I am a bit confused about the way people behave when they are interested in someone.. i.e playing games.. Making themselves unavailable, pretending not to like the other person, avoiding them... has anyone mastered the art of sexual games and knows how to play them ? i need some advice so i can play them back.. and effectively detect them.
i think "sexual games" are largely stupid and pointless.. i mean, say someone really likes you, and you want to get their attention or something.. pardon my language, but exactly what the fuck is the point of pretending you don't like them? where's that going to get you, huh? why not just tell them how you feel, smart guy? quit being deceptive! that's how relationships fall apart, so starting everything off on a wholly deceptive note is just stupid.. there's no trust toward the "deceiver" from the person who was the innocent "victim" in the precursor to the relationship.... making oneself unavailable, on the other hand, hardly seems like a "game" to me.. it's more like saying, i don't like you so i'll find someone else.. i do not understand how this could be at all attractive.... when i know a girl's with someone else, i just don't even bother. yeah, so there's my two cents. p.s. welcome to sciforums! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
first of all I'm not the one playing these games... I just find people play them with me, i just think " what the hell are you doing?" That is why I'm a bit confused and would like to hear someone else's possible explaination or something.. not all guys i find play them, but there are definately some out there...
Act tortured.....mysterious.....tough......work out and get a good body.......Pretend you're indifferent to everything and then get a fucking clue and just act like a "non-asshole human being" and love someone. Games are fun in bed not when it comes to your life.
It's hard to say when you'r playing a game and when you'r yourself Well, there is one strange thing about playing games with others: sometimes I thought I was pretending while I was actually revealing the real me...I tend to be a set of characters, all of them true: sometimes I am shy, silent and stupid (born looser), the next day the centre(fold) of the stage, a play boy (born winner). It is nice to have more faces, to know them, and generaly give them the place to live. I can put on very easily the play boy act, but the shy guy overwhelms me frequently. It must be the Big Gift from god (this) shyness, without it I would be complete idiot...(some statistics: nice girls (in my past) came to the shy guy; while much-less-in-numbers-and-heavier-in-pounds-girls came to the play boy) So play shy!
Well, I think the point of playing games with people and not just coming out and admiting your feelings is all because of your mind. Some people I know (myself included) don't express their feelings because they are afraid of being in that vulnerable position where they can get their feelings hurt.
UD that was a good explaination.. i just think that some people " play hard to get".. it amuses me most when they try to do this to me and im not even interested!
heyya paths welcome to sciforums so if you are interested in a guy (assuming you are a girl) do you ask them out? or do you wait for them to make the first move? if you think you like someone and then let them know by doing something like making an attempt to spend time with them and they then act like they are not interested and start to play the games that you are refering to then move on! you say you dont like to play games so make sure you are not setting the standard by playing the girl waiting for the guy to make the first move game. honesty is a good thing so make sure you start off on the rite foot. society is slowly changing as women gain more and more self confidence to the point where they will be able to ask out guys and not care what the week pathetic ones think. why people play games like that... because they have issues about self confidence and ego centric self worth based in others opinions of what they are told is considered normal and desirable in the image of others self worth issues. its just a form of intellectual and personality retardation. AND arrogance is not a sign of strength as most people seem to think. good luck groove on Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I dont know if the games you were refering to at the beginning are so much sexual games as dating games....sex games can be a lot of fun once you're in a relationship and that....but dating games are indeed stupid. Refuse to play them and others will stop too. Make a move, then if they seem uninterested (whether they really are, or whether they're playing hard to get) then just back off and forget them.....they will quickely see that you're not playing, and if they were playing then most times they will make a move on you and start being straight with you....if they really were uninterested then it wont matter and they'll be grateful that they dont have to turn you down rudely. Its been my experience that if you're straight with people then they will be the same way with you....now if only we could get all those silly people who believe what they see on tv to stop being stupid!
Yeah I agree with you God is Irrelevant! It sounds to me like maybe this person didn't have the intention of continuing it! One of my Noregian penpals got treated like this and then dumped, after she had put her trust into him. People who have had past relationships usually take things out on the next person. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! Sounds like you had a lucky escape! I agree with the consensus of the thread: playing games so early on is stupid. It is no way to build trust. Maybe this is not the intention of these kinds of people though: maybe they just want to enjoy themselves for a bit.
These kinds of games are generally restricted to the young. Once people become comfortable with themselves and know what they want, they don't go in for the silly games as much.
Frankly... you're all wrong. Just dead wrong... heh. The games, are for one simple reason: To make the person 'playing' them more of a challenge. The inherent principle working in the subconscious of every man and woman on this planet is simple: if it's harder to get, it must be more valuable. Ferrari's aren't, relative to what an outsider of earth would think, all that different or distinguished from plenty of other cars. They're valued more largely because of the simple fact that they're rare, and that translates into them being much harder to get, which translates into them being much more valuable. This isn't a very detailed explanation, I was going for the cut and dry so I don't write a book. By pretending not to like someone, or at least being deceptive about your interest level, you keep 'the ball in your park' and maintain their interest level by being a challenge. I'm thankful that most people don't understand this simple principle because it sure as hell helps alot with my relationships - so I don't mind sharing the 'secret' with you guys Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
heheh distortion, that was a great explaination too... sometimes i think it would be good to be a good player.. but usually i just give in and give it away that i like the person :/
Distortion is that why women like gay men soo much Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! and monks Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! i gues most are still in the caveperson mentality good luck to them paths a player chooses to manipulate people to gain selfish lust desires are you saying you dont want to have a relationship with a guy that doesnt sleep around? if ya get my point good on ya for being real its the only path to love ps thier dating games not sexual games and they are the way that women wish to be dominated by men or try to dominate them it helps to sort out the most arrogant and emotionaly void so the lowest evolved male chases the female makes me LMAO reinforces obsesive behaviour and emotional ignorance mixed with arrogance i find it very retarded and INCREDIBLY FUNNY it indicates a large degree of sexual disfunction and emotional insecurity gives good emtertainment in bars and clubs for the odd occasions when your just soo tired or drunk and you dont want to dance for a while groove on Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Good post but please stop it with the "groove on" thing. last time i heard it is the 20th century not the 80's ewwww 80'ssss
That just sounds like the sensible thing to do Paths! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! I envy you! Good explanation Distortion! Well put, I like it. I was recently thinking how it can be used as an excuse to abuse people though; like America did to black people so they could have equality. I saw this film a while ago with Denzil Washington and Mathew Brodrick (or whatever his name is) in it, and there was a black slave getting whipped. Black people must have taken years of that just for equality. Sometimes the reasoning you described so well distortion, also leads to the thinking that it will be sweeter once the sour has been tasted, but this again is just an excuse to allow people to abuse others, as with the example I described.
<i>"i need some advice so i can play them back.. and effectively detect them."</i> Mental foreplay. The games fullfill an emotional need. Physical contact, well...that aint sex. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
Lucysnow quote I don't know why it works this way but its fucking exhausting --- my personal current anaylesis is that it resides in the form of social acceptance cross fostered by ego self image and disfunctional teaching/parents/peers/magazines/t.v programs/movies/books people will most often choose a partner that has been certified by one of thier peer group regardless of the true merits of character or personality ther is a huge amount of guys who feel threatened by women making the first move the number far outweighs that who have true self confidence and are not biggoted remember the wide spread belife by both sexs is that a women who is sexual self confident is labeled as a slut by most people and since most men seek to pretend they have true power by exerting it over thier girlfriend or wife they fear the self confident women and try and make her out to be anti social and un desirable this also works in a reverse manner innitiated by the female personaly i find such people very boring and predictable and could list the upcoming issues about to be played out in the relationship like a thearte script which instanly discredits at least half the population current popular women like madona and christina aguilera (sorry for spelling) are attempting to teach the women how to be more real and not be oppressed by the male / and female shovenistic mental problems cycled through to paranting and consequently the prostitution of self esteem at a a pre school age for boys and girls look how many just label them as sluts why do they label them as sluts because they have disfunctional issues about nudity and sex and seek to normalise thier inner voice screaming out how it desires to be as free and untainted in expresion there are other women who also share thier insight maybe arita fraklin might be a well knowen song R-E-S-P-E-C-T ther are some guys who sing about it aswell but ill keep it as short as possible there are quite a few singing about important stuff but not many know how to listen OR are too afraid to Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image! the pre occupation with what they are wearing when the message is in part what they are wearing is absolutely hilariouse to me ohhh look at what they are wearing no thought to listen to the lyrics no ability to comprhend technical ability of melody or rhythem just speaking from the greatest disfunction sexual! and so the message is addressed by such artists good on ya gals and guys make those shovenistic men and women shake in thier repressive intellectualy retarded sexualy disfunctional fetish fantasising wanna wear leather boots funny how nature can show us the way to a better thing it just takes some people years to be ready for the truth and others several life times (expresion) its like watching a forrest grow while all the religouse fanatics run around cutting off branches to build a bigger fire to chase thier fear of the darkness away and pretend they have actualy achived something and then screaming at others saying my fire is the best and the biggest as the forest suffers more and more around them if there was no sex before marriage there would be no humans or any other animals on this planet if sex was such a dominating evil thing then there would be no humans or other animals left on the planet if you believe in god then why do you think there is sex before marriage because people need it to learn and advance just like an aprenticeship the cross relation of certain working examples seems to be lost on most im off rite now to bang my head on a post or have a peice of ignorant toast to reduce my anguish at your arrogant boast ignorance is bliss if you follow like most why not look for the lessen and help life to coast Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
