5 ways to decode your date

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  1. TruthSeeker Fancy Virtual Reality Monkey Valued Senior Member

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    5 ways to decode your date...


    5 ways to decode your date
    By Amy Spencer
    Go ahead, Google your date all you want. But the fact is, you can find out even more about that special someone by sharing a few particularly telling date-night activities with them. Certain activities, you see, bring out the best or worst in people—and contain hidden clues about how they’ll treat you. Suggest doing one of these things during your time together and you’ll have plenty of private info.

    Activity #1: Share a communal meal
    Instead of choosing standard dinner fare, take your date to a place that encourages — or better yet, requires — that you share what you order, whether that’s fondue, Korean barbecue, or Spanish tapas. Suddenly, the “I’ll order mine, you order yours” rule is out the window, so you’ll get the real scoop on how well they compromise. When you suggest something exotic, does your date seem open to it or make a face, then steer you toward something else on the menu? Once the food arrives, there’s more to learn. Those who get territorial about the dish “they” wanted or seem leery of infringing on “yours” or “your half” all suggest that the give-and-take that relationships require won’t come naturally to them, warns Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of the upcoming DSI: Date Scene Investigation. The true keepers are those who will voluntarily dump the last morsel on your plate and won’t mind if you’ve double-dipped. (After all, if they can’t handle swapping a little saliva over nachos and salsa, how are they ever going to handle more intimate moments involving the exchange of bodily fluids?)

    Activity #2: Play a game
    Want to know how your date plays the game of life? Pit yourself against your partner in pool, ping-pong, miniature golf, or stay home and have a battle of the Xbox. As you’re playing, ask yourself: Is your date playful or serious about scoring? Does this person curse when losing or gloat when winning? “There’s nothing wrong with wanting to win, but you’ll learn a lot if your date has to win,” points out Sharyn Wolf, Manhattan psychotherapist, and author of Guerilla Dating Tactics: Strategies, Tips and Secrets for Finding Romance. If your date’s got a serious competitive streak, you’d be fooling yourself to think it doesn’t carry over to other areas—like his or her love life. “These people will see arguments as win/lose propositions, too, and they won’t quit until they’ve won,” warns Kerner. If, however, your date cheers you on when you score a point, that’s a sign of a truly supportive partner, so take note.

    Activity #3: Put on your dancing shoes
    The next time you’re out, consider dragging your date on the dance floor—and fear not, this isn’t about having a dance-off. In fact, seeing your date do the boogie-woogie isn’t even about the dancing; it’s about their willingness to dance in the first place. “There’s nothing that makes a person more self-conscious than dancing—especially men,” says Wolf. “If your date dances, this shows the person’s good at surrendering, at not being in complete control in front of others, and that your date is less concerned about what others will think.” Which is all good information!

    Activity #4: Take a stroll
    Instead of sitting down for a movie or coffee, step outdoors for a walk through a park and see what happens. Can you two keep the conversation going away from music, alcohol and people watching? “It’s life without props,” points out Kerner. See how your date can handle lulls in conversation: The longer this person can wait before filling the silence, the more comfortable your date is with him or herself—and the lower the chance that what you’re seeing is a “front” put up to impress you.

    Activity #5: Go for a drive together
    The next time your date offers to drive you somewhere, pay attention to how they react on the road. “Driving is very, very revealing,” says body language expert Patti Wood (pattiwood.net). “Years ago, I was on a first date with a man who’d turn left at yellow lights, and take lots of risks on the road. That told me he was a person who would always live a little on the edge.” Other insights from Wood: Lane-changers will probably always be on the lookout for someone better-looking, smarter, or richer than you. Picky parkers who always want to go around one more time to see if they can snag a closer spot probably have problems with commitment. Herky-jerky drivers who accelerate and brake so quickly they leave your stomach queasy may have poor sense of pacing in all areas of life. Plus, if you’re driving, see how they handle it—nagging that you should slow down, speed up, or otherwise do things differently is a sign this person probably won’t love you just the way you are (starting with your bad driving).
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    This will probably be more useful to people who actually get dates?

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  3. Zardozi Isvara.... . 1S Evil_Lau Registered Senior Member

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    yes beacause getting dates and getting number is obviously two differennt things.

    Are you being an animal darksidZz?
     
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  5. Carcano Valued Senior Member

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    Thats a good point right there. I'm in my element without props and distractions.
     
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  7. spuriousmonkey Banned Banned

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    That's probably why they titled them '5 ways to decode your date'. Because you have one.
     
  8. Avatar smoking revolver Valued Senior Member

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    I prefer multi-day survival hikes. In the end only bones remain.
    And then you crack them open to see the darkness of space beyond.
     
  9. Baron Max Registered Senior Member

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    Who the hell wants a "date"? Just ask her if she wants to fuck, then if she says no, you've saved a lot of time and money; if she says yes, then ...you've saved a lot of time and money, AND you get to fuck her. What more could you possibly want?

    Baron Max
     
  10. Carcano Valued Senior Member

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    Max always gets straight to the point...regardless of context.

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  11. physik Registered Member

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    O,it is interesting!
     
  12. vslayer Registered Senior Member

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    max hits it right on the head. dating relationships take far too much effort to be worth it IMO, i try to keep intellectual and physical relationships separate, that way if one of them flunks im not out 2 'associates'. if i want to have a meaningful conversation with someone, i have my friends. if i want to have sex with someone, i can head off to the pub and try to pick up chicks or go visit my 'friend with benefits'
     
  13. Roman Banned Banned

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    Precisely.

    This is bad advice for those looking to hook up. Sure, if you're looking for someone to marry, this works. But if you're looking to bone... well, let's just say TruthSeeker isn't the guy to be passing out advice.
     
  14. Avatar smoking revolver Valued Senior Member

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    I can't imagine a physical only relationship. Besides I'm more interested in a stimulating discussions and physical activities (hiking, martial arts fighting, going to a concerts, gathering plant samples, etc.) other than sex.
    So for me it's important to check the person out, if I can rely on him/her and to what extent.
     

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