I just celebrated my second anniversary with my wife on the 8th and I thought I would write down some of my reflections on marriage... Well, the number one reason why marriages fail is stress. Specially after having a child. A child doesn't bring just financial stress. There is a lot more stress that comes from parenthood. For example, not being able to sleep for months is very stressful. A couple can get really irritable with each other when they don't have much sleep. Then, of course, there is financial stress. Diapers are the worse for that. Then food becomes a stressor too. And maybe the hardest thing about becoming a parent is that you spend all your time basically doing chores. There is simply no place for creativity and barely any place at all for fun. You end up waking up early in the morning, during chores the whole day long (including work) and then going to bed. Every day. Of course, any marriage that becomes that boring becomes difficult to maintain. If you don't REALLY love your partner, the marriage dissolves. Anyone who ever thinks that a child could save their marriage and become pregnant is simply digging a grave. A child can also complicate tremendously a divorce. In other words, having children is the greatest stressor in a marriage- and probably why so many fail. Of course, finances is also a big stressor, but that is often connected to having children. If a couple really loves each other, they are able to go through anything- including children. If they don't, then children could definetely destroy their marriage. Anyways... just my two cents. (PS: No, I don't mean children are ONLY a burden. In this thread, I'm focusing on what can cause a marriage to fail. Children greatly enrich the marriages of those who are truly "made for each other".)
This might be another cause. Not the marriage strike itself, but the reasons that are causing the marriage strike. http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=marriage strike An excerpt from one of the sites listed in the search results above: I believe the biased legal system is more at fault for failed marriages than children ever could be.
I don't think the "legal system" ever forces anyone to seek a divorce! So how could it be at fault? Baron Max
The only threat to marriage is divorce. Not gays that want to marry. How many of you uptight hand wringing conthervatives would back a ban on divorce?!Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Huh? I repeat, ....huh? Divorce, or the legal system, have nothing whatsoever to do with why a marriage fails! First the marriage begins to fail, ...THEN one or the other partners seeks legal advice. Not the other way around, for god's sake. Baron Max
Why didn't he say that? I mean, it's still bullshit, of course, but if he'd been a little more forthcoming in his explanation, I might have given it some more thought. But now that I have, it's still bullshit. Baron Max
I've read a report that the single most common life event that correlates with a contemporaneous divorce is having your house remodeled while you're living in it. Everybody I've talked to who tried to do that corroborates that statement. Buy the house you want. If you buy the wrong one and then try to rebuild it from inside, you may end up with the right house but no one to share it. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Not even close.Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! The system of divorce is the only real threat to marriage, not gays that also want to marry. The self righteous blowhards on the Right seem to covet their right to divorce!! Moral highground is not something they have ever held. Hypocritic sexists.
Lemme explain since you lack the insight to delve deeper. The legal system has gotten to the point where it is very very female bias; just like ALL those articles in the search results that I posted. Since the legal system is so biased towards women, it also had the good graces to allow the 'no fault' divorce, where women could just up and say 'oooh, I'm not happy', then file for divorce and get half his shit, and custody of children. Did you read any of the articles in that Google search result link? Probably not. Anyway, no fault divorces don't need any major reason for the woman to file for divorce. The man does not have to do anything wrong for this to happen. A woman could just up and change her mind (like women do), and the guy is toast. So what I'm getting at, is the no fault divorce is indirectly allowing women (and men to a point (women file for the majority of divorces...imagine that)) to take the easy way out and just file for divorce instead of trying to work things out. And don't even sit there and tell me that every woman that has filed for divorce always tries every conceivable angle to try to work out a marriage. If they did, then we wouldn't have this ongoing marriage strike. EXACTLY!! And the biased legal system encourages selfishness. "Why try to work out my marriage when I can just take the easy way out and file for a no fault divorce?"
Exactly why more people should NOT have kids, lol. I know I don't ever want them, I'm comfortable being stress free, unlike you baby carriers out there Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! :m:
congratulations on your aniversary!!! i have just celebrated my 15th, children can make marrage harder and so can working to many hours, so many factors make marrages fail, but i try not to focus on that, i believe that me and husband are made for each other, problems we've had them but we're still going strong!!
yes kids can be a stress (i know mine are) but i love them all the same, and the good times way out weigh the bad!!
