I can relate to gender disappointment. I didn't want a daughter and was disappointed when I had one. We had no more children after that because I didn't want to risk having 2 daughters. I think a lot of women and men can relate, but it is something people rarely admit to because it is seen as selfish. Why is it selfish to want a specific sexed child? :shrug:
I sometimes fathom wanting a son. Being a male, I like the idea of being a father to a son. If I were, however, with a guy who wanted children, I could also fathom having a daughter. But. . . I'm also quite addicted to my free time and ability to get up and do WHATEVER I want. That would be a big sacrifice for me to make, and one I'm loath to ever consider making. ~String
why? My brother and his wife have 5 sons. Their only daughter was stillborn. Would it be selfish for her to be disappointed that their youngest boy wasn't a girl? I think everyone wants a specific sexed child and just says "I just want a healthy child" because that's what is expected. I never said that.
NO. But that doesn't mean you have to be an imbecile about things and not accept it. If a human has a brain the human can and, sometimes, will have preferences.
I agree. Its not like my sister in law puts dresses on her youngest, but I do catch her looking longingly at my daughter.
I think that is a generalization about parents. Some parents really do not care they just want to be a parent. Its a 50/50 shot I'm not saying it makes you a bad parent to be disappointed, but it does seem just a bit selfish.
No, I don't think I would...however I have no intention of having children anytime in the near future so I don't know what the expectations are of a soon to be parent, nor do I judge them for being disappointment, just seems like if the kids in good health it should be a blessing, not a disappointment.
yeah, it seems that way til you have them. Especially when you have 5 boys. My daughter went to a daycare with a girl who had 10 older sisters and one younger brother. I think having babies til you get the sex you want is selfish. Those 11 girls knew they weren't the kid their parents wanted
What I don't understand is why people prefer one gender over another, is it really a big deal? Anyways, I'm going to keep trying until I get what I want - one that isn't a pain in the ass. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
No, but gender has a lot to do with personality. Compare your brothers to your sisters. Which one would you rather raise?
When I was younger and much younger I mean, I wanted boys and only boys . Now I see that there is no difference between having boys or girls . From life experiences things show themselves not always as we think . Now I will be happy with a girl or a boy as long as they are healthy mentally and physically .
Doesn't your daughter post here? I can't imagine a father telling his daughter he would have preferred a boy to her. :bugeye:
It was always a daughter for me From the first time I ever imagined myself having kids, I imagined a daughter. I have no idea what I would do if I had a son. That is: All my presuppositions about the challenges I would face as a parent were oriented toward having a daughter. I would be running even more blind by a son than I am now.