Why I didnt' want a baby girl

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/30/o.why.didnt.want.girl/index.html

Since I'm not a parent, I can't comment either way. But ladies/parents, is there any truth to this, or do you think cases like this are fairly isolated?
While it's true I think I'd prefer a boy (father son bonding thing), I'd still care for and love a girl just the same (just as long as she liked the same sports I did...haha).

I've heard raising a girl is much more involved and high maintenance than raising a little boy...from many parents. Is there any truth to this?

Discuss..

 

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I didn't want a girl either. If my daughter had been a boy, we would have had another child. But after her I stopped. No way in hell was I gonna risk having 2 daughters.

My brother and his wife have 5 sons and no daughters. My SIL looks at my daughter with longing. I do the same with her boys.

 

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To each his own, I guess. I think its much more fun to have a little girl in the family.

 

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Haha. So there is some truth to it.
Why didn't you want a girl? For the same reasons that the article author states?
Wait, I thought you had two children?

Hey, what's the latest and greatest on parents being able to choose the sex of their child? Is that a risky procedure or something?

 

True but I kinda find it puzzling that a mother of all people wouldn't want a little girl instead of a boy.

 

Why did you not want a girl?

I think girls can be more difficult, because they seem to have less of a pack social instinct than boys. Boys seem to submit to an alpha when they assert themselves, where girls have more of a 'my way or the highway' attitude, at least when younger.

 

Girls are more work. They are more intricate and more complex. Boys are easier. They are also easier to lead. My vast experience is based on interacting with other people's children, of course. But I have always liked girls.

 

I was honestly just sickened at the tone of the article. The author's no better than the nutty families who obsess over having a girl. OKAY. YOU'RE NOT GRATEFUL. WE GET IT.

Because boys NEVER do any of that. I'm so sorry the author is having a healthy baby girl. Oh, what horrible woes the Fates have cast upon her!

Look, I have my gender preferences, but I don't think it's vaguely okay to act this way, and to document it so your adult children can see it years later. If I have a boy when I have children, then you bet, "I always wanted a boy." If I have a girl, then you bet the reverse is said. If I have two, whatever I get is what I'm saying is exactly what I wanted. Because children deserve to be validated.

 

A girl gets pregnant she's usually stuck with the child. A boy gets a girl pregnant, he mails her a check for 216 months.
Every time my daughter goes somewhere we worry about her being raped. Yes, boys can be molested, but, you worry about it more with a daughter.
My son can sleep with how ever many girls he wants at whatever age he wants (my husband started at 12). No big deal. If our daughter did the same she's perceived to be a whore, especially if she was 12.

In so many ways, a daughter is harder.

 

why? because she's a girl. A woman knows how much harder it is.

 

agreed. You might as well write "I didn't want you" in their baby book

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I know! And it's not that I don't understand a preference. Like you, I feel more comfortable around little boys. There's a certain security there. With girls you have to teach how to claw your way to the top while remaining ladylike. That's hard, but worth it.

 

So ladies, (and I'm going on what you all have said so spare me the flaming, I'm sick of it anyway)....if you ladies admit girls are more of a problem, then when you have them, why not raise them to not be fickle, high maintenance and difficult? You ladies admitted that yourselves.
I've said I'd prefer a son, but it's not because I think girls are higher maintenance. I understand girls may (or may not) require more work, but it wouldn't be the reason that I wouldnt' want a girl.

 

Kinda more or less what I was thinking. Common sense.

I had dolls when I was a toddler (not the barbies but the 2 feet tall, almost displayable dolls), but I also had fire trucks and tonka dump trucks and toy guns. I agree with you verbatim on the toy segregation.

 

Until you get a pre-med degree and a psychiatry degree, spare me the attempt at judging my character, thank you. :bugeye:

When I did get along with both my parents, I had a better relationship with my father and wanted to live with him far more than I did my mom.

 

I think the boys-are-easier-to-lead thing is somewhat cultural. In China the daughters are much, much easier to control and much less troublesome. Of course, they are also used to being fully controlled by their parents, in a way that boys aren't. The culture here prizes sons above everything else in life (except maybe wealth), so as children boys are treated with a sort of deferential respect that largely spoils them and keeps them very young.

If I were Chinese I'd prefer a girl. They cause much less of a headache.

 

It's more about society being a pain in the ass than girls. From bits Orly and I have exchanged, I don't think she's raising a princess, by any means.

If I *had* to pick, although I think girls are more of a challenge, I might just pick a girl because I have some things I'd like to pass on, and having a niece, a little girl would have more stuff.