or through one of my friends i think. I noticed there was an influx of ''fake'' profiles or people using abandoned profiles posing as ''real'' wonen. It was pretty strange. I searched he cache on the image and some of the profiles and i noticed one woman used three different pictures of three different women. Who knows if it was a guy or a girl. Ah well. I think i'll completely opt out of the internet dating site scene. I think i'd rather keep my sanity
it's possible to find a good woman or man as case maybe,on dating sites,,it just takes some doing.. You just have to be honest in your ad and always post your own picture.. If you're just looking for a swinger,, hornymatches.com is pretty good..I've got few responses from some women,single,divorced,quite nice looking too..didn't meet them as I didn't think we would be compatible.. On CL I got couple replies from nice girls too..also bunch of fruitcakes or jerkoffs pretending to be women,,what gave them away was lack of pictures in their emails and their need to "text" first.. Women that want to meet you will say so right away,,there are many that are only looking for friend with benefits aka play for pay lol,,,but there are plenty of lonely singles out there no doubt and thanks to the Internet it's easy to look anywhere in the world. Also tried japancupid as I plan to visit that country,,got whole bunch of Chinese and Philipinas girls looking for a sugar daddy,,that's not to say they may not make good girlfriends or wives,,I'm sure many would.. They just don't appeal to me as much as Japanese women,,,made few connections on Mylanguageexchange.com as I'm trying to learn the language before traveling there..
