I would like to dedicate this article to Shorty, it is like they wrote it about her: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-3842.html&fromMod=popular_relationships "When her new boyfriend confessed that he looked at porn, Donna, 37, made her views clear to him. "I'm very antipornography," she says. "I think it's very degrading to women. I told him: This is something I can't have in a relationship." He assured her that he'd only been interested in porn because he was single and lonely. Then, after the two had been married nine months, she found out he'd never stopped, at times spending as much as $120 a month on Internet raunch."
Here comes the good part: "Many women feel that the guy who looks at porn must harbor some hostility toward women. Yet research hasn't established a link between pornography consumption and misogyny. One 2004 study found that porn users actually had slightly more positive and egalitarian views of women than other men did" Also: "Porn can actually help foster emotional and sexual intimacy, says Colorado psychologist David Schnarch, author of Resurrecting Sex, who runs a couples therapy practice with his wife. He explains: "A significant portion of our work in helping couples develop a deeper sexual connection is through erotic images."
Awwwwwwww Dedicated to little ole me Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! LOL I relate to some of the things mentioned in this article. Well hey at least I am not the only women who feels this way. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I don't think the porn is the issue here. He lied, hid it, and spent money on it (considering how much free stuff is out there...WHY?!) I have no issues with porn, but I would have huge issues with his distrustful lying behavior.
One thing I think some women will never understand is how insatiable guys are when it comes to sex. Us not getting the sex we need is like women not getting the attention and emotional support that they need. If women don't want their guys watching porn, then don't be stingy with the vagina or BJs. Degrading to women???? WHAT??? No one put a @#%#$% gun up to the porn starlets' heads and forced them to fuck on camera. Those women are getting paid bank for hittin' it; some can command several thousand dollars per romp. I'm sure the degrading part crosses those womens' minds daily. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Which means you are just as double standarded as the rest of those women; you expect us to cater to your needs 24/7 but we can only have sex when YOU are in the mood. Lovely. Fair enough. If you can get away with telling us you have a 'headache' then we reserve the right to say 'take it out yourself' when you ask us to take the trash out when we're watching a football game or sports center. Some men are too stupid to realize you can get porn for free. Every 'adult' video that resides on my hard drive was obtained gratis.
I hardly ever ask him to do anything around the house......When he gets home from work he is pretty much on FREE TIME...Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! If anything he gets catered to not me.
Cater to my needs 24/7 and only having sex when I'm in the mood?? I'm not that woman so don't assume you know me.
I label your statement of... as catering to the woman's needs. The man isn't exactly catering to his own needs when he has to force himself to have a bit more self control that we are actually capable of. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Shorty, my previous statement above was an example. It could be while he's playing games, or watching TV or any other hobby that he might have. I'm just asking for a little parity in relationships. If the girl doesn't want to have sex all the time, fair enough. But if that's the case, don't expect the guy to always want to cuddle or talk about shit that he has no desire to hear about.
So if a girl doesn't want to have sex with you, then you aren't going to listen to her? Does that work well for you?
Isn't it interesting that that's almost exactly what most other women say, yet men are always complaining about not getting enough sex. Someone is lying ....so ....would you think it's the women or the men? Why would a man complain about not getting enough sex when he was? And if a man was getting the sex he wanted, why would he watch so much porno? Nope, ...I have to assume that women are lying ...or worse, they just don't grasp the situation. Baron Max
Mike said: Which means you are just as double standarded as the rest of those women; you expect us to cater to your needs 24/7 but we can only have sex when YOU are in the mood. Lovely. This is not me. I don't think all men complain about their sex lives, just like all women don't expect their men to cater to them.
thing is...men go for porn because there are no women to satisfy their needs. Women should be happy that porn exists because without it men would have much stricter choices of women. Watching sexually explicit images to fill in the need of vacant lack of sexual excitement of the woman one is in. I mean no matter how hard she tries, it is impossible for her to make him fully sexually excited because of her...simply because many women are not endowed with the right symmetrical figures (and I am not talking large breasts...I mean everything...smooth skin...proper weight balance not too fat and not too skinny...shaved...symmetrical feminine face...ability to do foreplay and to play along) And when women lack this and they most usually do...men fill in the gap with sexual images for which they feel no love for but to excite themselves. I mean if a woman wants the hard truth of why men do it...it is simple: she is not sexual enough and never will be.
Oh really? And are many men PERFECT........perfect face... six pack....nice pecs....nice round butt..... So women should fill in the gap with sexual images of men?
women fill it by being social very closely with other women. Men have a very strong visual perception...small problem on her neck...small pimple distorts perception of sexual excitement Diva. plus...women dont just merry any men with six-packs...they want the money and status along with it as first priority.
Oh, Shorty, you know as well as anyone that men aren't subject to the same scrutiny as women are! Love, marriage and all that horseshit aside, nice looking, sexy women are like eye-magnets and fantasy-generators for men of all types, sizes, and ugliness! Women are supposed to be pretty, men are supposed to have a big dick! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Baron Max
