SOo... let me get this straight... Your little microcosm of a world consisting of one male who you define as a "player" is the vast collection of data you claim to be the irrefutable proof to prove that what he does is the only possible reasoning for such behaviour and in soo doing completely negates my statement ? Yes... well... i think the debate ended when you joined it.
I was using him as an example, as far as I know, none of your statements came from a vast collection of data either. I mean, can you even begin to understand how broad of a generalization you are making here? "I think they date bad partners because deep down they are not happy with themselves and want someone on their level." So according to you, it seems like bad relationships start by undergoing that psychological process. Nice, you got the world figured out. I have a more logical reason as to why men and women date the bad boys and bad girls: its just the "cool" thing to do. They date bad partners and bitches probably because those same people show a sign of independence, they are more rebellious, they appear more unique and with more of a character. Also, you completely ignore personal interests, looks, money, religion, hobbies, and all the other superficial factors involved as to why people chose partners... and end up not happy with them.
This whole men will date a bitch if they think she's hot is really quite depressing. I am certain that few men could be so shallow. and the ones who are only talking to that girl because she's hot, not even listening to a word she's saying, well the girl would either have to be extremely dim or self-absorbed not to notice and the guy would be one of those nightmare guys that go from fling to fling. and well in that case they're meant for eachother aren't they? Doesn't every guy have their own idea in what is beautiful, obviously there are some common factors in whats seen as hot or not. But some people are attracted to the misfit. plus no matter how hot or beautiful heaps of people may think you are there's always going to be some that think you're hideous (inside or out)
I had a friend who was exceedingly nice and really shy and also extremely beautiful. But no guys ever asked her out. She went all the way through high school and still continues through college without a boyfriend or even have a single date. That didn't make any sense to me at all she's gorgeous and sweet, we modeled together. So I being the great friend that I am Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! asked a whole bunch of guys that knew her about it. All of them thought she was attractive, but most of them said they were intimidated by her. Saying that she was too good for them and were afraid to approach her. What's up with that?
Says a lot about those guys, and makes me think about this quote that I read in a article about advice for women. It went like: "If a guy ever tells you he's not good enough for you, believe him". You have to think about that one for a second. Here's my take on that. It's generally accepted that a guy on average will get shot/turned down by a woman around 80% of the time. Meaning for every ten women he asks out, at least 8 will turn him down. The male ego is quite fragile. I cannot say this enough: GUYS DO NOT LIKE BEING REJECTED, and will go to great lengths to avoid being rejected, even if it means not asking a woman out. IMO, nothing, I mean NOTHING puts a bigger dent in a man's ego than when a woman shoots him down/rejects him.
Does she ever go out of her house? I mean, if shes got the looks shes bound to have someone chasing after her sooner or later. I know plenty of really pretty girls who have been single for long periods of time. They always complain about it, yet at the same time constantly talk about how they reject just about every guy that approaches them. There's something missing, especially if she went through college. Its not like a guy approaching her because she is pretty is suddenly going to reject her because during the 5 minute conversation he had hitting on her, he came to the conclusion that she was way too good of a person for him.
Its not because someones a "better" person (however we define that), that she is going to be more likely to reject a guy...
Then that means he has very little confidence or self-esteem. No guy, I repeat NO guy with confidence is going to think a woman, any woman is too good for him. And TBH, you can't really have that mentality (a woman being too good for you) and expect to be successful with women.
I'm not a bitch but sometimes I just get bored of really nice guys. They just seem to try to hard. I don't think men really like bitches they just like the excitement and challenge to get them. I don't think many men would want to be in a relationship with a bitch, they just like the chase.
I agree with you. And thats why I said theres something missing in cutsiemarie's post. she says her really beautiful and nice friend has gone through high school and college without ever being asked out. I find that highly improbable unless she is doing something really wrong...
And I in turn agree with you. However, her friend could have been putting out a 'don't approach me' vibe that women often (even subconsciously) put out. But yeah, I would think that at least a few guys would have taken the risk.
Anyone with a bitchy attitude is going to appear more attractive than a nice person. Its the whole cowboy, badboy thing. I mean, from personal experience, every girl I have ever been really nice to has put me off. Partially the reason why I have never ended up dating a girl I actually had strong feelings for. Its always been with girls I didn't really care about, I guess I act different and somehow that works best. I always have be a little late, call a bit later, wait a couple of minutes before texting back, miss a phone call or two. Its stupid, but its works. Its unattractive when someone is just readily available for you and does every right.
I also like those types but they are not necessarily 'good'Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
No such thing as a good 'bad boy'. You may define them differently but you have nice guys, bad boys and somewhere in between, I call those guys 'good guys'. 'Good guys' are the guys that will treat women the way they want to be treated, but will not stand for any b/s from the woman. They have options, and usually a fairly busy life.
