What does love feel like?

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  1. visceral_instinct

    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Inject adrenaline, lots of it...and I believe dopamine is involved too
     
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  3. Asguard

    Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    VI actually adrenilin would have little to do with it, well unless your actually having sex i surpose
     
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  5. visceral_instinct

    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Last time I was 'in love' with someone, I was extremely hyperactive and did not sleep due to thinking about this guy...which hormone is that?
     
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  7. Asguard

    Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    dopamine, seritonan possably, maybe a slight amount of adrenilin

    but you cant live on adrenilin or your heart would explode so i guess it depends if we are talking about love or lust

    lust could well be noradrenilin and dopamine but love lasts years and that much adrenilin over that time frame would kill you
     
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  8. Asguard

    Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    oh and most importantly testostorone and estrogen
     
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  9. visceral_instinct

    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Ah, thanks, I actually thought that was adrenaline...

    I guess it was mainly lust. Though it was definitely love as well, I had known this guy as a friend for a while, and I liked him for who he was as well as....y'know.

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    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    I was talking about the hyperactivity and high emotion, though. Can testosterone and estrogen do that?
     
    visceral_instinct, Jul 26, 2008
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  11. Asguard

    Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    testostorone also causes sypathetic arousal, thats what drives your sex drive not the fight or flight or frezees responce, estrogen is also involved.

    i will do some resurch today and try to give you a better answer than my best guess though
     
    Asguard, Jul 26, 2008
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  12. visceral_instinct

    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    I know adrenaline does not drive the libido...didn't know that it caused sympathetic arousal though.

    And thanks.
     
    visceral_instinct, Jul 26, 2008
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  13. Asguard

    Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    VI yes you did, thats what we were discussing in the other thread, increased heart rate and contractability, broncial dilation, vasoconstriction ect

    Anyway a quick search seems to suggest that pair bonding (love) is caused by Oxytocin in females and Vasopressin in men

    lust on the other hand seems to be caused by testotorone but lowered levels of the nerotransmiters like sertintonan and dophimine inhibit libido so they probably have something to do with it
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libido
     
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  14. visceral_instinct

    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    ah shit, I was on about testosterone there, sorry, I got confused. *slaps forehead*

    and thanks for links.

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  15. Betrayer0fHope

    Betrayer0fHope MY COHERENCE! IT'S GOING AWAYY Registered Senior Member

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    I couldn't help but notice that although I am only fourteen, I have definitely experienced what is described in post number 1, 3, and 4. I definitely don't consider what I felt love, but I definitely middle school style like "like like" liked her. Anyone think I might've felt a bit more than that? Because even after she was acting like a total b*tch to me I still felt the same way. Does this strike anyone as odd to anyone out there?
     
    Betrayer0fHope, Jul 28, 2008
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  16. Cellar_Door

    Cellar_Door Whose Worth's unknown Registered Senior Member

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    Sorry to not reply to anything in particular, but has anyone ever read Captain Correlli's Mandolin?
    In it the father of one of the main characters talks about two types of 'love':

    1. The hot, passionate love where you ache to be together, always have the other in your mind and you want to make love and touch as much as you possibly can. This rarely lasts long.
    2. The much more boring love which is often found as the first fades away. The quiet devotion which is not necessarily undying.

    I personally think that love is too broad a term, which doesn't differ from passion to seeing your newborn baby for the first time. Should we differentiate, or are they all essentially rooted in the same thing?
     
    Cellar_Door, Jul 28, 2008
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  17. Bebelina

    Bebelina kospla.com Valued Senior Member

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    It's disgusting.

    To read my old posts...
     
    Bebelina, Jul 29, 2008
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  18. S.A.M.

    S.A.M. uniquely dreadful Valued Senior Member

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    Love feels like an obsession.
     
    S.A.M., Jul 29, 2008
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  19. Bebelina

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    Not love, that's just great, like being tickled non-stop by someone evil and you try to scream but noone will hear you because you're dead.
     
    Bebelina, Jul 29, 2008
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  20. cannabisativa

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    am i in love

    I know this post is really old but i really need help, I've told this girl I love her and now we're in a long distance relationship with an end in sight; i.e. im going to college near her. she's my first girlfriend and we say were completely in love and i know she's in love with me, and i thought i was too with a few doubts sometimes, but based on all the descriptions above i am having many more doubts and if you doubt it it's not real love, no? i need help i don't know what to do anymore. she makes me happy and takes care of me and the sex is great but i get annoyed at her all the time and i can't accept her completely. i dont laugh at all her jokes in fact most are annoying, is it possible to love someone with these types of feelings?
     
    cannabisativa, Nov 25, 2008
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  21. Fraggle Rocker

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    Understanding love usually takes both a little experience and a little maturity. If this is your first relationship you don't have anything to compare it to. And if you're an adolescent your emotions are very highly influenced by hormones so it's hard to tell how much of what you're feeling is derived from what you experience and how much is internal. So it's wise to be skeptical.
    We all have doubts from time to time. The older you get and the longer you've been with someone, the less frequent those doubts are, I mean like twenty years apart, but they might still happen. But love is a feeling, not a thought process, so you should (to quote Roxette) "Listen to Your Heart." It's okay and in fact it's a really good idea to let your head intervene and tell you whether a particular relationship is healthy to pursue--you might not have enough in common, she might be lying, etc. But you generally don't want to let your head answer the basic question of whether you're in love. That's your heart's job.

    That said, I think most people would agree that when you're in love you know it and you're not going to have a lot of doubts about it.
    Lots of people might be able to do that for you, but it doesn't mean you're in love with all of them.
    Well that's not good. Even if you're in love with her, if you don't enjoy her, don't trust her, don't value you her, it will be really difficult to establish a healthy relationship with her. (I'm being sarcastic: It will be impossible!)
    Well she might have a lot of great qualities that attract you to her, and you might be in love with her, but if spending time with her annoys you that's not going to be the basis for a productive, healthy relationship. If you don't laugh at each other's jokes then there's something very important that you don't have in common. Understand that it might not be important to everybody, but the fact that you mentioned it and it bothers you means it's important to YOU.
    Of course it is. People fall in love with the wrong person all the time. Often they even marry the wrong person. It makes for a pretty miserable life in most cases. Contrary to the old saying, love does NOT conquer all.

    The important question for you is not: Am I in love with her?

    The important question for you is: Can I be happy in a relationship with her?

    Somehow I think that second question will be a lot easier for you to answer.

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    Love does not force a commitment on you. You can be in love with somebody and choose not to pursue it. In many cases it's more kind and fair to both of you to walk away from a love that is destined to fail, than to stubbornly stick around and watch it fail.

    Good luck.
     
    Fraggle Rocker, Nov 25, 2008
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  22. blackfoundations

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    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.

    -Corinthians 13:4-7

    You'll know...
     
    blackfoundations, Jul 26, 2009
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  23. visceral_instinct

    visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Edit:

    I posted here already...
    Anyway, it's a kind of feeling like you're going to have diarrhea when you think of someone, or look at them..
     
    visceral_instinct, Jul 26, 2009
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