How comes so many people around the world seem to think that "Blood is thicker than water"? I mean in the sens that someone is always ready to try a families loyalties by pushing it to it's limits. For instance, I awoke this morning, to a warrant and a search from H.M. Customs and Excise. For what reason??? My aunt and what ever she's been up to, I nearly had all my computers confiscated, The only reason they left them here with me was for the shear fact that I wouldn't let them take them without arresting me. I didn't like the idea of a bunch of people supposedly crunching my harddrives trying to find concealed data on a system that doesn't house concealed data. (well nothing other than the OS) I was livid at the fact that they were trying to take my prize toys away. I mean I'm attached to them, I brought them into this world, and named them, even get them to play nicely over their network that I bought for them and I end up with the Government on a mission that has nothing to do with me trying to strip them away from me. If they had taken them I'm sure this flat would have been trashed and I probably would have jumped out the window in an attempt to end it all. [Okay you might say thats a bit drastic, but you know how us kids tantrum when you take our toys away lol] This whole post is really to ask, Should you stand by your family through such events, or just leave them to the wolves because they brought it on themselves?
This whole post is really to ask, Should you stand by your family through such events, or just leave them to the wolves because they brought it on themselves? *In a Marlon Brando type voice with cotton stuck in the cheeks* Stryder, you come to me and ask if you should stand by the family. You've been living off the family all this time. You reap the benefits from the family when times are good. You're protected by the family when the other families are trying to muscle in on your territory. I am not a man to mince words and I am deeply hurt by your insincerity, however I have never been one to throw a family member to the wolves. Therefore I will overlook this indiscretion this one time, however someday I may call upon you for a favor. You may go. Luca, I want you to pay a visit to Stryder's Aunt this evening. Then I want you to send Stryder a message. Tell him his Aunt swims with the fishes.
I ask myself the same question everyday. I figure a person has enough to deal with in life, without worrying about everyone else - including family. If she needs you be there for her, but dont make it a priority to keep letting the things happen just because she is your family. Ive gone through the same situations and I finally had to let the person go. I wouldnt be able to keep my sanity if I didn't. Take care Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Sorry to hear that Stryder, sounds like you had a horrible day, and what a way to wake up.... Well, what can you do? What are the options? Is your aunt the cause of this? If that is the case, then talk to her and tell her that if her life afflicts yours in such a negative way, she must reconsider what she ´s doing or stay away from you. You can´t tolerate people coming into your home trying to take your computers! Personally it would take a bit more for me to throw a relative to the volwes, I would talk to them first and make then understand that it must end.
Well lets see, (Q), You can't just dump a person in the trunk and take them fishing... Especially if you don't give them no rod, Capish? *stRgrL* You sound like your reasoning for past experiences that's helpful, your right I can't really stand by her, although I don't want to be a traitor to those closer to me. Bebelina I'm not sure if I want to talk to her at present, I know that if the powers that be wanted testimony from me then they would pretty much end up with a sheet load of paper that any half-witted lawyer could just kick out of a court room. So I don't need to cover for her. On the other hand if I did wan't to speak to her, I'll probably either have to get a passport, or a Visitors pass to a nearby Jail. It's just uncool for me, Because I nearly lost my computers, But not just that this flat I'm in is kind of to do with her, which means I won't be here for much longer and I have a very uncertain future.
Weeeeeeeeeeeell.... Before I reply....I just want to say.....Q-Dahling......what an excellent performance.......LOL.....whatariot....LOL Dear Stryder-Baby: Okay, not that my opinion is all that valid......but I do happen to come from a VERY STRANGE AND ANNOYING family (don't we all?) and I tend to be a very overly giving person who actually gives a damn about all the messes they get themselves into....granted.....no one has come to my door with a search warrant (yet?)......but if I have to help them switch long-distance telephone companies AGAIN so help me....(how many times can you blame it on "slamming" before you can SCREAM....."for the last freakin' time stop telling the telemarketer 'yes' -----I KNOW you don't speak ENGLISH......but gawd Maaaaaaa!" Sorry, went off on a tangent. Okay, where were we? Oh yeah, in my opinion....you have to choose your battles when it comes to family....and learning to discern what is important and valid is up to you. You know your family members very well......you know if they deserve your support or if they deserve what they get. You also know if they are truly sorry or when they are truly full-of-it. "Trust to your insincts" my dear Stryder....if you feel strongly about not supporting someone then don't.......be true to yourself....if you are not sure then wait and see what the situation brings. People worry too much about taking sides and this divides families. Be true to yourself...afterall, you are the one that sleeps with your concience.....for better or worse. It may sound selfish, but then again.....the true selfish ones are the ones that put you in that predicament in the first place. Finesse is the key.
Let her rot, Stryder. She dug herself into a pit, and she has no right to drag you down with her. Help her if you wish, but put yourself first. "Blood is thicker than water" is absolute bull. Being screwed over by a selfish relative is thicker than blood anyway. P.S: Glad to see I'm not the only one here who has named their computer. P.P.S: Nobody I know in 'real life' has. Mine's 790, which (for y'all scifi nerds) matches my nick.
Named their computer? You mean there is someone who doesn't? This one's name is Disaster. Have another named Land Mine. (Stumbled into more booby traps with it than I care to talk about) Family members... Sorry to hear of your rotten day. That's a heck of way to wake up. I had a simular experience with "friends" wound up with a trip to jail because I owned the property not because I did anything wrong. They are not friends anymore. Family members are something else though. You must be the final judge of what to do. You know the history, the events leading to how you feel, and how sincere the individuals are. But you should give family members more leeway than aquaintances and friends. They are the ones who will be there when everyone else turns away, in times of trouble and sickness. In that sense, you too have an obgliation to your family. So it is a balance, which is stronger?
I thank everyone for their support and differing views, afterall thats what makes a topic count, even as one as personal as this. As for computer names, Well ones called Argonaut, another Chaos and another Oracle. (No not the OS) No prizes for guessing the theme, although when I type to you lot, it's through Chaos. Afterall what ever I do on the internet can be the beginning and shaping of my universe.
this one is(Compaq) Zion Mainframe. the other(Dell Laptop)is Enterprise. Dad calls his as Energizer... i dont think there's a guy who doesnt name his computer... bye!
I already told you Stryder, Forget about your aunt, because she can sometime later put you in an even more serious shit and then you might not get away so easily. but I may be wrong, I don't know your aunt. My computer is named : Digital Dust
HHmmm. I'd say dont stick with them that much. But it depends also on what you feel you owe them. Hey, you seem to be in the UK, how come they wanted to take them but then didnt? Surely merely holding ontot hem so they have to arrest you to stop isnt enough? I dont name inanimate objects, though I do talk to my car, because a friend says it makes it work better. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
If you really care about the family tree trimming branches is as important as anything else. Family is extremely important and your family contains the only people in the world you should give a shit about. But if a family member is causing you grief and is generally a hindrance to the well being of the family unit as a whole they should be removed. I believe a family should have the right to kill one of its own, who's the government to say I can't murder my paint sniffing thieving unloyal cousin? He's ours not theirs. I don't tell them they can't pluck their monobrow. Pisses me off. My family unit banishes weak links regularly, if there was no law this definately would have entailed murder and probably public torture in some cases but there is law so we just stopped talking to them or in some cases beat them or threatened them and made them leave town. If you favour some stranger over your family you're a piece of shit, but if you just kill a family member for fucking you or another family member over that's fine. You can't grow a healthy hedge without snipping off the unsightly bits.
Oh dear oh dear. Not one person has tried to discern the Aunt's motives. Could the original poster please put his thoughts down on why he believes the Aunt has behaved like this. What led up to it, whats the history and so on so forth? Thanks c20
