Can't love just be an addiction to your partners' body and whatever they emit in the way of mental stimulus... I don't know... their pheramones? I am in a state of feeling slightly 'chemically dependent' on my partner. Could I just be overly addicted and need to cut back? Any thoughts?
Re: what? No but for all practical purpose that is what you said. I was merely paraphrasing it. I think you also developed a "chemical depedency" from breathing air. You should cut back a little.
okay let me rephrase: my 'dealer' is not providing me with enough. what to do? also, he wants to corner my market for my habit. and I do not presently know any other dealers. hmmmm
Re: okay I am not sure exactly what you mean. Maybe tell him to try one of those kit that increase one to three inches? Maybe ask him if you two should join a swing club or something. My signature says it all....
I think you should find other things to do with your time. I mean... other then... menPlease Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
rolf no, that's the thing; I can't loose myself in other activities when my person is not being attentative to me. it's like he's walking around with my attention span and won't give it back.
Prehaps you should think a moment, Susan. You do divide your attention span all the time. The world is too complex not to. Everyday you do this as you chose to do this or that and ignore or put into the background something else, like maybe the tv playing or the radio. It is not good to dote on one individual to the exclusion of all else, nor is it mentally healthy. You should think on this...
yes I have thought. It seems that with people who I spend time with I generally have some sort of art project or something to work on with them; otherwise I would not bother to hang out with them so much. My "one" and I do not have any sort of creative project. I think this void in our relationship (not a void for everyone, but for me) makes me unsettled and feel unproductive, useless.
When You are Old (W.B.Yeats) WHEN you are old and gray and full of sleep And nodding by the fire, take down this book, And slowly read, and dream of the soft look Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep; How many loved your moments of glad grace, And loved your beauty with love false or true; But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you, And loved the sorrows of your changing face. And bending down beside the glowing bars, Murmur, a little sadly, how love fled And paced upon the mountains overhead, And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.
Let's not use this word "Obsession" in a derogatory form. A true 'obsession' are horrible thoughts that a person cannot control and are unwanted. These thoughts go against the persons moral beliefs as a rule and are resisted thus creating anxiety. It is a problem in the brain where the thought gets 'locked' in place. Susan may have an 'attachment' to her guy, and will probebly grow out of it in time. A person who has 'obsessions' does not mean they are unhealthy unbalanced people. Sorry to get on a bandwagon here, but I think theres a wee bit of 'mentalism' going on in some threads. Except for the lovely Aussi guy, Adam of course. Please Register or Log in to view the hidden image!
I totally agree with you. Who ever said I labeled Susan as obsessed? I just stated what I think about true love. Besides, obsession is indeed an extremity. I don't agree in placing individuals in boxes especially if you don't personally know them and have spent long periods of time with them in order to fully grasp their personality. My apologies if my message didn't come across that well.
susan, There is no addiction with Love, cause it comes from within yourself, you are the source. However, if you want more from your partner, than it is possible that you might have an addiction (but it has nothing to do with love, it's just attachment). Be carefull with attachment. You can easily lose your peace with it... and if you are attached, you will eventually lose your partner with it too...
yeah thanks everyone. i have decided that if my person doesn't become more emotionally avaliable I will start seeing someone else. not as a threat. I just need more attention and to not be taken for granted. but perhaps the appearance of my 'new date' will unintentionally vulcanize my current partner into being more attentative and committed to me. what do you think? what is the best way to break the news? I am genuinely interested in seeing someone else; it is definitely NOT a ultimatim or anything; but I know I only want that because my current isn't devoted enough for me.
Don't be with someone unless you don't care being alone. Don't be with someone because you want attention, but I strongly suggest you to be with someone if you just want to share your life. First you must seek yourself, then you may seek others. If you become dependent in someone else, it will be pretty hard to get out later...
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