What? Shopping? Not all transactions take place on-line. There remains a healthy population of females who consider shopping in person to be far preferable to other means of acquisition. I am one who prefers to examine a thing before I commit to it. Even with line produced merchandise, there are considerable differences to take into consideration. Eye contact in the shopping venue tells a lot of stories, and tells you much about the person and their objectives. Then again, I don't expect most of the gentlemen may be aware of this. For most men, shopping is a mission, and not a preferred one. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Still, I do meet gentlemen who enjoy their grocery shopping, evident by their discerning gaze when our eyes chance to meet.
I get the impression that many here live in a rough neighborhood. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
It depends on the type of aggressor, at which point the eye contact is made or refused, and what kind of eye contact it is.
Big cities... You don't make direct eye contact (because that can be seen as aggressive by an unhinged person) You also don't look down (that screams 'I'll submit, no trouble.' ) You stand straight, look confident, and sort of let your eyes slide over the person in an unfocused manner. If you do make momentary eye contact, break it immediately, and give a tight little nod of acknowledgement...this indicates respect, but not weakness. Don't smile, this indicates openness...if said person is looking for a mark of some sort...smile and you look like that mark. Trust your gut instinct about people...our subconscious picks up more than we are immediately aware of.
problem is not when someone doesn't care to lo0k at u....!problem starts when the person you care about, lo0ks at you....!Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! the eye contact is inescapable....! it doesn't even spare you when glares are ON...!Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
It's a necessity sometimes, like work... Well not all men are straight.... Or the eye contact is a sign of being WAY out of their depth.... Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Body language plays a part, eye contact can be seen as a challenge and result in confrontation, but avoiding gaze can be seen as already submissive and it becomes unnecessary to assert dominance. Other animals behave in much the same way.
Or you could just be a little less paranoid? Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Totally, human beings are deceptive, manipulative assholes, although not always openly aggressive and looking for a "mark" - they've usually already got one, and they usually don't pick them up in public but go for ones they already know. Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.
Sometimes the eye contact is in need of assistance, and I exude capability in my work capacity. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Based on my observations, it is primarily the straight males who will make eye contact with women in the grocery store. The playing field is level when both are stalking the best available selection and the need for food is something that both genders have in common. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Depends on the city. Here in San Diego you can look at people. Wow, that's a lot of thinking! I don't think nearly that much about it; most of it comes naturally. Agreed. And I think the (subconscious) amount of eye contact we make is part of that. People are _very_ conscious of where other people are looking - and that's not just when they are looking at your face.
Wow. They are eye checking you, if they look you in the eye they are interested in you walk up and say hi, if you look away they will most likely lose interest.
I notice straight men also give me stern eye contact if they look in my direction, men I presume to be homosexuals look at my body then kind of stare at me. I try to give everyone eye contact as a sign of respect. Theoretically, looking someone in they eyes will tell you everything you need to know about them. Not only can I pick out homosexuals from heterosexuals (not that I care, but I don't care for unwanted attention so I would prefer to avoid the situation), I can also pick the whores and the prudes, at least which female is attracted to me the most. I just want to be clear, I like women only, but I have absolutely nothing against homosexuals, please dont mix this up as being homophobic, its actually quit the opposite. I do however think it is my right to not be gawked at constantly by unwanted gawkers. The above is just an observation.
Eye contact is a very interesting mode of communication. My preferred use of vision is to keep my eyes in motion, broadly scanning, which does not require much head movement if one does eye exercises to improve their lateral and peripheral field of view. Walk with purpose, convey the message that one is observant, and only make direct or extended eye contact with persons of interest. Persons who may find me of interest are welcome to observe. I am always on the move and will soon be beyond their view anyway. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Agreed, sometimes it's a subtle and deliberate way to pick someone up, often it's just utter confusion. Personally I try not to think about it too much. Military minded man you see - Know your objectives, get in, get out, no fuss, minimal casualties. Park the getaway vehicle close. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Otherwise I know I'll be standing there like Monty Burns repeatadly saying "Ketchup.... Catsup..... Ketchup.....Catsup...."
Or not particularly memorable, unnoticeable, and unlikely to draw attention to herself. :shrug: You don't have to look in peoples eyes to know what's around you.
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Not necessarily. Sometimes this is a cultural behavior, and other times it signals concentration, or a disinterest in being interrupted. One needs to observe the rest of her body language to determine whether she is unaware of her surroundings. Most women have a wider field of view and so can be monitoring their peripherals without observably doing so.
