Why do some old people behave so invasively?

Discussion in 'Free Thoughts' started by visceral_instinct, Oct 21, 2008.

  1. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    It seems their thinking is, if you are young you must have no concept of boundaries, so it is ok to invade them.

    I got a lecture in the supermarket from an old woman about how someone as delicately built as me should not be lifting heavy things, because I'd hurt myself.

    (Which is about the worst thing you can say to me, including the various comments from Kadark, Lou et al about my alleged androgen level/enlarged clitoris/insert crap here.)

    I calmly explained to her that I regularly bench about 3x the weight of that box(which was actually pretty light, at least by the standards of someone who doesn't have nemaline myopathy), so I seriously doubt I'm going to hurt myself. This stupid piece of faeces would not lay off.

    Why do they feel they have that right? Can I go up to an old person and lecture them about what they should and shouldn't be doing?

    I think I'm gonna start responding by recommending them numbers of associations like Dignitas...
     
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  3. CutsieMarie89 Zen Registered Senior Member

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    She was just obnoxious, but thought she was being helpful. I just smile and nod, they walk away thinking they've improved my life and I just get on with my day everybody wins. It's the same way I treat evangelical Christians who think that they are going to alter my life by teaching me about Jesus. I used to be honest with them, but it wasn't worth the half hour conversations and witnessing they induced. So now I just avoid the truth.
     
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  5. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    I wish I had your patience. I hate when people act like that. I just wanna grab them behind the head and make some lovely red Rorschach patterns on the wall.
     
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  7. Orleander OH JOY!!!! Valued Senior Member

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    I wouldn't have done that. I might have asked if you needed help lifting it. Would that be invasive?
     
  8. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    Asking if someone needs help is not invasive. Insisting that someone is too frail to lift heavy stuff when they just told you they regularly do, is invasive.
     
  9. CutsieMarie89 Zen Registered Senior Member

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    You can do it. It's that same hazed over look you get when someone is talking about something you don't really care about or you're being yelled at for something stupid. They think you're listening, but you're really thinking about what you're going to eat for dinner. You know...
     
  10. CheskiChips Banned Banned

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    I think she was calling you a lady. You should feel complimented to be a pretty enough girl to be called a lady, even if you don't act like it. (I don't know if you do or not..but she couldn't tell)
     
  11. spidergoat pubic diorama Valued Senior Member

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    Old people think they can tell everyone how to do things just because they lived a long time. You should tell that old bag to shut her pie-hole.
     
  12. Asguard Kiss my dark side Valued Senior Member

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    visceral_instinct

    that would depend i guess on wether she was an employee or owner of the store. If you both worked there then under australian OH&S legislation she has a duty to keep you safe from injury (as you do to her). If she is an employee and your not she has a duty to make sure that the store doesnt incure a public liability suit

    If she is not an employee she is just a busy body

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  13. spidergoat pubic diorama Valued Senior Member

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    You should have asked her to lift it, since she looks like a fat cow.
     
  14. cosmictraveler Be kind to yourself always. Valued Senior Member

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    Since I'm an old fart,:itold: I do not ever bother others UNLESS I think they might need help or whatever. Just the other day I told a young man of about 4o about the problems of a 1099 form since he brought it up in a conversation right next to me. He didn't realize the implications he would have by having that where he worked instead of a regular form.
     
  15. StrangerInAStrangeLand SubQuantum Mechanic Valued Senior Member

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    The exact same thing & similiar things happen to me with people of all ages. People are stupid, arrogant, bossy, disrespectful & conceited regardless of age.
     
  16. lucifers angel same shit, differant day!! Registered Senior Member

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    because old people think because they have lived longer, they automatically know better, (even the stupid ones),

    i was once walking along pushing my daughter in her stroller, and this old lady came up to me and said, dont you think that child should have some shoes on? not when they kick them of because they're feet are to hot.

    also there was this time when my son was about 6 months old, and the only way anyone could carry him was under they're arms like a sack of potatoes, if was carried in any other way he would scream the place down, and this old lady said, you should carry him properly, and when i tried to tell that if i did he would cry she started shouting at ne, so i just walked of.

    but the worse time was when i was in a supermarket with my son and he asked for a kiss and a hug, so i gave him the kiss and hug and this old man walked up to me and said "your a peodophile" i just started telling that he had to mind his own f***ing business and walked of
     
  17. Spud Emperor solanaceous common tater Registered Senior Member

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    V.I, if it was me, I probably would have said..*in creaky geriatric voice* " Good to see you're bending your knees girly..Oh, they aren't bent."
     
  18. Spud Emperor solanaceous common tater Registered Senior Member

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    I can't wait till I'm old..I always have to bite my tongue when I really want to say " that's it feed your kids some more coke and donuts, they'll be as fat as you in about two years, look at the pudgy lard-arsed bovines already"

    I'll be gnarled and bandy legged with a knotted cane, swatting at errant youth and giving everyone an earful. I'm so looking forward to it.
     
  19. Enmos Valued Senior Member

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    Are you old ?
     
  20. Enmos Valued Senior Member

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    I agree.
     
  21. CarpetDiem Burnin' hours, season days Registered Senior Member

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    Nah, older people have just been used to being pissed off more over their over disciplined lives and so they set about simply balancing the annoyance ledger. A simple rebuke such as "Go on, take your teeth out and repeat exactly what you just said" is enough to set them on their way, usually mumbling barely audible obscenities

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  22. GeoffP Caput gerat lupinum Valued Senior Member

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    Calm down, VI. People with your delicate physiology shouldn't be stressing out about old busybodies. We wouldn't wish you to have a hysterical attack, now.
     
  23. visceral_instinct Monkey see, monkey denigrate Valued Senior Member

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    There's a difference between calling someone a lady and calling them an insufficient runt who needs help going about their own fucking life.

    She shouldn't automatically assume that a thin girl is a weakling and must need help.

    If she'd known me more than 30 seconds she'd know the worst thing you can call me is weak or fragile. I would rather be thought of as a child abuser than fragile. (Note, I said 'thought of'. I don't mean I'd rather actually BE one. O.O)
     

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