About Brent (Tnerb)

Which is why I think that we had to let him know, Luci.

I regreted that I started this thread, because it makes him permanently banned. However, I hope from this event he will realize that he should seriously do something about it..

Do we need to have reason to help? If you witness somebody is drowning, but you know that he is a criminal, will you do nothing because you think it will do some good for the earth? People might have 1001 reasons of why they are doing bad things, but I don't think we have to have reason to help, when help is needed. If we can't help, then it's another case, but I think we should at least try. Or maybe I'm just being naive...

Anyway, I'd like to leave a goodbye message for Brent.

Brent, in case you read this, I'd like to advise you of these things, but it doesn't mean I am right, because I am not a doctor:

1. Please visit doctor, and tell him all of your problems, and ask for treatment. You might as well print 100 of your last posts here and show him, that you are like this, and you don't know why or how to stop it. Doctor must be able to help you. And you should help him to recognize your problems. If you are incapable of saying things directly to doctor, you might as well take time to write them down and give them to doctor. Don't be afraid of visiting wrong doctor. If you visit wrong one, the doctor will recommend you to the right doctor, or ask him to do so.
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2. I think if you are already in medication, you should stay away from the internet, online games, serious books, unproductive television program, and so on, until you are well again. You are no longer a kid, you should have seen it by now, which things are good and which are bad for you.
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3. Don't be associated with bad friends (e.g. who offer you drugs), even if they are the only one that are friendly to you. As long as your behavior deviates from normal behavior, doors will always be closed to you, like here, you see. The only doors that are open are from bad people around you, because misery loves company.
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4. You are only 18 or so, so it's not too late to get back on track. Do healthy and productive activities, like sport, help your parent doing chor, etc. If you have stop your education and you have no way to go back to class or perhaps you feel shy of your age or whatever, join some courses, like perhaps computer related, foreign language, etc, according to your interest. Make yourself busy learning them. When you get the skills, you will feel more confidence, and perhaps later on you can even applying for jobs.
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5. Don't wake up at 20 years later and realize that everything is too late. Practice to control yourself and be highly motivated to do daily improvement. If your environment does not support you, support yourself. If you do not, no one else will.

I wish you well, take care.

 

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To SAM?
Aye, she'll tell him to embrace Islam and everything will be alright. Well, maybe not if he goes over the edge and decides to blow up his local shopping mall... what am I saying. Go for it, Brent!
SAM would pretend to be all compassionate, all right... but you can bet that underneath she's got her own agenda.

And here's true concern for you.
Draqon is simply saying "You ran your own bath, now lie in it", with a pretty picture and what he thinks is pretty language to make it seem as if he cares.
Have you been practising shedding a single perfect tear in the mirror, perhaps, Draqon? Just another opportunity to show what a tortured poet you really are, isn't it? Hoping for the girl who will see the inner you.
Then again, probably half the reason you're all alone is because most of them already do.

You just described half of this site. The other half, of course, being those whose basic principles coincide with your own.

Most of them couldn't give a tinkers fart, but they're pretending to... and they don't even know it.
There are few things more disgusting then feigned compassion... unknowingly feigned compassion, though, is one of those things. The majority are simply acting in the manner they think they are expected to, in order to present an image.
Give it 6 weeks and most of this lot won't remember him at all.
For now, though, you've all got this symbiotic thing going on. How odd that you're talking of banning someone him, when judging by the response to him you love him being around. Even James. Bet he gets a little pudgy one, wielding that stick.

With great relish, I'd imagine.

That is not why you started this thread. It is, however, the way you'll justify it to yourself afterward. Note the use of the word "we", in the attempt to garner support.
It'll probably work. The village committee, shunning that they don't like, under the guise of doing good.

I've been called cold hearted, just recently.
But what have we here? A slew of seemingly concerned net jockeys telling a guy who appears to have very few emotional outlets to fuck off, and get help. Whatever it takes, as long as he stops making them feel so....disturbed.

Talk to someone, they say... as long as it's not me.
See someone, they say... so he can be comfortably classified.
Get help, they say... as long as he doesn't try to talk to them.
Find an emotional outlet, they say... but stay the hell away from here.
Take the drugs they give you, they say... so you can be one... of.... ussss....

Terribly sorry to interrupt. I'll just take my cold heart elsewhere, shall I?

 

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Maybe it`d really make things right for him, you never can tell.

 

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Religion cures mental anguish like Panadol cures a headache.

Because you can't feel it anymore, doesn't mean it isn't there.

 

Can't really help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. Many people here have tried but he just doesn't seem to care much about himself any longer as he won't do what his doctors tell him to do or even see them.

 

So the only way to help yourself is to take someone else's advice and/or chemicals?
*chuckles*

 

I didn`t mean that Islam or any other religion would cure him. Actually I don`t even think that he`s mentally ill. I think that this guy has a lot of spare time. Maybe if he`ll convert to any religion he`ll have some additional duties - helping other people, studying doctrines, attending church services and this gonna make him more... acceptable

 

fair point,

 

I think that you assume too much. Sam sent me PM, that she did try to talk to Brent, but in return, he sent her kind of abusive PMs. She didn't want to say it in this thread, because she is afraid he'll be banned. Anyway, he is banned now. She didn't tell me much details either and it is up to her to keep all the details.

To be honest I sometimes feel disturbed by his incoherent posts, and I didn't try to hide it. Some time ago in a thread made by James of whose posters we'd like to see be banned, I suggested Brent to be banned, because frankly I don't think this site is good for his mental health either.

Anyway, I have a brother about his age (18) who lives thousands km away from me. He has just passed his high school exam, and now entering university. As the oldest in the family, I am taking responsibility to guide him through his academic career. I know that boy in that age is quite unstable and still looking for self identity, so they need much support. As I look at Brent, I kinda ... huh.. perhaps he has nobody support him at all, so why not give a little attention. We don't know what will be happened to him after 6 weeks, maybe we will forget him, as you said, but when I see something isn't right, right at this moment in front of my eyes, I feel that if I can I should do something.

You said that I do this to present an image. What exactly is the benefit that I gain from that? To be honest, it disturbed my sleep last night and my work today a bit, but I would feel satisfy if perhaps a little thing that is gone from my time will do him good in long-term.

 

At least he won't be banned over and over again anymore

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I think Brent is a hopeless case on his own. He needs to accept help from someone close, otherwise I don't see how he's going to get better.
The permaban might help him, it certainly helped us.

 

And btw, three or four months ago, I sent Brent my phone number. I can take screenshot of PM, but I don't want to get random call from other people here. I said that if he needs any help I can be contacted in that number. This is not something that I casually do in an online forum. The only other people that have my phone number here are SAM and Oli. Brent never contacted me in that number, but if he still keep the number, he can still contact me. However, the main points that I wish to say to him more or less has been said in my earlier post.

I have to work *sigh* bye for now!

 

I think that instead of wearing that fairy avatar, he should have wear an avatar which says |no hope|

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Oops >.< Enny: :spank:
I.have.to.work.now. Bye

 

Are you nuts !?

 

Hey, what's the smacking about ? lol
See you later, Inny

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I think Brent's family is quite aware of his condition(s) and I don't think many members here have the psychiatric and medical expertise to help him. He has to choose to work with real life professionals.

 

Sometimes others can be of great help and support if you need help. Medications also have saved thousands of lives when taken as directed and following the doctors advice.

 

This thread has developed nicely such that it could fit in EM&J...

I wasn't implying that one requires a 'reason' to assist anyone. ('Appearances' to the contrary, I'm really not an unfeeling bastard...)
Rather, my point was one of pragmatic concern. I fail to see how any one of us here can help brent in any way beyond the giving of advice (of which he has received a veritable plethora). Any attempt at encouragement or direction can only go so far; ultimately, it is up to the individual in question to direct themself accordingly.

It does?
I thought the issue at hand was how to deal with a disturbed forum member...
In any case, I fail to see how anyone here could help someone else here with attaining a trustworthy counsellor...

Of course. You're correct, this is a common behaviour, but I ask you: who is then responsible for that behaviour?

Again, who is to blame for that?

 

lol

 

What moderators seem to misunderstand is the purpose of asylums. Asylum exists to keep wackos in one place, monitor them, and know where they are and what they do at all times so that in time we can moderate them. Tnerb will just create a sock-puppet use IP-anonymizer and voila we got a no more controllable psycho-rabbit.

 

I am just sad that I cant tease him anymore about taking his meds...