just out of curiosity, is there somethin wrong with someone who hasnt had sex ever? i mean all the girls i have been with have left me for the reason that sex was never involved. its not that i dont want to have it, its just that i dont know what to actually do performance wise when it comes to actually bein in bed. what in the nine hells am i doin wrong? Mario
You're putting too much pressure on yourself, trial and error or trial and no errors is the best teacher, don't be afraid to tell your partner that this is your first and I think you will find that person will be glad to show you the ropes.
If you're 16, no. If you're 80, yes. And don't do something you're not comfortable with. You'll do it eventually in your own good time with the right person.
Have you done anything sexual? Sex is like swimming; it's wet, it's dirty, in some conditions you can't live without it, and the best way to learn is to dive in.
Mario, even the lamest person on earth knows how to have sex, it doesn't take a genius. Anyway, I don't think that is the reason that they won't have sex with you. Maybe you are just to good for them and they know it. Maybe they are whorish. Find yourself a nice girl and wait to you are comfortable enough with her to make a mutual decision. I agree with Jerrek and Pacingyourname on this one.
Heh, in what conditions can you not live without sex? I know in Psychology, my teacher introduced me to Maslow's Heirarchy.. or something or other and that said that people need sex to live. Can you explain this to me. (I don't want to hear that without sex, you'll eventually get so horny that you'll spontaneously combust) Although that would explain a lot.
There's nothing wrong with someone that hasn't had sex before. Here's my advice to you. You're.. what? 21? Go to the video store and rent a few porn movies. Seriously. There's nothing to be ashamed of. Take notes. But make sure that when you're actually doing it, you're not doing it like a pornstar. Hehe, unless you really hate the person you're doing it with. Do it your way. The tapes should serve mainly as something to perhaps fall back on. A confidence booster. So that's what I got. Good luck. Go get 'em. I mean, 'er. Furry
SuperMario: No, it's actually rather kinky. You might find this interesting: http://www.bitchmagazine.com/archives/12_00deviant/deviant.htm You....don't know what to do? Oh dear. It really ought to come naturally. Andrewpadew suggested porn, but then, one never really needs an excuse to watch porn. Find a woman who's willing to show you whatever literal or figurative ropes are involved, and accept the fact that you'll fuck up. Pacingyourname: *Yawns* You're a pathetic exuse for a man.
I agree with Xev ask a woman (preferrably older) who will show you how to please her. All women are different so you will have to learn each one individually. I disagree with Fredx if I understand his meaning. Not everyone knows how to function in bed...put the piece in the hole maybe but that does not relate to good sex. But I do agree with him that you should find a girl who is more interested in you than the sex and is willing to talk about your...reluctance. Don't turn to porn you will learn nothing but how to masturbate well. Turn to your own imagination. Sex...good sex...begins with the mind. Turn that on to the sensual and erotic and you may find yourself feeling more...well..sexy. Maybe you could do something other than sex with your girlfriends like giving them a long, sensuous full body massage...then you may find yourself exploring in ways you never knew possible (smile). Use your imagination if not your tool.
You are 20 years old and unmarried and there is nothing wrong with you, actually everything is right with you if your head is straight and you have not involved yourself in meanigless sex yet. They left you because of sex, then they definetly didn't love you enough, and they are equal to whores that you can pay on the street to entertain you....You don't need girls like that, your one and only is awaiting you, so stay her one and only. Sex is a learned art, but it's not a one case fit all. Meaning, a guy that knows how to please one girl, might repulse another. All you need to be is a good sexual partner for your one and only, practicing with the whores of the town will not make you any better in your partner eye, actually, it will hurt you from ever feeling the true value of monogomous sex based on love.
They can doo that ?! They deleted mine too but i dont care cause it just makes Xevs reply too something thats not there funny. LOL!
Are you constantly late to every appointment because of your chicken-choking antics? Do you spill your trouser custard everytime a 'hot chick' passes by? Do you consistently miss your bus stop because you "can't stand up" for "some" reason? NOW IS THE TIME!!! If you don't do something soon you'll probably explode. Seriously though, if you want to delay losing your cherry, then go get a porn addiction. I lost my virginity to a really nice girl who cared a lot for me (I'd been with her for six months or so). I knew that she'd had a number of partners before meeting me, and I changed the subject everytime she asked me about my sexual history - just so that she didn't find out that I was a virgin. Of course, she knew that I was, but that didn't bother her at all. The first time we had sex (during a playful fumble in my bedroom) was a bit of a non-event. That didn't bother her either. She only told 57 people that I was a terrible lay. Joking of course - it was more like 94! Seriously though, if the girl is nice and cares a lot for you, then there's nothing to worry about. It should be fun and intimate too - not a competition about "performance". It's a natural act, just like taking a dump - but a bit more romantic!
