Hey.. I have almost ruined the relationship (not lovers) I had with this girl by being a pervert to her without really knowing I was offending her. Now I apologised the world to her, I gave her time, spoken to her again about it and I come to hear from her mouth that she still doesn't trust me as fully as she used to (when she really liked me as a nice guy; now she thinks I'm a jerk). She doesn't trust me as much because when I did what I did, it just came out of the blue and she's scared I'll "unexpectedly surprise" her again. Sigh..our trust hasn't recovered fully yet. How do you gain trust in a person?... I need to heal the wounds.. Treval
There are many kinds of trust but we hardly need to disambiguate your meaning. What you seek is the willing acceptance of one's power to affect another. This is a sociological and psychological dillema. If you leave her you will be unhappy and if you stay with her you will be unhappy. Time may change the situation as it does most things but only if you have enough patience. Trust. Benevolence and honesty are the key words here. Even if it leads to disastrous consequences, it's probably better to be straightforward with your girlfriend. Treat her with respect rather than lying to mask your true self if you want a longterm relationship. It might only delay her dumping you like a used tissue paper but she might hate you less for it.
