Better to have loved and lost...

baumgarten you are a POS

 

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You'll never know how I feel, you asshole! I hate you!

Okay, I understand that happiness is transient. My question to you was, what if you aren't afraid to lose it?

 

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No one wants to be born. When we don't exist, we have no will. I don't see why someone would want to be born.

 

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"Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?"

It is exactly what happened to me very recently, to have loved and lost, and I must say it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all, although when in the midst of the pain one may be inclined to say otherwise.

You just have to know when to let go. It may be hard and painful at the beginning, but there's nothing to regret. I have learned much. And you know, despite the fact that two persons love each other, to me there's no possession in this. Their two paths may eventually naturally separate and go in different ways, and maybe they'll meet again someday. But anyway you know, lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they live in each other all along. Life just is, things are in perpetual movement and changes, and resistance towards the flow is what engenders suffering, and it is what would make one say that it is better to have never loved at all.

Edit to add: As c7ityi_ said above, know that which does not come and go.

 

Technically it's a trick question. The two experiences are mutually exclusive; once you've loved you cannot never have loved--that door is closed. So nobody can compare them to give you an answer from experience.

But if you mean, is it better to have loved and lost than to not have loved, then I think yes, so that one can appreciate the difference. If you have never experienced bad weather (whether that's a hurricane or sunshine for you), can you appreciate good weather? I think not, so I would not want good weather all the time.

 

it's as stupid as asking: is it better to have existed or not?

 

Those silly emotions.

 

For sure, if any of family died tomorrow id still be glad of the things they taught me and gave to me.
Although i think youre probably talking about being infatuated with a member of the opposite sex when youre talking about 'love'. I have to say i personally think that brand of love is complete bullshit, couples should say 'i infatuate you!' instead of 'i love you' too each other.
Its a weird type of love, its too parasitic for my liking, its like allowing someone to completely inhabit your phyche and merge with you. And of course when the bond breaks down you have to rebuild yourself from top to bottom.