If I was a selfish person I wouldn't have had my kids. They take up a lot of time, energy, patience, money. I put my career on hold and decided to stay home and raise them when they were babies. I look at that as a sacrafice for them. When they are babies they make going out for a evening a rare event. As they get older their demands change but are equally as frustrating sometimes. People that decide not to have kids have the freedom to do anything,go anywhere whenever they want. Parents on the otherhand have taken on a fulltime job in raising and caring for kids in the fun times and the trying ones. I wanted kids because I thought I would be a good mother and thought my life would not be complete in not having the opportunity to raise a family. Sometimes they can get on my last nerve, but other times have me laughing till my head hurts. I wouldn't have missed the opportunity for anything.
Bells, you win this thread. Accident is by far the most virtuous reason for having kids I can think of.
It's all good. I sometimes think the same thing about myself. I think I would make a great father and I do very well with children and they like me. And I do feel like I would be missing out on a big part of life if I didn't have children. I once had a professor, a real great guy, who when talking about his kids in class told everyone he wished they could all have the experience of raising children. So if I didn't have kids, I might be missing out on a big part of life. But is that a good reason to have kids? Again, it seems selfish and there's no way out of it.
I used to say that I didnt want to have kids. But one day I had an ephyphany... I was bored at home, a little buzzed from beer and laying down in bed and I started to feel my own pulse. I tried to comman my pulse stop but I couldn't, and I had one of those semi drunk realisations, I thought to myseld "wow, this doesn't belong to me, I can't control it". Since then I've been thinking that it's not up to me to just end my existence. I should make more heartbeats out of mine, I should keep this thing going.
I'm a full body organ doner, and I'm working on gaining weight so I can donate blood, if that's what you asked...
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That's the thing. I can't really be considered an accident. I was not supposed to be able to have children at all. I came down with what I thought was the flu, felt tired and sick, went to the doctors on my way to work one morning, she told me to do a pregnancy test, just in case.. when it came back positive, I told her the test was faulty, because I could not have children.. other doctors had advised me as such in the past. Re-did the test, positive again. By which point I told her the whole batch was obviously faulty. I was in denial at that point and terrified.. Nine terrifying months later, and after countless of miscarriage scares, I gave birth to our first child. We had our second child a year ago because we didn't want our first born to grow up an only child like I was. We had a leukemia scare with our second child at the start of this year. During which, the doctors and ourselves started discussing options for transplants and such and we decided that if our first child was not a match for a marrow transplant, then we would have to have a third, even though it would not be healthy for me to have a third child. I still feel guilty that I was considering having another child so that it could be a potential donor for bone marrow for our second child... desperate situations lead to desperate measures I guess. My thoughts still try to grasp how that child would have grown up thinking that was the reason he/she had been born.. to save his/her older sibling. I take my hat off to parents who face such horrible situations and are able to get by it with their sanity intact.
Okay, let's walk through this. 1. You thought you were barren. 2. You have sex. 3. You have child. 4. You're surprised. That's not an accident?
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They can make you laugh till you burst. They can make you humble, proud, resilient, stronger than you ever thought you could be. They can reduce you to tears with completely simple shit like taking a single step or hugging you like they think you are the single best thing that ever happened in the known universe. They give you enormous insights into things like your own childhood, the art of being a kid ( this is a huge one, huge!), your own mortality, the essence of instincts and hereditary, the magnificent power and intricacy of nature. p.s you did only ask about the good reasons. Oh! And they give you the gift of understanding true love.
