Are you for or against spanking kids ?.

Discussion in 'Human Science' started by mike47, Aug 15, 2009.

  1. madanthonywayne Morning in America Registered Senior Member

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    Somehow that doesn't surprise me a bit. I was much more pragmatic. Even though it didn't hurt at all, I'd attempt to appear contrite and suppress the urge to smile. After all, if my father had realized how little discomfort he was inflicting he might have grounded me or done something equally annoying. Much better to put up with a few seconds of spanking.

    This illustrates that spanking, while very effective with young children, is a poor choice for older children. For them, grounding or taking away various privileges is much more effective.
     
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  3. Bells Staff Member

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    I tried to spank my eldest once. It didn't work. At all. He lost the plot and kept talking about it for weeks and weeks afterwards, and cried each time. It was an overly traumatic experience for him and one that he still remembers and brings up every once in a while. We found with him that taking away his toys was a much more effective tool and he turns 4 in September and he is a very well behaved and sweet child the greater majority of the time. His room has no toys in it at all. And when he is sent to his room, he does not get to "play". He knows it is for punishment. And he is the type of child who loves to play with his toys or run around outside and if he is that naughty and sent to his room, it is vital time away from what he loves to do and so far, it's worked. Even the mere threat of being sent to his room is enough now. Boredom is not his thing at all.

    Our second (he is 2) is another thing altogether. Sweet and loving but he is an absolute terror.. for lack of a better term. He is the child who tries to escape at every single opportunity. He is the child who scaled the bookshelf with a banana in one hand (he did it in the time it took my husband to walk to the kitchen and back into the study).:bawl: He is the child who we run like mad if we do not hear him, because we just know he is doing something he should not be doing. Yesterday he had snuck into the dining room and was dancing on the table. He is the child who dug a hole under the fence and bolted down the road at a sprint. As I said, he is a terror. He is the child who will grow up and tie a rope around his waist and leap off a building or cliff for fun. Sending him to his room simply does not work. He takes his little blanket and plays peekaboo with himself and cackles like a little lunatic the whole time he is in there. We've tried everything. Taking his toys away doesn't work as he just finds something else to amuse himself with. He's not a tantrum throwing child. He's just the daredevil child that has turned our hair white (I kid you not, our hair has gone white in the last few months with our "little darling")..*Sigh*..

    So we spanked him for the first time this morning. A smack on his bottom. Not a hard one, just with enough force to make a little bit of noise and get him to behave (to not try to scale the bookshelf... again). And he looked at his father and giggled. Not a single tear. He giggled and said "tickle daddy.. TIIIICCCKKKKKLEEEEEEEE!!".

    What in the hell are we meant to do with a child who thinks he's being tickled when he is being spanked? So we sat down and started thinking of what we could do. And we realised. His food! He loves his food. One thing he does love is his squeezy yoghurt (yoghurt in a squeezy tube that he can eat and run and play at the same time). So today we decided to not let him have his yoghurt (the child can consume enourmous amounts of the stuff if we let him). Each time he tried a daredevil stunt (he dragged the outside chair to the wall and tried to scale it:bawl

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    , we said "no squeezy yoghurt James". And he behaved. *Sigh*
     
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  5. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    Haven't been taught very well, perhaps?

    Parents just dying to beat the crap out of their kids?

    You equate discipline to beatings? You're rather a sick and twisted individual and are clearly prone to violent acts.

    Yeah, it's the kids fault so beat the hell out of them. Don't bother looking at the parents for fault.

    Translation: I WANT TO BEAT MY CHILDREN!!!
     
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  7. mike47 Banned Banned

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    You got it all WRONG . You have no idea what you are talking about .
    If you have nothing better to offer please keep away from my threads .
    Other people gave wonderful replies and I thank them .
     
  8. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    I was simply commenting on your violent tendencies to beat children. Why do you want to beat kids?
     
  9. breeze Registered Member

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    I was spanked a lot when I was a kid, I was beaten black and blue when I was a teenager, so I will never raise my hand against my children, don`t want them to fear me.
     
  10. mike47 Banned Banned

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    Spanking is NOT beating . It is another way to discipline kids . Some parents use it and some do not . Of course there are laws to protect kids everywhere .
     
  11. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    Spanking isn't beating, it's discipline. The world is flat. The sun rotates around the earth. Gods created everything.

    Note the similar delusions that are already shown to be false.
     
  12. breeze Registered Member

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    Well, of course I looked in the dictionary before responding to the thread. But when you spank a child you can do it heavily or as Bells wrote "just with enough force to make a little bit of noise". I don`t think that to spank a child that way so he or she don`t feel the pain is bad, but I`ll never do it.
     
  13. yasmin Registered Member

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    I do not have kids. I admire people who decide to bring other lives to this world, but I think most parents are not really ready to have kids. They fail to give them dicipline clear rules from the begining, respect and consideration for others, then children take control of the relationship and become tirants.

    The parents run out of methods to have control with the children and spanking becomes an option for them.
    I think everybody who has kid should watch the porgram " the super nanny" with these british nannies who come to help these families where the children have taken innapropriate control of the house.
     
  14. mike47 Banned Banned

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    Not all people have a good education on how to raise children and therefore it just might be helpful if governments add a course on how to raise children properly .
    We see lots of problems with kids these days and many parents are suffering the consequences .
     
  15. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    spanking is assault. I do not assault my children. Why rasie a child to think hitting is justifiable?

    If my daughter said something insulting and my husband slapped her for it, why wouldn't she think it would be ok for her husband to do the same thing?
     
  16. mike47 Banned Banned

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    So if the kids are out of control what will be your solution ?.
    Yes there are lots of kids out of control and no one can deny this .
     
  17. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    I've never met an out of control child that became that way overnight. Parents are lazy and inconsistent with their toddlers and then wonder why their 14 yr old won't listen to them. Parents should take a hint from Nanny 911 and Supernanny. Its all about rules and consistency.
     
  18. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    A ton of "soul"searching in a mirror.
     
  19. (Q) Encephaloid Martini Valued Senior Member

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    There are few if any who have a good education on how to raise children. However, there are plenty of materials to aide in ones journey. You'll quickly find they are overwhelmingly NOT in favor of beating children.

    You just said parents aren't well educated in raising children and that children should be disciplined with beatings.

    Is it any wonder there are problems with children?
     
  20. Syzygys As a mother, I am telling you Valued Senior Member

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    Dream on...
     
  21. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    My step father occasionally slapped me, and regularly screamed and roared about how he was going to beat me into gelatine, though he never actually did. I had no respect for him, I actually used to kick him in the balls then laugh hysterically.

    My mother, on the other hand, never needed to lay a hand on me.
     
  22. shorty_37 Go! Canada Go! Registered Senior Member

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    What were you doing when he slapped you?

    How old were you when you were kicking him in the balls? Depending on the circumstances like if he was beating you are something it seems like you were an out of control kid if you were kicking grown men in the balls esp a step father.

    What did you mother think about that? Maybe your step father stepped in because your mother was standing around doing nothing while you behaved badly? :shrug:
     
  23. Sciencelovah Registered Senior Member

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    This is actually come as a surprise to me.. What do you mean by "occasionally slapped" by your step father? :bugeye: How often do you get slapped?? And is it just a slap or do you get hurt / injured?? And does your mum know about it???

    I don't think it is okay for anyone to get slapped. In our face, there are vital organs, like eyes. Some damages could be just permanent.
     

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