my Fiance and i are building a new home. it is quite large - 3000 sq ft. plus an additional 1000 when we finish the basement. the situation begins when we show our friends' the home. now this is supposed to be something you are very proud of and a sense of accoplishment. however, our friends, some of them, appear to have no interest or seem envious or jealous. this bothers the both of us because we are in no way trying to outdo anyone. our reasoning for the house is because one room is an office and the others will be for when we have children. we, especially i, hate moving and want to do this once and only once. we see people start off with "starter homes" and end up running out of room. question, are we good planners, cynical or showoffs?
If they are truly friends they would share your enthusiasm, sounds like you found a way to weed out those that arent really your friends. I would say you're good planners.
Probably all of the above! Having bought a house that was always going to be unsuitable at some point(nowPlease Register or Log in to view the hidden image!), I now regret not waiting & planning 5+ years ahead rather than 1 or 2. If your proud of an achievment, you have to show it off Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!, I'd say they're feeling sorry for themselves.
dribbler, Wow, sounds like you are in the exact situation my fiancée and I are in. We're also building a new house, although it is a meager 2245 square feet, and including three rooms for the children anticipated over the next few years or so. I would definitely say you're good planners. I don't see any cynicism in your actions in this regard; in fact, I see quite the opposite. As for showing off, that depends on whether you are doing this to impress or because it is just something you want for yourselves. Best of luck! Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
people have a hard time dealing with change, don't get discouraged, they will see beyond their personal feelings and they will be happy for you.
