To all those with kids, what age would you let them start going out on a date? Does it make a difference if they are male or female?
my first child is still in the womb, cooking in the oven. i havent ever thought about this before, i guess whenever they wanted to, if they understand what a date is and they want to go i cant see why not, aslong as they are packing some heat i have no objections. peace.
I don´t think age makes a difference, it seems to be more about the maturity of the person. Anyway, I don´t think this can be prohibited, it seems like parental dictatorship. If you prohibit things to your kids, they are going to be more willing to do those things, even more if they are mad at their parents. If the adolecent wants to go on dates, and you don´t let them, then they are going to do so behind your back for sure. It just doesn´t work. The best thing a parent can do is to give a good sexual education to the child, in order for him/her to see the value of giving your body and soul to someone else. Parents should talk to their kids openly about this, the spirituality involved, and most importantly, the evident risks. About 50-60% of the USA adult population is infected by Herpes virus, that is a good start for the conversation. Be your kids friend and advisor, not the dictator, it just doesn´t work, is old news.
i agree totaly with what wisdom seeker said, the kids will do it regardless of what you say, and telling them not to do something makes them want to do it more. its like "do no touch wet paint" signs you just have to touch the wet paint, who can resist that? reverse psyc might be good on children. peace.
Personally, I would explain to my kids about the sexual energy within us, it is a fact, so why keep them in the dark about it? Life energy is only natural, and hormones go crazy during adolecence. If the parents tell the kids that they shouldn´t have sex, then the kids WILL be confused about their body telling them one thing, and their parents another thing. Sometimes this will create a trauma, cause some kids think they are evil for having this impulses, and starts repressing them, causing only mental problems. You should talk honestly about sexual urges and the ability of be aware of this, not to supress the feelings, but to accept them as they are. At the same time, talk to them about wise sexual behaviour.
agreed i have a daughter who is 13 and she wants to go out on a date with her BF but i said no, because he was 16 and to be quite honest i dont trust the creep. but i have 2 boys one is 7yrs and the otehr is 15 and the 15yr old has been out on a date and everything went ok, (i hope)
I think its good to be your kids "friend" but they need boundries. I agree with you that they will go behind your back, if you lay down the law and they really want to do it anyway. I also agree it should not solely be based on age but maturity as well. I know age is just a number or so I hear enough, but I think that they have to be a certain age to have reached the maturity level to start dating. I have an 11 yr old boy and I would not even consider the idea......but my neighbours daughter now 12 or 13 was seen necking on the driveway for everyone to see.
lol i bet if the sign said "wet paint you have to touch it" we would be like "fuck you im not getting paint on me asshole". peace.
boys: 12 years girls: 12 years It really depends. If I know the guy and I raised my kids well, then 12 years is just fine. I would be specially sensitive to my daughters.
I originally wanted to say something like Absane, but realisticly, 15 y/o for both (unchaperoned). If they are anything like I was at 16, then they need to have a bit more leeway to make their own decisions. At 15, I still need to stick around to make sure they have their heads screwed on correctly before allowing them to "go live"
