Why can't men ask women out?

I want to ask the men of the board, Why can't men bring themselves to ask a woman out on a date?

after being here for a while it seems to me that certain males here cannot ask women out? why not? are men so poor at communication that they worry about everything? or is it because they are actually (disreagrding males bravardo) they are scared of rejection?

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i was one of the lucky ones when i met my BF we got along greatly and it was him that asked me out, (i was going to do it, but he beat me to it)

 

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I always try but they usually have their hearing aids turned off!

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lol !

 

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Personally I like my brothers approach to asking women out. You throw them into your truck and invite them to a gun show the following morning...so romantic!

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:huh: nope, doesn't sound like a stalker at all. Maybe a control freak though. Just a bit maybe????

 

what's wrong with that? Sometimes a woman just wants sex.
As long as the they are up front about it, I have no problem with the either just wanting sex. That way no one wastes their time pretending and then getting pissed when it doesn't work out the way they want.

 

This is not true, actually. Most women don't have guys hitting on them all the time. My friends who are drop dead gorgeous and single, never have guys hitting on them. Most of them have to approach the guy first, not the other way around. I think men have a common misconception that women have a line of guys behind them and they can have their pick of men. It's simply not the case, and it's harder for a woman to get a date than you would like to think.

Rejection is a hard part of relationships, but it's a hard part of life too.

 

Let me get back with you on that, as there is an article that explains it pretty well (more or less personality traits of a Capricorn, most of which are spot on for me), but the work firewall blocks it. I'll post up the link as soon as I can get to an unblocked PC.

I wouldn't say I'm a control freak* but I'll admit that I do have some control issues*.

But the reason I made that statement is that I'm just sick of the way women go about shit like that. I just can't fucking stand flakiness. It's rude, it's immature, and for all you women who seem to like talking and communicating so much, it's a bit of a paradox.
Seriously, what's the big fuckin deal if you don't want to talk to someone, or if you're not interested, to just tell them so they'll have closure or what not.

*now for the control issues. I'm not a control freak per se. My definition of a control freak is someone who wants to boss someone around and control them.
I'm not controlling in that sense.
Now, I will say that I'm fairly independent minded. I'm also pretty set in my ways now and really don't want to change most of them.
So while I don't control people, I damn sure don't like them trying to bark orders at or control me.

I'm not so much:
You are going to do this whether you like it or not.

Than I am this:
This is the way it is. If you don't like it, there's the door and I'll go find someone who will.

Really? I would have never thought that. All but one hot girl that works here at Verizon that I would date are taken. I don't know if it's because this is the South and women tend to be married with children by the time they're 22.

You konw the reason why your hot friends never have guys approach them?
Because they are afraid of being rejected.
There was a statistic out there that stated men have an 85-90% chance of being shot down when they ask a girl out. The odds are about the same for getting a second date should you be lucky enough to score a first one.
Those are some pretty freakin discouraging odds if you ask me.

This I agree with. But I was more or less talking about a woman's ability to just get laid....which even the marginally reasonable to look at women have.

 

What I do is, I don't go through of pain of having to ask or not

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Control your hormones guys! (if you can)

 

rejection, usually indirect. lack of interest in their eyes.

 

Every date I ever went on was initiated by the man. I never asked a guy out for a date.
I thought it was pretty common that men usually ask the woman out. :shrug:

 

Could another reason be that a lot of these gorgeous women are just complete bitches? and a lot of the drop dead gorgeous guys are pricks? Some ppl think they can treat ppl however they want because they are better then them and there will always be some idiot who is willing to put up with their shit because they are hot. Or the hot ppl just stick together, if they are so hot they want someone just as hot. That is pretty much how things are when I went to school. It is pretty much how I saw it when I was single again later on in life and was once again back in the dating scene. The one thing I did find a bit different later on in life is how much interest comes from what a person has. I saw a hell of a lot of goldiggers out there,
I heard about them from some of the dates I went on too. I was weary myself with the whole young guy cougar thing myself. I was asked out by younger guys almost ALL the time. I also wonder how many of those are looking for a Sugar Momma.

 

I've found the gorgeous women I've met are very, very , high maintenance. They expect a expensive night out for the most part and will cost anywhere between 300.00 to 500.00 a night. They eat the best foods, drink the finest wines and are always wanting to buy stuff they see. I've been there and done that and can't find anyone that is any different as yet. Perhaps before I die I will find a down to earth gorgeous women that will just be happy with a normal time out not out for a spending spree! :shrug:

 

Na, you asked me out.

I've never asked someone out unless I was pretty sure they liked me. I probably could have gotten more action if I was more aggressive, but considering the amount of bitches and STDs out there, I have no regrets.

I think there is a multitude of ways to figure out if the other person is interested before you make a pass at them or whatever. It saves everyone a lot of embarrassment.

I have either been pursued myself, or made sure my prey was properly ensnared before making a move. Honestly, I guess I am timid in this kind of thing. But I am picky (now I am at least, looking back I did make some stupid moves lol).

 

We are afraid of acceptance as much as rejection. After all, that can lead to commitment.

 

I'm afraid of asking women out because I'm just plain not attracted to them. Dates lead to romance... romance leads to hetero-sex.

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I agree that most women actually don't have guys asking them out all the time.

I for one tend to have to act all 'bitch in heat' before I will be seen as girlfriend material.

 

I still get asked out. My husband says I'm flirting impaired. I don't know when I do it and I don't know when guys are doing it. I just think I'm being nice and so are they.