Women may like the bad boy, but men like Bitches. I read Archie religiously growing up. I'm stunned. I was so sure he's choose Betty. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Nice guys finish last, as they say. Isn't this just the whole alpha male/female thing anyways? The people at the top that everyone likes don't get there by being "nice", they get there by looking good and being ruthless when necessary.
I don't like bitches, but unfortunately those are the ones I usually wind up with anyway; because I'm usually nice to the nice girls and fairly assholish to the bitches(yet for some strange reason they seem to like that). Men like bitches for almost the same reason that women like bad boys...because they're not boring and usually unpredictable; a challenge if you will. I have otherwise no problem with that from either gender, but it pisses me off when I hear women bemoan about the lack of available good guys when they are all over the place (i.e. the nice guys), then wind up dating/marrying a total jackass. Same for men too.
I don't like bitches, but I don't like women who are pushovers, either. I'm not an asshole or a spineless wimp, so I looked for someone like myself; in between the two extremes.
I think if you broaden out the concept of bitch to the unreachable woman this works more generally. She could be someone who is troubled and hates herself. She could be distant for unknown reasons. She could be someone else's girlfriend. The excitement of not being able to reach her and have her or that tomorrow she might be gone gets confused with her value or with being in love. Bitches are a part of this category because they may, at any moment, flip to hating you. Then they must be won over. Virgins used to be in this role. Once they lost that virginity, that distance, that possibly never fully experienced, the men often lost interest in them.
The reason men and women date/hook up with the bad boys and bad girls is because they truly do not like themselves inside deep down and so think they are not worth a truly nice partner. they get a partner that is effectively corrupted because they think it is on parr with how they value themselves. what happens is they then grow as time goes on and think they deserve more(the selfish gene kicks in) and they demand to be respected more but still lack that respect for others. they eventually demand that respect and change in behaviour from their equal who can not deliver and so dump them/divorce, only to go right back to the same cycle yet again. over and over they go validating their self hate time and time again. it becomes like a drug addiction though and after a while they cant live without the drama. when people roll out the excuse of "lack of excitement" what they are really trumpeting to the world is their own lack of creativity and intellect.
Wow. Good post. Its true I think, there are many who mistake drama for love and relationship and have to have that kick in order to feel something.
There are plenty of good people who date assholes and cheaters who can pretend to be nice. I'm not buying your post, sorry, even shitty people want to date good partners, especially if you claim they are selfish.
as i said "they eventually demand that respect and change in behaviour from their equal" you are simply repeating what i have already said after you say you disagree with it. what is your point ? how funny LMAO
What can be more exciting than two people truly in love? Together they grow and gain. If that's not the case then they are truly lost.
Men like physically attractive women. This gives those women so blessed power. The power to be choosy, and to be demanding on the men that they do choose, because they both know the men can easily be replaced. They may not like the way she behaves much of the time, but are willing to put up with it because of how pretty she is. When you have power, it is difficult for the best of us to avoid abusing it. Men are no better, though the ways in which very desirable men misbehave are usually different than the way desirable women do. To sum up, power often makes men assholes, and women bitches. At some point in life both usually get their comeuppance.
All I am saying is that that your claim that bad partners grow and eventually demand respectful partners is illogical. Its not because someones a shitty person that deep down he is going to feel bad, and only date people on his/her level. Making such obtuse generalizations is rather silly dont you think? My player friend is attracted to bitches because deep down he knows hes an asshole... right. Hes attracted to bitches because they have an attitude and its a turn on for him.
Lifes a bitch....then you marry one....then you die! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! I do not like "bitches" and whenever I come across one I just never bother to see her again.